Should I have got up with the toddler?

[Dumptyhumpty101]

DH works 5 days a week, I work 3 days - Monday, Wednesday & Thursday.

Toddler has a cold and hasn’t been sleeping well lately. Monday night was awful but I don’t work on a Tuesday so I spent hours up with her.

Tuesday, DH declares he’ll get up with toddler if she wakes that night but she sleeps through.

Fast forward to now, toddler wakes up and is calling out. I ask him to go into her as it’s always me, and he’d said he’d do it yesterday but didn’t have to.

Apparently I’m a selfish cow, he is trying to hold down a proper job. I should help him out and not just take. He had a bad nights sleep last night, had been awake since 11 tonight (how was I to know, I was asleep) and has an evening meeting tomorrow.

So, am I selfish? Should I have just got up with toddler?

To clarify, this was in the middle of Wednesday night so yep I did have work the next day so no opportunity to nap. I always get up when I don’t have work the next day and he does and agree that should be the case.

I wouldn’t say I was awake, I was half asleep and he never wakes up when she cries out which is why I end up dealing with it most of the time.

No I didn’t go sit on the sofa and leave my child crying. He got up and went into her, then stomped back to bed and started having a go at me then. She wasn’t crying again when I was on the sofa but she wasn’t asleep, I think he was playing the martyr which is why he did the other bits!

Well your previous post reads as though this happened last night. If you were both at work the next day then I’d agree it was his job to get up this time.

@Jeezoh that’s because you’ve read it today. My original post was made at 1am on Thursday morning, not 1am this morning

So he has just called me to apologise for how he spoke to me and the nasty things he said.

He then proceeded to explain that he wouldn’t see me go without sleep which is why he offered to get up on the Tuesday night, he’d just suffer it. But things have changed (meaning my job), and he can’t be tired and not on the ball with clients to keep happy.

Yes my job has changed but that doesn’t mean I don’t have my boss chasing me almost every day I’m in the office asking for progress updates.

If I’m honest, I don’t have the same pressure he has at work but to me it just feels like he is belittling me and my role.

He is. Getting up once in the night is something I do most nights - I am not exhausted and sleep deprived. I bet he gets up more often to go for a wee. He needs to apologise but without the caveat, and stop belittling you.

Oh cry me a freaking river! I'm sorry OP you're going to have three babies to deal with