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Too many mugs. AIBU? DH thinks it would be rude

134 replies

MythicalBiologicalFennel · 09/11/2019 18:04

We have a small kitchen and too much stuff. The work surfaces are covered with spare mugs that don't fit in the cupboards which are full of food (we both love cooking and TBH eating).

I've had enough and chosen 6 mugs for the mug tree. The other 15 mugs (yes, 15) are going into storage to be used as the chosen 6 get broken. I felt a great sense of relief and gained a bit of working surface!

I thought of taking a picture of the 15 mugs and sharing it with friends and family. DH thinks that would be rude as all of those mugs have been presents. I love all the mugs, some of them make great cups of tea but we just don't have the bloody room. DH hinted that another mug might be coming my way for Christmas from his side of the family so they might take offence. TBH every year they ask what I want for my birthday/ Christmas and I ask for nice chocolates or flowers because we have too much stuff and it impacts on our quality of life (messy, cluttered house). Every year I get at least a new mug and a new bloody tea towel. They are lovely and it never ceases to amaze me that people care enough to give me presents. But I don't need them. My family are occasional mug givers but would not take offence at being told to stop.

Would I be unreasonable to share the picture with family and friends explaining we are putting excess mugs into storage? The photo is from above so you cannot see the patterns of the mugs and take offence that yours wasn't Chosen.

I think it would be a playful visual reminder to people that 4 people don't need 20 mugs. I am ready to be told it would be rude.

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Namechangeforthiscancershit · 09/11/2019 18:33

Controversial I know but I wouldn't say 6 mugs was enough for 4 people. You must be a lot better at washing up than I am!

Love the idea of pointed mug giving! That is some weird present buying

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 09/11/2019 18:34

@BrassTactical no mug tree = joy

HerRoyalNotness · 09/11/2019 18:36

I can understand storing them. The minute you give them away you’ll break 3 in quick succession! I’ve got mugs under the stairs in a box just in case. Don’t have big crowds around anymore so not sure why I insist on holding on to them

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 09/11/2019 18:37

Missing the point of the thread here but I would want at least 12 mugs. 6 nowhere near enough. What if you have people over

Namechangeoflife · 09/11/2019 18:38

You can always share the mugs photo on here. Mumsnets full of them

ShamefulBlanket · 09/11/2019 18:39

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NeckPainChairSearch · 09/11/2019 18:40

If you're short on counter space then don't use a mug tree. No one needs mugs on display and to be honest, a mug tree isn't fabulously useful or stylish. Can you sacrifice some cupboard space and keep them off the counter and out of sight?

I'm no fan of mug trees Grin

CatteStreet · 09/11/2019 18:44
aurynne · 09/11/2019 18:45

Do people really share photos of old mugs they are planning to get rid of/put in storage? Really?? Who the fuckety fuck would give a shit?

Justapatchofgrass · 09/11/2019 18:46

Put a mug into storage! Are you paying for this storage? just send them to the charity shop

ChinaCat345 · 09/11/2019 18:47

Throw the spare mugs in the bin , if you don’t like them.
Periodically, I have a purge. A day later, I don’t care.
Liberating!

Tonz · 09/11/2019 18:51

You are planning to send people a photo of your mugs before you put them in storage!!!!
WHY?? Seriously why?

Ellie56 · 09/11/2019 18:53

No just put the put the bloody extra mugs away or give them to a charity shop.

Dahlietta · 09/11/2019 18:54

We also have way more than 20 mugs. I love my mugs and would never be so cruel as to put them into storage. If I did though, I wouldn’t post a photo. That’s just weird.

BoomBoomsCousin · 09/11/2019 18:56

If your DH knows you’re going to get another mug from his family and he hasn’t taken steps to suggest they actually just get you chocs or flowers like you’ve asked for then the photo idea is probably your gentlest way of influencing them.

Like the angle you’ve chosen so individual mugs can’t be recognised. I would probably do this, maybe with a second photo of the nicely clear counter and a “Hurrah - space at last!” comment.

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 09/11/2019 18:57

I love mugs, can you send them to me please?😃
Ditch the mugs but no picture, that's just odd.
I am of the opinion that 6 mugs is a bit tight for 2 people and don't you use different mugs for different drinks? And are your mug choices not mood dependent or it that just me?

I have different mugs for tea and coffee and choose my mug dependent on how I am feeling. I have lots of mugs I have picked up from places we have visited so will often pick a mug that reminds me of a nice trip we had. Also have Christmas mugs I keep out all year as you never know when the mood for Christmas will behold you.

Good job I have decent amount of storage. My mug collection probably runs in to hundreds of pounds. I don't do cheap mugs either, prefer porcelain normally😳

CSIblonde · 09/11/2019 18:58

IME people never get subtle hints like I guess your photo is meant to be (we gave too many mugs don't buy more etc). Just store them & if you get too many more then charity shop then & pretend you broke them if asked awkward questions.

PegasusReturns · 09/11/2019 18:59

There's absolutely no need to announce to the world that you have to many mugs Confused

Use them for other things:

I have a mug on my dressing table with make up brushes, my DD1 uses two mugs for paint brushes, DD3 has a mug in her bathroom for toothbrush and toothpaste....

It's a nice way of utilising those that you feel "sentimental".

escapade1234 · 09/11/2019 19:01

What a lot of overthinking. Pack your mugs away and carry on with your day.

Done.

CatteStreet · 09/11/2019 19:02

yy Doyouthinktheysaurus. I can't drink tea out of my favourite Le Creuset coffee mug. It's just wrong. Conversely, I have a lovely handmade pottery mug that is tea only. Then others are acceptable for both.

DidntLikeRugbyAnyway · 09/11/2019 19:03

I think I have about 15 mugs. I’m the only one that uses them as no one else drinks hot drinks.

I don’t get why you would share a picture, would they really care? Just tell them you don’t want any mugs this year as you have enough and haven’t got anywhere to put them.

raspberryk · 09/11/2019 19:03

Sorry YABU because 6 mugs isn't enough!

Topseyt · 09/11/2019 19:05

I wouldn't take or publish a photo. Just quietly store or charity shop the mugs you don't want to have out.

Curtainly · 09/11/2019 19:06

Why would they be interested in a photo of some mugs going into storage? Wow!

Fuzzywig · 09/11/2019 19:06

*I give my ex a mug every Xmas and/or Father’s Day just to piss him off but I guess that’s another thread lol

OMG pointed mug-gifting -are you my MIL?-*

No but I might be your secret Santa lol