To find a joint

[Toknowanything]

what would you do if you found a rolled up joint sitting on the windowsill in your 16-year-old room?

Talk to him/her about it?

And seriously wonder about their hiding skills. I’d assume they wanted you to find it if it was in such plain sight? I was much more creative at hiding things at 16.

I'd think they were smoking joints......... unless it blew in the window?

If I found it I'd probably smoke it.....

I don't think you're unreasonable to find it, no. They are BU to leave it in plain sight and expect it to still be there when they come back.

Steal it and smoke it probably

Share it with him?

How is this an AIBU?

Same as x2boys to see the reaction

Give him a kick up the arse and get rid of the joint. But then he watched his dad die from lung cancer so wouldn't smoke anything anyway. Not very subtle hiding place though.

And the teen is in their bedroom.

Steal it and smoke it probably

despite having no idea what's in it ?

Much better ensure said 16 year old has enough facts at their disposal to make their own informed choices. Starting with the fact that they clearly aren't quite as bright as they think they are if parents can find ready-rolled joints lying around ...

Just take it and don’t say anything. Act normally and Watch them slowly panic. Listen to them turning their room upside down 😁

Say "hey Jimmy, what's this?" And see how they react maybe

I’d smoke it. Finders keepers.

Check my smoking box, make sure they aren't pilfering my stash.

But seriously I would talk to them about the risks of smoking and smoking drugs.

Have a word

But seriously I would talk to them about the risks of smoking and smoking drugs.

Suggest vaping

Are you in their bedroom with them at the moment?

I'd just have a chat with him. We aren't going to stop young people experimenting with drugs but we can educate them about the dangers and about responsible usage, which for 16 year olds is unfortunately none.

I'd explain the possible permanent side effects on a developing brain and then talk about if they are going to use it despite the risks that they understand that using it too much can have a detrimental effect on their mental health and on their motivation.

I would also think it important to discuss other drugs and safes ways of buying and consuming these.

Speak to them. Give them the drugs are bad lecture etc. Find out if they're smoking it regularly. I'd stop any money I was giving them and make it very clear that I don't approve and it's not to be brought into our home. I don't think there's much else I could do. If it was affecting their studies, relationships, attitude then there would be more consequences.

I'm hoping it doesn't happen. My 15 year old son is very anti drugs as he's too health conscious and my daughter is only 10 but hopefully will be the same.

Keep talking, if they are otherwise a good kid, I'd try to be calm and reasonable as many teens try it at some point.

We’ve had countless conversations about drug/mental health/loosing motivation etc etc. She knows I hate weed (laziness being one) so hasn’t told me she’s smoking t every night but she is.

I told her if she was a functioning stoner it wouldn’t be so bad but as she isn’t bothering with school at all and her getting stoned by herself it’s not great.

I confiscated it and it all kicked off.

does she smoke out of the bedroom window?

@Toknowanything how's she paying for it?
Do you have younger DC's?

Give them the drugs are bad lecture etc.

Or the truth ?