To think dressing kids the night before in the next day clothes is lazy?

[Sweetpeach3]

Just read it in the paper and I think "how fucking lazy can you be"
It states it's because it suits her life right now. She has 2 young kids- so do I but I have them fed. Up and washed and changed by 8/8.30 of a morning I don't see the problem?
I couldn't imagen going out in clothes I'd slept in an not having a shower to wake myself up an feel clean! Specially my DD hair if it's not washed if a morning she looks like she's been hit by a hurricane and nothing. I mean NOTHING sorts that shit out other then a proper shampoo and condition!!
Takes 10 mins to wash dress and sort 2 kids out if you put effort into it I just get up half an hour earlier to get myself ready then by the time I'm done I hear them slowly rise....
. Have your clothes ready the night before obviosuly but that's it. Imagen going out in creased sweaty clothes you'd slept in?? What on earth or am I missing something ?

Just read it in the paper and I think...

You could try living in the real world rather than getting worked up about stories from the imagination of tabloid gossip-mongers.

You get your kids washed and dressed in 10 minutes even though you wash and condition your daughters hair every day otherwise you don’t think she looks nice?

Ridiculous expectations to have of a young girl. Presumably the boy doesn’t have to look so perfect?

@Sweetpeach3

When they are really little I do the morning change with cotton wool and water, then top and tailed and into a fresh baby grow at least. Within a week or two, they know that the morning has begun because of that routine. As they get older I will do similar (really careful nappy change, face wash) but often it's easier to get them into a shower and my eldest does what I do now, relaxing bath to unwind before bed and clean pjs and quick shower to wash the night off in the morning.

I'm wondering if I'm a bit obsessive now but I love our routine and wouldn't change it. I don't use much in the way of products though, just bubbles in their bath and shampoo/conditioner as needed. I co-wash my kids hair though because they have curly hair.

I only wash my hair twice a week since doing curly girl. Mine isn't very curly, but it has been a game changer in terms of its condition. So might be worth a try on your daughter? Weirdly I used to get a very greasy hair line shampoo ing a lot, now I just clean my hair line with micellar water and cotton wool when I take my makeup off at night and do a quick wash twice a day with some face wash and honestly my hair looks lush and clean for 3-4 days now. It looked dreadful for a few weeks, but now people stop me to tell me how lovely my hair looks which has never happened to me before

“I work in a salon an tried spreys an tangle brushes to see if they work an they don't as after 10 mins it goes back to square frizz!”

The frizz btw, is because it’s dry and probably damaged.

washing that often and using a brush and hairdryer is pretty much the exact opposite of what you should be doing with curly hair...

This has to be the stupidest reason for wearing pyjamas though. Flame resistant pyjamas??

I also thought, “there speaks someone who wasn’t alive in the eighties”.

I don't wash my dc in the morning. They have a bath before bed, get in their pj’s and go to bed. When they wake up I change them into fresh, clean, clothes and they go to school. If they’re very sweaty in the morning or it’s very hot, I will give them a wipe down in the morning, possibly a quick shower for older dc. They are always in fresh clothes though. Even when we’re having a pj day, I change them out of their bedtime pj’s and put fresh ones on!

It's not a great look accusing other parents of being lazy when you can't be bothered to put a d on "and". Setting a good example in education is just as important as in hygiene.

My dd had double the hair of the average adult whilst still in primary according the the hairdresser. It is very far from straight. It’s far easier and less damaging to spend 5 mins before bed to plait hair and apply a little oil - I prefer Aussie miracle oil out of anything - to prevent the morning frizz than washing and styling daily. If it’s whispy or relatively short, french / Dutch plaits would be an option. I actually had to not allow dd to wash her hair every day as she wanted to to avoid damage.

@Besidesthepoint
In answer to your comment about my response to op about daily hair washing, Women with Afro hair are advised against daily washing to avoid damage and breakage. Wetting down, yes. Ditto curly hair.

yea I have to she's only 2 so it's short an it goes like a fuzzy matted at the back and I really cannot brush it. Iv tried everything an their is no controlling it atm because of the length it's awful! She has curly hair so that doesn't help it an the only way she will let me brush it without hurting her is to wash an condition it then blast it with the hair dryer. I work in a salon an iv tried most things an nothing works ! Guess it's a routine so really doesn't take long what so ever x

Please don't do this. And the hair dryer will only increase the amount of damage... What is your DDs's hair type / curl pattern?

you might simply wet it down? Or how about doing a co wash instead?

Plaits, knots (=protective hairstyles) should help keeping it from tangling btw. Hair wraps and silk pillows may be helpful as well.

@CravingCheese her hair is to short to plait Iv tried it does one tie then that's it. It's been like this since birth so can't see it been dry hair x

I agree its yuk but your post is very smug.🙄

@HelloDulling As I said, on MN, on threads giving tips to full time working mums.

How short is her hair? Is it growing or does it seem like it stays about the same length?

What is her curl type?

OP, your daughter's hair is matted because of what you're doing to it, it's a vicious circle.

Get this book, which is basically the curly hair bible, and use it as a guide: Curly Girl the Handbook www.amazon.co.uk/dp/076115678X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_Pv-UDb9DK01GR?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

It also has a chapter on kids specifically I think.

But the main points are:

• Absolutely no shampoo with sulfates, parabens, detergents etc.
• Ideally no shampoo whatsoever, use a conditioning cowash
• No frequent washing (once or twice a week at most)
• No brushing (you should absolutely never brush curly hair, only detangle when wet)
• Leave in conditioner and optionally gel to protect the hair while drying.
• No heat styling ever ever ever

I know you work in a salon but most hairdressers are absolutely clueless about how to handle naturally curly hair and keep it healthy.

Get that book, seriously, before you damage that child's hair any more.

There are a lot of curly-suitable products out there. I use the As I Am cowash and leave in conditioner on both hair and my curly haired toddler's. But you might need to try a few things and tweak the method to work for you.

I agree with your on principle but Jesus how sweaty and smelly do your kids get overnight 😂 it wouldn’t bother me every so often (e.g popping them in comfies and grabbing them straight out of bed to car for early flights etc) but part of preparing children for life is surely modelling how to get up and ready for the day.

In answer to your comment about my response to op about daily hair washing, Women with Afro hair are advised against daily washing to avoid damage and breakage. Wetting down, yes. Ditto curly hair.

I have frizzy, curly, fine hair and I wash it daily. As I said I use a good product and sometimes wash with only conditioner. My hair is healthy. I treat it gently, But I do wash it daily. Like I said, it depends on the type and the right products. The curly girl method also involves washing, but then mostly with a conditioner. It might be nevessary for some to not wash it as often, but I don't think that one method will work for ALL women with X type hair. Which is why I used the words "some" and "might". For the OPs daughter daily washing might be an option, that is for them to figure out.

not having bedtime clothes is always included as a sign of neglect- it is (obviously) a sign that the parents can’t cope with the basics. There is a problem if parents can’t cope with dressing their children in the morning.

Also there is nothing wrong with washing your hair every day. Millions do.

@Ziraphale wrecked hair? Mind is washed every day and I get compliments on it a lot. It is really shiny and soft, my hair or really fine and looks greasy quickly pus I notice if I’m cooking etc it picks up some odours. My hair is not ‘wrecked’ or dry it have a lovely shine and softness and I only condition once a week. Everyone is different you see.

My friend used to do this when she was going to work. She was a nurse and her children were dropped at nursery at 7am. By doing this, she could literally pick them out of bed, into the car and drop them off. She knew it wasn’t ideal, but it was necessary for her life at the point. Her children were very well cared for, and her husband used to finish work early to collect them at 3.45, but the early morning made it all a bit tight.

I think many of these things are situational, and actually for her, this was the least stressful option for everyone involved.

I get up at 6AM to have my DD ready for nursery and out the door by 8AM and I have a newborn... would never let her sleep in her clothes takes 5 minutes to get her changed and washed.... it is very lazy!

"Well that explains Boris always looking like he's slept in his clothes"

I know someone who does this. She's a lot of children fairly close in age. They go to bed in the clothes they are to wear the next day. These clothes aren't changed daily (due to the volume of washing that would produce - underwater was changed), they shower twice a week maximum (cost of heating water), and bed sheets changed only after bed wetting or vomited on.

Maybe it's because I don't have this special, unique, ability to smell like many posters believe they have, who can detect rankness for 5 km away, but I can honestly say I'd wouldn't have know until she told me. They weren't gross, grim, dirty or smelly.

There were most certainly dirtier clothed children in the class, who were often riddled with nits the poor things. Her children never come to school with nits either - their hair was checked regularly and combed when needed.

I used to do this when I was 14/15.

I would shower before bed and put on my school uniform all except my blazer.

It was mainly because I was lazy and didn’t want to get up until the last possible minute but also because I wanted the time I did have to be spent doing my hair and makeup.
I must not have moved much in the night at that age because my shirt was never creased.

At the time I thought I was a genius.
A few of my friends did it too.

Some people with for example curly, frizzy or afro hair might need to wash it every day to be able to comb/brush it without breaking or frizzing
People with afro hair (my DD) don't need to wash it every day and are advised to wash it less often than European hair. I have curly hair and wash it every 3 or 4 days. Some people are obsessive abot hair washing.

When I was teaching it was a 'thing' that some children went to bed in their school uniform to save time in the morning. It was yukky, certainly, to sleep in their day clothes but not necessarily dirty. They could be having a bath at night (I doubt if these children were though).