To go on holiday and miss uncles funeral?

[sadaboutlife]

My uncle passed away suddenly last week,
He is being cremated next Saturday at 3pm,no wake as my cousin doesn't want one.
I'm due to go on holiday on Friday.
I honestly don't know what to do.
My family are saying that my uncle wouldn't want you to miss out but I'm thinking am I a bad person if I miss it.
I was going to go to the local church the day before and light some candles and write a message to be read out at the service.
My uncle wasn't religious in the slightest and loved having a good party and fun.
Help me out guys ?
What do I do ?

Go on holiday. The funeral is not for the dead but those left behind. They are telling you it's OK to go.

Would it be covered by travel insurance? How hard would it be to reschedule?

If it was playing on your mind and you could reschedule on the travel insurance do that. Otherwise, given everyone is happy with you going I'd definitly go

I would go on holiday.
I would go light the candles but wouldn’t leave a note to be read out . That seems a bit much for me

It was my father's funeral last week and 2 of my cousins didn't attend the service. They both sent messages and although it would have been lovely if they had been there, it was not something we got upset over.

Remember your uncle in your way and don't stress about not cancelling your holiday.

I wouldn't leave a message to be read out. Some people in the congregation might be a bit at listening to it, knowing that you're on holiday in France.