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Too many mugs. AIBU? DH thinks it would be rude

134 replies

MythicalBiologicalFennel · 09/11/2019 18:04

We have a small kitchen and too much stuff. The work surfaces are covered with spare mugs that don't fit in the cupboards which are full of food (we both love cooking and TBH eating).

I've had enough and chosen 6 mugs for the mug tree. The other 15 mugs (yes, 15) are going into storage to be used as the chosen 6 get broken. I felt a great sense of relief and gained a bit of working surface!

I thought of taking a picture of the 15 mugs and sharing it with friends and family. DH thinks that would be rude as all of those mugs have been presents. I love all the mugs, some of them make great cups of tea but we just don't have the bloody room. DH hinted that another mug might be coming my way for Christmas from his side of the family so they might take offence. TBH every year they ask what I want for my birthday/ Christmas and I ask for nice chocolates or flowers because we have too much stuff and it impacts on our quality of life (messy, cluttered house). Every year I get at least a new mug and a new bloody tea towel. They are lovely and it never ceases to amaze me that people care enough to give me presents. But I don't need them. My family are occasional mug givers but would not take offence at being told to stop.

Would I be unreasonable to share the picture with family and friends explaining we are putting excess mugs into storage? The photo is from above so you cannot see the patterns of the mugs and take offence that yours wasn't Chosen.

I think it would be a playful visual reminder to people that 4 people don't need 20 mugs. I am ready to be told it would be rude.

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Passthecherrycoke · 09/11/2019 18:06

Sharing a picture is just stupid tbh, YABU. I don’t know if it’s rude really, since it would just seem really odd.

Knittedfairies · 09/11/2019 18:07

I don't understand the photo thing; why not just put the extra mugs into storage without the palaver?

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 09/11/2019 18:07

No, post the photo.

Some people are proper 'hoarders by proxy'.

I don't get the obession of filling other people's homes with stuff.

MrsMaiselsMuff · 09/11/2019 18:08

The picture idea is bizarre.

Put the mugs away. No one will care.

DramaAlpaca · 09/11/2019 18:09

I don't get the photo thing either. Just put the excess mugs away.

anascrecca · 09/11/2019 18:09

I wouldn’t post the photo. I also wouldn’t keep 15 spare mugs. Maybe the 6 plus two more nice ones. The rest can go . If you get one for Christmas take one to the charity shop

Spied · 09/11/2019 18:10

Rude to send a pic

SunnyCoco · 09/11/2019 18:10

Just pop them into storage, no need to photograph them

Get your feller to tell his family no more mug presents please as we havetoo many...

OverByYer · 09/11/2019 18:11

Huh?

Samsamsuperman · 09/11/2019 18:12

If you mean you thought of posting the photo to stop people keep buying you mugs, I think it's a good idea tbh. Get in now before everyone gets into Christmas shopping.

DillyDilly · 09/11/2019 18:12

It would be a ridiculous thing to do. Just put excess mugs away or donate to a charity shop.

Talk about sweating the small stuff.

ActualHornist · 09/11/2019 18:12

I wouldn’t make a big point of sharing a pic, but I don’t think there’s any harm maybe sharing it as a humorous picture to show you’ve put away a bunch of stuff you don’t need. Hopefully your in laws will take note.

hairyheadphones · 09/11/2019 18:14

Don’t take a photo. If someone asks what you want from Christmas/Birthday tell them no mugs.

Fakeflowersaremynewnormal · 09/11/2019 18:17

It's so PA to share a photo, just get rid of some of them, if anyone is weird enough to check where their mug is say it very sadly got broken.

ChicCroissant · 09/11/2019 18:18

Your friends and family don't want to see a photo of mugs, even from above - that's not 'playful' at all. Just passive aggressive really.

MythicalBiologicalFennel · 09/11/2019 18:19

Talk about sweating the small stuff.

The whole point of AIBU IMO Grin

We share pictures in WhatsApp groups. Cute DC2 sleeping, photos of DC1's room before and after tidying up etc. Our families live hours away so maybe we share more photos and text more than others?

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Fuzzywig · 09/11/2019 18:19

The photo and a note could possibly deter more mug presents so I would post a pic of all the mugs and maybe a suggestion that you will rotate usage as you love them all.

There are now 3 of us and I also have a cupboard full but I am in the middle of a cull and some will be going to the charity shop.

I give my ex a mug every Xmas and/or Father’s Day just to piss him off but I guess that’s another thread lol

ChicCroissant · 09/11/2019 18:21

I live hours away, I've never sent or seen a photo of mugs though!

ChicCroissant · 09/11/2019 18:21

Or tidy rooms either. Just family stuff.

MythicalBiologicalFennel · 09/11/2019 18:24

I give my ex a mug every Xmas and/or Father’s Day just to piss him off but I guess that’s another thread lol

OMG Shock pointed mug-gifting Grin are you my MIL?

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Mumofone2001 · 09/11/2019 18:26

Just tell everyone you don't want mugs, it seems more adult than sending your family and friends a photo of mugs they have bought you in a storage unit?

WhatsInAName19 · 09/11/2019 18:28

If you want to tell them to stop buying mugs, just tell them. If I hadn't bought you any mugs I would wonder why on earth you were sending me a photo of such a non-event as clearing out some clutter. If I had bought you a mug and I received that photo, I'd think it was PA and twatty and I'd probably buy you a set of 4 mugs for Christmas just to piss you off 😁

NeckPainChairSearch · 09/11/2019 18:29

Honestly, no one needs spare mugs in storage or photographs of them. Just donate them to a charity shop or somewhere that can put them to good use.

You won't give it a second thought once they're gone.

BrassTactical · 09/11/2019 18:32

Thank you for reminding me of the bliss of singledom, it’s not the cheating or the boy smells in the loo. It’s the little stuff like self mug management and lack of mug tree conversations that make it worth it Wink

CatteStreet · 09/11/2019 18:32

Getting a photo like that would make me think 'oh, for goodness' sake', tbh.

No need to 'announce' it. Just quietly put them into storage if you so choose. But I'm rather amused at your notion that 21 mugs is a lot. Just counted and we have around 40, and I would guess the majority are used on something approaching a regular basis.

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