AIBU Different Money Views

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AIBU?

I have 3 children, OH has none. I earn an okay salary but he earns at least 2.5 times what I do. He owns a house, but rents rooms which cover his mortgage and bills.
Money is always tight with me, my 2 smalls are still in full time childcare, and I have a lot of debt to pay off from my previous bad relationship, I'm often skint but all the bills are getting paid. He does pay for a lot and at first it was okay, but he throws it back in my face a lot now. He pays me £300pm in 'rent' which is meant to cover everything including all his food ( I do all the shopping) but he will often buy food etc.
Latest money argument: We had accident and I had to buy the morning after pill - I Asked him if he would pay for it as I've had to do some car repairs this month so am extra tight (he knows this) - he quibbled and said we should go halfs. I was so upset because I explained to him that half that money (£17.50) is the difference of me going out one time with friends that month or not. Where as to him its nothing (He has ££££ of disposable income a month)
This is a recurrent argument in our relationship - I feel i'm giving everything I can, and suggest we live a lifestyle more akin to what I can afford, but then he wants to go out all the time and will pay but throws it back at me and its quite obvious he is resentful of that dynamic.
When i say that we obviously have diff attitudes to money (i'm very generous, if I've got it you can have it kind of way) he says its not fair and regardless of what each person earns everything should be 50/50 until we have children together (I don't agree, in a relationship no matter ow much either party earns as long as each person is giving their all mostly that's all that matters to me) . But I just feel our attitudes to money are so different its going to spell out big problems in our future. He's gone away this weekend and I'm happy to be alone... but that's not right. AIBU?

He's paying £300 a month for rent, food, utility bills (council tax, water rate, gas and electricity), laundry, companionship etc while paying off his mortgage with lodgers?

Clever guy to persuade you he's worth it, isn't he? Who's benefiting most from this set-up? (Hint: it's not you, you're just helping him to be mortgage free by 40 or 50)

You've gone from one financially abusive relationship to another. Time to move on.

You need to adjust how much he pays per month. Maybe £300 rent is ok, but food needs to go on top of that - could he estimate how much he spends on food per month? Plus bills and his share of council tax.

I would say at least £500 per month, probably more.

Does he do any of the housework? He should be doing half the cooking/ shopping/cleaning (unless your kids are old enough to pitch in too) - afterall, his mantra of 'no kids together, so you pay 50:50' also applies to housework!

Alternatively, why not suggest you move into his house, and you may him £300 per month (and a bit extra for the kids), and he needs to pay for all bills and food out of that. Oh, and cook / clean for you all as well.

You are paying for him to live with you !

You are taking your money away from your children, to have a man live with you !

£300 is NOT enough !!!

Send him back to his own property today

He is taking the xxxx

How much is your rent? Is he paying half of it? I'm curious to know how far the £300 is going?
If he has nil expenditure on his own house because his tenants cover it, then he's onto a great old thing only paying £300 all-in at yours! Too damn right he should be paying for some dates. You're subbing his lifestyle good and proper.