to keep parking here?

[KanelbulleKing]

DS's school has a huge carpark round the side and a tiny one at the front. The front one has been turned into a drop off route for the school buses and signs have gone up now forbidding cars from parking there.

I asked the school if I could continue to park there as I am disabled and have a blue badge. Headteacher said yes and was a bit embarrassed that they hadn't thought of this and said the signs would be changed to allow blue badge holders to park there. In the mean time I has to send in my reg number and a copy of my badge so she could notify the bus company that my car has permission to be there.

The week before half term one of the drivers had a right go at me for parking there. I told her that I had permission and showed her my badge but she wouldn't accept it and insisted I'm not allowed there. I double checked with the head and she confirmed I can and said she'd send a reminder to the bus company.

Since then the same bus driver is glaring and shaking her head at me every time she sees me parked there. I know I'm being soft but it's really upsetting me and I feel really intimidated by it.

AIBU to continue to park there? And if not, what should I do as the constant glaring is sending my anxiety through the roof. I don't want to be a pain for the school but at the same time I don't want to spend my whole day worrying about school pick up.

Ask the school to put it in writing and hand it to her. And then complain to her employer ! And get the head to have a word to stop the glaring.
I have 2 children in wheelchairs so I know how hard it is to park at the best of times.
I would also be intimidated by this but would refuse to back down .

A really bad drawing as I know the rules.

Speak to the bus company. The Head has told them, they should have told all of the drivers. There may be a reason that this one driver missed that message, twice. Tell them she is intimidating you and she needs to be told she is in the wrong.

Make it their repsonsibility rather than that of the Head. Do it now. Right now. Find their email and/or phone number ad make contact so that this morning's run should be the very last time she glares at you!

Seriously, pull faces at the driver.
I mean good funny faces too.
Force her to say something or knock off the looks.

Are these buses employed to take children from home to school funded by the LEA ( I'm only asking because my son goes to a special school and the LEA fund mini buses to pick up children to take them to school and one again) if they are I would complain to the transport manager at the LEA/ Council but regardless the buffet s driver shouldn't be intimidating you .

Bus driver!

Agree with pp take it up with the bus company.

As long as you park to cause the least disruption possible to the buses, carry on.

I would email the school asking them to confirm that you have permission, then forward a copy yourself to the bus company, and print off several copies to keep handing to the bus driver.

Are you obstructing the bus? If you are you shouldn't park there. The school do, however, need to make safe disabled parking available.

Could your car be causing problems with pick up/drop offs? My daughter’s school has 6 buses and a tight car park and if someone parks there it means that one of the buses can’t get into it’s allocated spot. It’s no excuse for the bus driver’s behaviour and something that they should raise if a safety issue for children with a compromise reached that you only drive in when your child is at the door for pick up? Not sure how long you park there just picking up on a potential issue. If not for your anxiety I would suggest talking to the bus driver and asking why they are behaving that way. It’s also an opportunity to get their name for a complaint

Carry on parking there. You have permission too. Dont let this small minded woman intimidate you. She sounds ignorant.

If you are causing an obstruction the school shouldn't have given you permission to park there.

The buses come in in a line. There's a gate through to the playground where drop off takes place. They only drop off when next to the gate. So they wait until the bus in front pulls away before they pull up and let the kids off.

If you are picking up/dropping off then I assume you are not getting out of your car? So the distance between the main car park and the school is irrelevant unless your child is also disabled.

Why not keep the peace and use the main park, letting your child walk to you, and 'save' the right to park in the small car park for when you need to leave the car and go into the school?

I have to take DS in as he's only 6 and has autism.

Phone the bus company. Tell them their driver is being intimidating and aggressive.

Go in and tell the head what’s happening and explain how this woman’s bullying is making you feel. Then either email or phone the bus company and explain it all to them too. Is it only one driver who has an issue with you?

I also can't understand. Are you actually blocking the buses?

Even though he is disabled, is he unable to walk from the main car park with you?

Next time she glares at you, ask her for her name and take a photo of the bus numberplate and put a complaint in to the bus company.

If the buses can get past you then carry on.

If you are holding up a big queue of buses because they can't get past you then that's not great.

But I'm not sure what else you can do really. You are entitled to park there, you can't walk any further and this woman should not be intimidating you.

I would talk to the head and explain how you are feeling. Maybe there is another alternative they haven't thought about.

Ideally you should report the bus driver to her employer but I'm not sure I would be brave enough for that either.

I'm sorry you are feeling bad, I wouldn't want to feel stressed about school every day, that's not fair.

Are you in the way of the busses though?
And are you physically unable to walk from the other playground?

If you’re not causing an obstruction and you are physically incapable of using the other one that’s fine.

If you aren’t able to use the other one the Head should support you in this.

Even though he is disabled, is he unable to walk from the main car park with you? Or maybe OP explained in her OP as I am disabled and have a blue badge.

Op says she is disabled and has a bb. Yanbu op. The school are supporting you.

I have a Bb. Just to let you know schools don’t have to let disabled parents on site. I had this issue with both dds primary and secondary school. The primary let me park on school grounds until the car park was reconfigured. The secondary told me no parents are allowed on school land during office hours unless it is to collect an ill child. It was made clear there are no exceptions for parents, who are bb holders. Only for children with bb.