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To put a photo of DS in Christmas cards?

140 replies

JasonPollack · 03/11/2019 15:34

Last year I combined Christmas and 'thanks for the babygift' cards as DS was born in late November. I included a photo of DS since I don't use social media and older relatives won't have WhatsApp photos. Also I like printed out photos. I thought it would be nice this year to do the same & include a photo. Cards just go to very close friends and family. DH doesn't want to though and doesn't think anyone would want a photo. Would you think it was strange to receive one? Not like a professional pic, just a nice photo normal sized.

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Cookit · 03/11/2019 15:54

We’ve enclosed photos on a case by case basis - generally older relatives or people we don’t see very much who have asked about the DC. I wouldn’t include a photo with every Christmas card, no, and like you I don’t send loads.
I can’t see why one of my friends would want a printed out photo of my DC; we occasionally send funny and cute photos of DC back and forth via text or WhatsApp anyway.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 03/11/2019 15:55

I also agree with your husband.

WeArnottamused · 03/11/2019 15:56

I used to do this for relatives, but we don’t live close to extended family, not sure if that makes a difference, friends no.

GruciusMalfoy · 03/11/2019 15:57

Older relatives, fine, IMO.

myhandsareverycold · 03/11/2019 15:57

Older relatives that don't see your child often, definitely. My late mother loved getting pictures of her great nieces and nephews. Gave her something to show all the other elderly ladies at the various clubs she went to.

AgeShallNotWitherHer · 03/11/2019 15:57

Don't.
And "elderly relatives" are not a homogenous bunch. My 87 year old aunt is a whiz on FB and all my Mum's "elderly" friends at her choir communicate via WhatsApp. Grin

David Attenborough at 93 manages technology fairly well and is able to get out and about a bit. And Queenie herself doesn't do too badly holding down a job in her 90's. Don't forget the 73 year old Twitter-fiend currently running America either! Wink

WeArnottamused · 03/11/2019 15:57

Forgot, my kids are now all in their 20’s no Facebook etc

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 03/11/2019 15:58

Grandparents maybe at a push but I wouldn’t send one to anyone else.

TriciaH87 · 03/11/2019 15:59

Often have given gps a framed photo of kids at Christmas. My step nan and nan too. I would for close family like aunts and uncles but not to everyone.

Saucery · 03/11/2019 15:59

Only to family without social media.
We get one from an ex colleague of DH’s. I feel awful having to shred them but they are of zero interest to us.

ButteryGarlic · 03/11/2019 16:02

A photo in a card to close family is a lovely idea. A photo in a card to everyone including your neighbours is weird. A photo of your dc ON a Christmas card is an absolute no.

cornflakegirl · 03/11/2019 16:04

A couple of my friends send out a small photo montage of them and their children. I really like it. Too lazy to do the same though.

diddl · 03/11/2019 16:05

For people who are interested &/or don't see him often-why not?

JetsetJetlaggedJaded · 03/11/2019 16:10

In the Christmas card?? My daughter is on the front of Christmas card this year!! And I'll be giving it to plenty of family, friends and neighbours.

My husband also thought it was cheesy and guess what; I don't give a sh*t! I do all the xmas card admin, she's my baby, I'm proud of her, and the card looks adorable!

I don't care what people do with the cards - they can laugh at them, shred them, put them straight in the bin... but producing and sending the cards has brought me joy, and I know that I keep stacks of cards and photos that I've received over the years and enjoy the blast from the past when I look through them, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

So if you wana do it, do it! What's the harm?

NoSauce · 03/11/2019 16:12

To anyone that loves the child - fine. Anyone else - no.

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 03/11/2019 16:12

Another pic of a baby that people will wonder who it was in years to come. My mil had loads in a drawer when she died, no one had any idea who any were.

recrudescence · 03/11/2019 16:13

I wouldn’t object or judge but wouldn’t keep the photo unless I was related to the child. So I agree with others, save the pics for family.

MereDintofPandiculation · 03/11/2019 16:13

Selected family, possibly. Friends - only good friends who you haven't seen in person for a long while, and even then only if the child has changed noticeably since they last saw a photo in real life or on social media.

smemorata · 03/11/2019 16:13

I would only send it to people who are close and family and do not get to see photos on social media.

MrsPellegrinoPetrichor · 03/11/2019 16:14

God,people are so odd. Why on earth wouldn't you like a snap of a friend's baby?Confused

Celebelly · 03/11/2019 16:16

Family yes, but then we did cards with our dog on them that went down a storm when she was a puppy Grin My gran would adore this. I'm actually making her a calendar with DD on as one of her Christmas gifts. My mum did that with me for my grandad once and it stayed up in his office for years - it was still on the wall when he died and they were clearing his house Smile

Disfordarkchocolate · 03/11/2019 16:17

I'd love it, I don't have enough pictures on display.

FuzzyPuffling · 03/11/2019 16:17

Ah jetset, I really dislike cards with family photographs on. I like to see my family at Christmas, but sorry, not anyone elses. I'm just not that interested!

Celebelly · 03/11/2019 16:18

Oh I misread. I wouldn't enclose a pic unless it was people who don't often see them I think, but I wouldn't have any issues making a card with DD on the front! She'd be very cute in a Christmas jumper!

FuzzyPuffling · 03/11/2019 16:18

Now, if you put a photo of your kitten on your card....Yes please!