To not let 4 year old go to trampolining party?

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My 4 year old (with hyper mobility) has been invited to a trampolining birthday party. He's never been to one before because I've read it's not safe for under 6s. I've also got a few doctor/nurse friends who said they would never in a million years allow their children to use them.
I wouldn't be able to go on the trampolines with DC, as I will have recently given birth.
Am I being over cautious in missing the party? Also not sure if I should be honest with the mum (a good friend) or say we already have plans.

Just been with dd to one with third birthday child. So many rules to keep them safe. Was amazing fun although didnt bounce. Not sure happy for her at 4 (a year off) to go without me as we had one child one parent to control the bouncing. Was a great party though!

Your the parent,you know it’s not suitable for your 4 year old

YANBU to not allow your ds on the trampolines.

Before you decline, maybe check out the facilities, there may be a soft play type area, which could be ok with your help. I presume you’d go inside the area with him at this age. You know your ds. At this age, my dd would have spent almost the whole time on my knee watching so I would have taken her for the party food and atmosphere even if she couldn’t participate.

If you check out the facilities and if there is any free space, maybe even talk to the owners of the place and the parents. Perhaps there is room to do some kind of appropriate activity in the trampoline room - it depends on the set up.

What I’m saying is that I’d try to go for participation with adjustments so that other kids and parents see your ds and understand his limitations. It may make people think and ensure he can be included.

What is wrong with leaving a trampoline out all year?

Dd has hypermobility and it is the only sport we were warned against. She still would go to a trampolining party and we have had a trampoline (we have 2 dds with ASD, so we found it also good for letting off steam). But it is true that health professionals do advise against it.

She also does do gymnastics and had done taekwando (rubbish for hypermobility) but physio supported it. At 13, we now try to keep her active, so occasionally do go to trampoline parks. It’s probably something you need to do slowly with your dc to get them used to it, and perhaps use only occasionally.

Utterly, utterly ridiculous. There are few things better for kids in terms of exercise, gross motor skills and fun than trampolining.

Unless you have hypermobility and then it is often not advised for medical reasons. This 4yr old has hypermobility therefore not unreasonable to decline the invitation. Trust me not fun at A&E for hours on a Friday night having x-rays. It is great though that it is a suitable exercise for your child.

I don't know much about hyper mobility but if than means your child has an increased risk of being injured then I'd just say 'thanks for the invite, but as ds has hyper mobility, his doctor recommends that he doesn't do trampolining.' She's a good friend so she should be understanding.

Both my kids have been to these trampolining places, they have great fun but to be honest I always cringe when they go and feel very relieved when they're home in one piece. 😬 I can be a little over protective though but always manage to act like I'm perfectly fine with it as I want them to go out and do things. With your child having hyper mobility, it sounds like your concerns are valid though.

Our child has hip dysplasia (albeit now fingers crossed successfully treated) the surgeon told us no to trampolines and bouncy castles for life. Obviously it's easy at the moment as she is young, but as a teen I can feel some issues may come up. We have turned down party invites because of this.

Ds is hypermobile and regularly goes to a trampoline park. He loves it and it hasn’t been a problem. If you don’t want to go then just say no thank you and move on. Nobody will judge you for making decisions as to what suits your child. Do be aware that what you think is unsuitable is someone else’s normal though. Certainly in our area the local trampoline park has daily toddler sessions and is very popular.

as a teen I can feel some issues may come up.

We don't have any issues, they understand the risks, have no wish to be injured as months on crutches gets a bit tedious at secondary school. Obviously depends on your child.

It’s a tricky balance as trampolining is so much fun when done safely but the rules seem to be followed so rarely. They see very strict about the trampoline at gymnastics (more so than lots of the other equipment) and there is one child at a time under supervision so I find it hard to ‘let go’ and other people’s houses and I feel a bit po faced when I won’t let my 3 year old join in with a pile-on.

A 4 yo with hyper mobility id say no with no guilt.

My DC are adults, but it was bouncy castles then and I would dread them, but they went and I would closely supervise (call me utterly utterly ridiculous) as I'd seen a few injuries. Ultimately it's your decision, so do NOT worry about offending anyone.

I, as a fully grown adult, was messing around on a trampoline in the garden. I did a 'seat drop' and spent the next 3 months having physio.

If your child has hypermobility, then it's not criticising her choice of party for 4yos, it's telling her that it's inappropriate for the medical condition that YOUR 4yo has.
She can hardly complain about that without sounding like a complete twat!

Just as likely to fall down the stairs at home.

Err no!

itsboiledeggsagain the rain and sun will affect the materials the trampoline is made of and they will degrade a lot faster. A lot of people just jump back on the trampoline without checking it’s in good condition and are more likely to get injured when a spring goes, or the net rips, etc.

I think you see a lot more injuries on trampolines because people don’t take that much physical exercise and so if the only things you do that are active and busy are jumping and that fairly rarely then that’s how you are going to get hurt.

I don't know much about her condition but I wouldn't let my kid go if I was scared for their safety, I'd sit there worrying myself sick - not worth it. My 7 year old is going to one next week and to be honest I'm a bit nervous now! I can just see how much he's going to try and show off!! (he's not flexible either!)

To be honest I think it's a bit much for a 4yr olds party. My 4yr old is having party games, disco, pass the parcel and cake!

Our local trampolining park is well supervised and has a mandatory safety briefing, a separate area purely for under 5s, and no access to the really tricky bits unless you can demonstrate good skill levels. So I’m fine with it for my kids - much happier than a pile on on someone’s back garden trampoline, where I do step in (and make myself unpopular).

But if a doctor has said no trampolining because I’d the hypermobility,then obviously you shouldn’t let your ds do it.

There’s one near us and they call an ambulance every single weekend.

My son is keen to go but I’ve said no way.

We don’t have a trampoline as I have heard of many, life changing injuries being caused by them.
However, our trampoline parks are well maintained and supervised and feel ok. So I let them go. The staff say they injuries they see are from adults who are drunk in the evening session. 😲

However mine don’t have hypermobility.

I’d just say you’re busy. You don’t need to judge her choice, without having been to one you can’t say whether it’s an unsuitable choice for a four year old party, so I’d just dodge that.

itsallpointless Google Rob Brydons's "Bouncident"
Brought back many memories of my ACs' childhoods. Shudder.

My local trampoline place are really strict on safety and have loads of staff around ensuring people follow the rules. They also have under 5 trampolines and a soft play area. I would check online what the facilities are like before you decide.

I thought most child hood accidents happened in the home. Hyper mobile kids can go to trampoline parks. They are amazing fun

Utterly, utterly ridiculous. There are few things better for kids in terms of exercise, gross motor skills and fun than trampolining.

Do you have a child with hypermobility @StreetwiseHercules?

OP I'd turn it down - saying something like 'due to your DCs mobility issues' or just have a prior engagement.
My DC have all been to trampoline parties, we even had one in the back garden. But if I had a 4 year old with hypermobility then I'd say no. They are too young to be in anyway sensible.

StreetwiseHercules

Did you not read the thread or did you just have the desire to be a dick??

OP, with hypermobility I wouldn’t even consider it. How bad would you feel if there was an accident?