Totally batshit.. bin one. A bit grim I guess

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So We're at my Mother in Laws unexpectedly. even more unexpectedly I have come onto my period really really heavily earlier on today. I had 2 pads left in my hand bag and it's heavy and enough to need to use both at the same time. So I changed them.

Here is the ridiculous AIBU.. my husband thinks I should put my used san pro in a bag and take it home with us as the bathroom bin in his parents guest bathroom isn't to be used for things like that. I think he's being ridiculous.

Aibu to use a bin for the reason a bin was invented?

Yanbu. Use the bin as it's intended!

Assuming you wrapped it up in toilet paper or similar then definitely YANBU, what else does he think the bin is intended for?

I wrapped it up on the packets from the 2 new ones, and put it in tissue. I told him he's being ridiculous.. what else is a bin there for?! Decoration? 🤦‍♀️

Is it a bin just for show? You aren't being unreasonable to utilise anything for its intended purpose, including a bin.

Well, I have to say that if it was me I'd discreetly put it in the outside bin.

Me too drama.

Err it's a bin, it's fine to put rubbish in it. However YABU to post that question on here, people absolutely hate bathroom bins and will probably respond that you should drive it to the tip yourself or better yet shoot it in to the sun to be incinerated.

I would wrap it up and take it home or put it in an outside bin.

It would play on my mind that if the bin at my MIL was only in the guest bathroom it could be weeks before it is emptied.

Actually I would probably just ask my MIL which bin she would like me to put it in.

Of course it goes in the bin - can't believe thinks you should take it home, how absurd!

I would factor in how easy it is for them to empty it. (I've recently removed the bin from my elderly mum's bathroom for this reason.)

Tell him to pop it in his pocket if it disturbs him so much!

I agree that it's best to ask at someone else's house - they might not need to empty the bathroom bin often and that could cause problems. That said your DH is ridiculous for suggesting that is not its use!

Maybe he knows they won't check it. Just take them out with you in a bag. I would. Better than letting his stress about it.

How does he know that you put it in the bin....Why was it even discussed?. I would’ve wrapped it up really well, not just in the packet it came from but in tissue so it’s disguised . I would hat for someone to empty the bin and see it but that’s just me.

I would have put it in the kitchen bin tbh. Simply because I would worry the packet would open to display my bodily fluids and I would feel embarrassed. But that’s my feelings not yours. Taking it home is ott.

You obviously felt fine with binning it. Your dh should have a bit more empathy though. So easy to sit in judgment when you don’t have to deal with blood every few weeks.

Just realised it’s a guest bathroom. I would not leave rubbish in a bin like that. It feels as though I’m treating the place like a hotel. I’d empty it before leaving.

Maybe your MIL has some form of mysophobia so it makes her really uncomfortable if you would leave your pad in the bin? Or she doesn’t empty the guest bathroom bin on a regular basis so it would get smelly?

I always carry sanitary bags with me that I use when I visit someone else’s home and I am on my period, I think it’s a polite and considerate thing to do, however I don’t expect it from others.
My best friend stayed with us recently and mentioned she was on her period so I knew I had to empty the bathroom bin on a daily basis to avoid any bad smells as the weather was incredibly hot here. That, and she wrapped everything in toiletpaper. I thought that was considerate of her.

I'd be putting them in the kitchen bin, well buried so they couldn't be seen.

You don't know how often they change their bathroom bin and you know they would see them in there which would be really awkward.

Equally if they were in kitchen bin or outside bin and visible that would be awkward too.

I get the whole only periods, natural blah blah thing but equally I would not want my MIL or FIL to see my used sanpro!!

I would be concerned that they don’t empty the bin often
so would dispose of it elsewhere.

Is your husband always this daft and ridiculous? Does he think his parents aren't aware that a woman has periods? Absolutely fucking ridiculous.

Sam221 has the right idea.

I'd use the bathroom bin and then empty it into the outside bin before we left if we guests in someone's house.

I’d have put it in the kitchen bin just because a guest bathroom might not be emptied any time soon. If my husband wanted to take it home that would be up to him.

Sorry, I'm presuming you are staying over although reading your OP again I'm not sure you are. If I was just there to visit for a few hours I'd just put it straight in the outside bin. MIL and partner wouldn't care if I didn't though.

Fucking held it’s just blood. Do people put plasters wrapped up in tissue in the outside bin?

If it bothers you op you can change the bin at the end of your time there, to be helpful. But don’t feel so ashamed of a period that you take sanpro outside everytime you need to change!