Isn’t this a bit bunny boiler? (LH)

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How many times do you call your partner when they / you are 1. At work and 2. Out with friends

I find it weird to call more than once if there’s no reason. SIL calls husband at work (delivery driver) and they spend particularly whole day on the phone - heard 10 min conversations of basically - what you doing now... now what you doing... ...... what about now... ( and so on). She hung up to eat so there’s that... although took phone to toilet after....

A friend calls her husband (numerous times) and FaceTimes him asking to speak to whoever he is with when he is out with friends...

to think you need SOME time apart to have something to discuss when you get together at night! This is surely some Glenn Close shit?

If he's out wouldnt text. Unless he went out before I got home and I would just text saying I was home. If I'm at work and he's off I would text asking if we needed anything brought home.

I don't phone my partner at all because I never know when he's free at work, but he does phone me at least once a day while he's driving between jobs (and then also on his way home).

I wouldn't dream of phoning him while he was out with friends, unless it was an emergency. He sometimes phones me if he wants to ask something but more often than not if we go out, we say goodbye and then don't speak again until we get home. I thought that was normal.

Facebook messages of dog pictures 1 - 5 a day
WhatsApps about logistics (child collection, shopping etc) 1-2 a day
Phone calls; only when serious problems

I call my husband once a day at lunchtime. He had a heart attack a few years back and it started then, I can’t break the habit now lol

God never! Unless it was an emergency I wouldn’t call at all.

If at work we text a quick “you ok?” on breaks.
If my DP is out I’ll only text to say I’ve gone to bed and put the alarm on so he doesn’t get a shock.
If I’m out he usually falls asleep but I’ll text to say when I’m on my way home. He will text a way home message too usually.

I only phone DH at work if there’s a reason to-very very rarely-maybe twice a year?! He never phones me at work as I’m a teacher and can’t ever answer. We text/WhatsApp each other throughout the day a bit though depending on what we’re up to, but don’t take it personally if the other one doesn’t reply. He’s on a night out in London tonight-I texted him an hour ago and he’s not replied, which is fine as he’s busy. I’d only call if there was a disaster/emergency.

My husband sometimes likes to ring me at work when he's driving for a chat... I don't really entertain it because I have better things to do. Perhaps her husband is bored since he's on the road a lot?

Only if there's something I need to ask or tell him.

I don't even speak to him often when he goes abroad for work.

The only time I've seen this pattern of calling someone throughout the day has been when the relationship is seriously controlling and it's a way for the abuser to keep tabs on the victim, maintaining control over their every move, even though they weren't physicall present.

We're in that situation where DH will text and ask something then 3 days later he'll be like did you ever answer what I asked in that text and I'm like let me check.... no I didn't 😂

My work is pretty relaxed and it's fine to make personal calls but my colleagues would be pretty if I called DH just to shoot the breeze! He's a teacher, though, so it doesn't come up anyway. The one and only time I called him at work and he answered was when I was pregnant and had just had a scan. I told him the (good, fortunately) news, but straight after he said how pleased he was he said 'but I've got to go now, I'm on playground duty and a year 7 has just found a dead rat so it's all go here'

SIL is just bored. ( Have heard her DP complain about it to her family so it isn’t him). When he is with her they both just sit in silence on the phone!

Friend is defo not depressed or anything like that either just seems to want to know where he is and with who and what he is drinking and what they said .... I just find it a bit much! Would be pissed for someone to call me that often.

I never call my DH at work unless there's an emergency or something I can't text. I usually text first and ask if it's ok to call, he works in a job where he can't always take personal calls.
He calls me whenever he wants (I'm sahm) but never usually more than once a day. He used to call me for a chat on his lunch but I was usually busy with the kids or something so doesn't do that much now.
Who has time to chat all day Is it a trust issue or boredom?

I never rang my ex he prefers women who "can't be without him" he even facetime with her when he is with his children he never has them overnight just for tea twice a week they cant be without each other for that long without calls texts facetime

Almost never call but we spend most days at work emailing back and forth about this and that.

He does overnights at work so we text when he’s there sometimes. Once he’s finished work and in his bed we sext until we fall asleep 😂

Aside from that our texts are mostly practical stuff.

I do enjoy texting him though, I rather like him and it still gives me the jumpies when I see a text from him on my phone!

I would never call him at work or on a night out, and neither would he. Why does your DH phone you on a night out ANiceLuxury? that would drive me nuts.

My DP always texts me when he is at work just to let me know he got there okay. FT's on his 15 min break to see/speak to DS.
I wouldn't text him if he was out as I really don't care 😂 as long as he got there okay.

Never.... But I work underground where there is no phone signal so he couldn't even if he wanted to.

Nope not alot occasionally on the way home but not every day-thinik id go insane and the facetime thing is odd

It's what both people in the couple are happy with that counts.

'FaceTimes him asking to speak to whoever he is with when he is out with friends...'

That bit sounds different- like a jealousy/posessiveness kind of thing. Sad.

Never call at work. We used to. We'd have a quick lunch break catch up. Then he moved office and I changed jobs so it wasn't doable anymore. We do keep in touch via WhatsApp over the course of the day. A quick 'how goes?' message when either of us get a minute and no bother if it goes unanswered as we know the other must be busy.
They're not overly informative messages, suppose we just like being in vague contact. Usually a message when we're each leaving work too.

On a night out, similar. Usually a message to say that we've arrived, then we might send a quick keeping in touch message part way through and then usually one to say we're on our way home. Husband was abroad on a jolly last week and messaged me from our friends phone to keep in touch. He didn't need to. It was nice that he was thinking of me though.

Are they happy with the way their relationships work?

What has it got to do with anyone else?

YABU to post on a forum like it has anything to do with you.

I never me phone husband at work unless it's urgent but we exchange the odd Whatsapp here and there, more so if we've got something going on or upcoming plans. On a night out he'll send a Whatsapp when he's on way home. If I'm on a night out I phone for a lift home .

When DH is away for work we do phone each other 1-2x a day, more if there is something urgent and DH may not read email immediately.

Otherwise only if there is anything urgent.

When out I normally check in to say good night to DD otherwise I just let him know when I am on my way back. DH does it similar.

We text throughout the day. Usually just moaning about work or discussing what's for dinner that evening.
Rarely call each other.
I might text once if he's on a night out and let him know I'm going to bed, have a good night.