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To think dressing kids the night before in the next day clothes is lazy?

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Sweetpeach3 · 31/10/2019 21:09

Just read it in the paper and I think "how fucking lazy can you be"
It states it's because it suits her life right now. She has 2 young kids- so do I but I have them fed. Up and washed and changed by 8/8.30 of a morning I don't see the problem?
I couldn't imagen going out in clothes I'd slept in an not having a shower to wake myself up an feel clean! Specially my DD hair if it's not washed if a morning she looks like she's been hit by a hurricane and nothing. I mean NOTHING sorts that shit out other then a proper shampoo and condition!!
Takes 10 mins to wash dress and sort 2 kids out if you put effort into it I just get up half an hour earlier to get myself ready then by the time I'm done I hear them slowly rise....
. Have your clothes ready the night before obviosuly but that's it. Imagen going out in creased sweaty clothes you'd slept in?? What on earth or am I missing something ?

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JuneB1979 · 01/11/2019 22:31

I have 6 children too, my oldest is now 19 and my youngest 7 so I had all 6 to take on the school run and I never needed to have them dressed the night before to stop us from running late, you get up early enough to make sure everyone has time to get ready. Sleeping in their day clothes for the following day is disgusting

Peggywoolley · 01/11/2019 22:38

I really disagree with all the shame-mongering on here though. Disgusting - really? For a child to wear a top to bed and the next day? I think some people need to chill.

And I agree with a pp that it’s weirder to wash a child’s hair every morning.

Quitedrab · 01/11/2019 22:58

I agree @peggywoolley. I find the horror at the idea a lot weirder than the idea itself.

Sandii · 01/11/2019 23:06

Kids sweat at night ....they’d be all clammy and damp in the morning 🙄

ClientListQueen · 01/11/2019 23:08

I've only done it when I was doing an agricultural course at uni. Put breeches and t shirt on, go to bed, up at 6am for stable duties Blush we all did it

Hair washing... I only wash mine every 3-4 days. Never shampoo, never brush it, and a full hair wash including drying takes about 90 mins and I don't have the time to do that before work!

MRSsqueak · 01/11/2019 23:12

my friend saw this earlier and thought it was amazing. i have a totally different view. i think its gross. how lazy do you have to be? clothes will be creased and even a baby or toddler sweats loads during the night. no and no couldnt do that. and i dont have a perfect house im not a snob or a germ freak i just think its pretty scummy

Quitedrab · 01/11/2019 23:18

Kids don't sweat a lot at night unless they're overheated? Maybe take some blankets off.

Canary123 · 01/11/2019 23:19

In never slept in my school clothes to bed but i was made to sleep in my clothes. It felt so uncomfortable, but this was my normal.I still struggle with hyfiene as an adult😞

Legomadx2 · 01/11/2019 23:20

Sleeping in running gear @SimonJT ?

That must have disgustingly sweaty!

PlanDeRaccordement · 01/11/2019 23:22

I don’t understand why people think it is gross to not shower in the morning if you’ve showered the night before and done nothing but sleep in a clean bed. Anyone who does has to shower both evening and morning.

If you only shower in the morning then you have no leg to stand on saying evening showers are gross. After all adults and kids get far sweatier and dirty during the day going to work and school than tucked up in bed. If you only wash/shower in the morning you go to bed with all the dried on sweat and accumulated filth from a day out and about. Is your bed dirtier than a metro train? A class full of snot dribbling toddlers? The communal office kitchen and toilets? Because that is what you are sleeping in stuck in your hair and skin if you go to bed at the end of the day without showering.

Legomadx2 · 01/11/2019 23:29

I've read most of the thread. Lots of parents defending their idleness. I think it's gross. And I have three DC, one with special needs, and a DH who's away a lot. I still don't do this and never have. Just got up early enough.

However in the case of SEN then fair enough, whatever works. To the others, it's sheer laziness/poor hygiene.

You know how in every class there's at least a child or two who smell? This thread explains how that can happen. The parents who do it on this thread are all saying they shower at night so it's perfectly fine.

They just don't know everyone else thinks their child smells.

flyingspaghettimonster · 01/11/2019 23:32

It is lazy and weird. Sounds like something kids would do a long time ago when they all had to fight over the clothes and they didn't have proper blankets.

I also think it weird bathing a child in the morning though. Surely before bed makes more sense. And if you do both, so freaking wasteful on water.

sam221 · 02/11/2019 00:14

just no!!!

FuntimeFranky · 02/11/2019 00:18

Gosh, genius! Why didn’t I think of that when my two were young?!😂

havingamadmoment · 02/11/2019 00:30

I have a few more than two and I am not known for being particular about things but this is odd even for me.

My kids are sweaty and messy looking when they wake up I can’t imagine them ever being fresh if they sleep in their clothes.

Also the getting washed a dressed part of the day is important for kids routines etc.
I have no reason to do this mine are all homeschooled so could stay In pjs if we wanted but it just feels icky!

Mothership4two · 02/11/2019 04:45

My 2 used to wake up too hot and sweaty in the morning to not get changed. It is not something I would have ever thought about and I hate mornings. I suppose if she is putting her daughters in clean clothes every night it is not that bad, but not something I would do - I guess it's a pride thing.

My son has adhd and getting dressed/washed was a nightmare. I actually had a teacher tell me (before diagnosis) to bring him into school in his pyjamas "to teach him a lesson" - I didn't. But I still wouldn't have done this.

Lifeover · 02/11/2019 04:52

I would say if it’s got to the stage where she hasn’t got time to get her kids ready in the morning and sends them out in bed sweat dirty crumpled clothes her life is really not working right now. This is probably the most visible symptom of this.

PlanDeRaccordement · 02/11/2019 05:49

@Legomadx2
How can it be “poor hygiene” or “idleness” when my family and kids wash with exactly the same frequency as do you and your family? Hmmmm? Why is washing at 7am superior to washing at 7pm when both families are showering every 24hrs at a minimum? Objectively they are equally hygienic and take the same work.

PlanDeRaccordement · 02/11/2019 05:56

Mothership & lifeover- what are your children doing in their sleep that can make them dirtier than a day awake running around? Perhaps they only seem extra dirty to you in the morning because you put them to bed dirty.
By washing in the evening, everyone goes to bed clean and sleeping is the cleanest activity there is so you wake up clean.

I’m not saying my way is better, just trying to get you to see that morning or evening are both perfectly hygienic and results in clean nonsmelly kids and adults. It does not matter which hour in 24 you wash so long as you wash at least once.

Mothership4two · 02/11/2019 06:37

@PlanDeRaccordement I didn't say dirty I said they woke up hot and sweaty. My ds are older now and sort themselves out, but when they were younger they would wash or have a bath and clean their teeth before bed and wash/brush teeth in the morning.

If I went to bed dressed for the next morning, I would feel really uncomfortable the during the day, no matter how clean I was when I went to bed. So I wouldn't have ever thought of doing this .to my kids.

It's not the end of the world, it's just not something I would do.

Rtruth · 02/11/2019 06:41

Reference the article. Fake news

Mothership4two · 02/11/2019 06:44

sleeping is the cleanest activity there is so you wake up clean

I think washing/bathing/showering are the cleanest activities there are! And you do sweat in your sleep. I don't have greasy skin, but my face gets a little oily in places by morning. Washing once in 24 hours wouldn't be enough for me.

kasmac · 02/11/2019 06:44

I have often thought for the parents that wear PJs on the school run. Why don’t they wear leggings and a tshirt to bed then they wouldn't look like such lazy slobs on the school run! I read this article foo, It’s just so lazy, it’s not setting a good example / routines for the kids - I bet she doesn’t skip her own beauty routines in the morning...kids should come first. Kids get picked on and bullied for enough reasons without given them another.....you stink etc 😬. I put a pleat in my daughters hair at night to save tugs when brushing in the morning but sleeping in clothes no way!!! Another mum once said to me she washed her daughters hair once a week and whilst still wet tied it up tight into a high pigtail......and it stayed in all week....seriously WTF her scalp must hurt like hell when it comes out 😰. For anyone that didn’t see the article, this is it www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/family/mum-puts-children-bed-wearing-20783040.amp

Legomadx2 · 02/11/2019 06:59

We wash morning and evening @PlanDeRaccordement , putting in clean clothes afterwards.

Going to school in sweat soaked crumpled clothing is dirty and shows parental idleness.

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