To not let 4 year old go to trampolining party?

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My 4 year old (with hyper mobility) has been invited to a trampolining birthday party. He's never been to one before because I've read it's not safe for under 6s. I've also got a few doctor/nurse friends who said they would never in a million years allow their children to use them.
I wouldn't be able to go on the trampolines with DC, as I will have recently given birth.
Am I being over cautious in missing the party? Also not sure if I should be honest with the mum (a good friend) or say we already have plans.

I guess what I'm saying is is that the odd broken bone here and there isn't that much of a big deal as opposed to encouraging active pursuits that will help your child manage HMS throughout his entire life.

Thing is, it’s one thing building up core and other muscle strength over time, under the supervision of someone qualified, and with consideration taken to the needs of your body. That absolutely would be beneficial long term.

It’s another thing entirely randomly stressing an unprepared body which is already not as strong as it could be.

I'm a former A&E nurse. Wise choice. Little bodies going airborne = broken bones, head injuries, etc. Some parents seem completely oblivious to this.

Fortunately they weren't "a thing" when my two were little, but if they had been no way would I have allowed it.

As a hypermobile adult I think you are quite right not to allow this, apart from the risk of injury, he would probably find more difficult and tiring than the others the others which he might find upsetting.

Had no idea! My dd has hyper mobility and has loved it since she first went aged four. Doesn't go often because it's quite expensive and her brother is too young to join in.

I just want to point out again, I will have a newborn, I.e. I will have only given birth 2-3 weeks earlier. Getting up on the trampolines to supervise him is not an option.

I’m hyper mobile and so are all four of my kids, we all love trampolining. They’ve all been sporty but my youngest had to give up contact sport owing to reoccurring injuries. But would never have stopped them enjoying themselves.
Injuries can happen in anything, case in point friends son fell off a very low kiddies chair onto grass and broke an arm. Kids need to enjoy life.

I would want someone to go with him as I never left my children at parties till they were about 6.

I think the explanation that the doctor has recommended that your child avoids trampolines due to hypermobility is more than acceptable. I love trampoline parks but they don't suit everyone. I know a parent who has said no trampolines or bouncy castles due to their child's mobility issue.

I wouldn't, I took my 6 and 7 year old last year and my eldest broke her arm! It was the first week of the summer holidays and the hospital said she wasn't the first to come in that week after being hurt trampolining.

Mu DD hit her nose at a trampoline park and there was blood everywhere...no medic on site.

Young staff did their best, but I'm surprised these things are still operating!

I would politely decline on account of risks for hyper mobile kids. One child on one trampoline is good exercise. Lots of over excited kids bashing into each other - not so much.

Just be honest and say: due to an underlying health condition he is unable to attend but thank you for the invitation and would birthday child like to come for tea at yours.

Job done.

I'm worried it will hurt her feelings if I'm honest, and it's almost like criticising the appropriateness of her choice of party for 4 year olds.

But you're not. Your child has hyper mobility. Of course it's not safe for them to go trampolining!

Let them go unless your Doctor says it’s seriously dangerous. One way kids learn not to be overactive is by hurting themselves - very low risk something very seriously bad would happen. I have to fight the impulse to keep my kids safe or I wouldn’t let them do anything.

Mrspenfold123 Hypermobility and hyperactive are completely different conditions. In hypermobility the joints are looser, more prone to injury and injuries can take months rather than days or weeks to recover. Two of mine I would probably let on a trampoline as long as they were careful. The other one would either dislocate, sprain or subluxate a joint just looking at a trampoline. She is not wrapped in cotton wool, she swims, does cross country, climbs, rides a bike but not worth months on crutches/ hand in splints just for an hour or two on a trampoline. Took six months to recover the last time she went. It depends on how it affects OP's son as to whether he is likely to be ok or not.

I have Ehlers-Danlos syndrome as does my 6 year old. I wouldn't let him go to a trampoline party and I wouldn't go to one myself and most specialists would advice against it xx