A few years ago I stopped contact with myself and my 2 children with MIL and there dads family. At the time I only had DD my DS came 12 months later. DDs dad would take her out occasionally on his own. A lot on here will say I was out of order doing this it was down to various reasons but definitely the best decision at the time. Don't want to go into too much why but just imagine controlling and interfering on a wide scale, including having her son do a DNA test on DD because she had red hair, I ended our relationship because I couldn't take the way she was. It was like she was the one in a relationship with him as strange as that sounds. There was a lot of stuff not just that but don't want to go back into it. After 18 months I allowed her back into mine and my children's lives as long as all the shit she was causing before stopped!
This is the problem right here... Saturday we take the kids to a play centre he invites MIL along and she says, I remember coming here with XYZ (partner and my DD) I have a picture on my phone look she then whips her phone out to show me this photo and straight away the penny drops, the times he was taking her out he was taking her to his moms. Now we patched things up almost 2 years ago but this has never been mentioned, my DD was far to young to talk at this time. I feel really really annoyed, not so much the fact he did that because we are now on speaking terms more so the fact she has made me feel bad and guilty she had no contact for 18 months to find out she actually did!
Do you think it's the past and it should be left there or do I confront my children's dad and ask why he went behind my back after the shit she caused.