AIBU to ask if you've met your Ex's new partner?

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Just that really. How did it go? Did you invite her round to yours or meet somewhere else?

Depends what you mean by new as they've been together nearly 5 years. Ex and I co parent so I have met her.

There was no "formal" meeting. Forced and unnecessary in my opinion. If I'm going to co parent then I need to trust my ex's judgment and I don't need to vet his partners, same goes for him if I had a partner.

I first met her when they dropped DS off one day, said a quick hello and that was that. We started having longer chats after that.

I'm now friends with her on social media and we chat on there occasionally. We are all taking DS trick or treating tonight.

I’ve met her briefly, exH does his best to keep her out of my way in case I tell her she was the OW, and that she wasn’t the only one either.

I think she’s a bit of a dick personally but my daughter really likes her so that’s all that really matters to me.

No1 didn't need to - she was a family friend!!
No2 - yes in the pub - with EX and all good but then she is a competely different person and we are on the same wavelength.

@stuffedpeppers do you still speak to this 'family friend?' Must be so awkward

No and I’m not arsed about it. There’s been more than one and as long as they’re nice to my kids and they’re not witnessing anything like what their dad put me through that’s all that matters. Ex hasn’t met my partner of more than 2 years and he won’t be if we have anything to do with it.

No. And a bit like @GingersAreLush I'm not bothered. As long as she treats the kids well and doesn't impact his relationship with them. I figure we'll cross paths at some point.

She however hates me (despite having never met me), will actively avoid me and has me blocked on all social media 🤷🏼‍♀️

Kids are older though, maybe I'd feel different if they were younger.

I’ve met her. We’re on ‘nodding” terms but I have no desire to talk to her or meet her properly.

In the last 10 years she has lied to her own children, she’s slept with two of her friends’ husbands, she’s betrayed her own husband, and she returned to her husband for purely financial reasons before leaving again.

I wouldn’t be rude, I prefer to stay silent but I don’t want a friend with values like that.

I've never "met" her and we haven't had a discussion or even a hello.
Bit like my husbands ex, who ignores my existence despite my best efforts.

It's all just a harmonious group of non talking, co-parenting joyfulness.

Yes, she knew nothing of my existence, so oddly enough she is also is ex now!!!

My non-cheating non-scumbag ex is my best friend, so my boyfriend, my nice ex and I often go on nights out together.

Have briefly said hello. She pays no attention to my son, I have no interest in getting to know her, and any woman who sees the pathetic 'effort' ex makes with his only child and still thinks he's an attractive match is a dick imo. Couldn't give one solitary fuck about her. Will not be getting to know her better.

Yes. I introduced myself one day when she was with him at drop off. She looked as awkward as hell despite my efforts. For a year or so I bought her and her son birthday gifts, and thank you gifts when my kids went to stay at hers. I spoke to her again once when the kids went on holiday with her. She had ignored me completely since, even though I've still bought thank you items and a wedding gift for them. They're a pair of dicks and they deserve each other. She's horrible to my kids.

* For a year or so I bought her and her son birthday gifts, and thank you gifts when my kids went to stay at hers. I spoke to her again once when the kids went on holiday with her. She had ignored me completely since, even though I've still bought thank you items and a wedding gift for them. They're a pair of dicks and they deserve each other. She's horrible to my kids.*

WTF
She is horrible to your children and yet you buy her presents and thank you gifts?

Yes, she came to one of my daughters birthday parties after ex asked. Was OK as lots going on so got to meet her without feeling the need to make awkward conversation for ages.

My exDH is living with a lovely woman! She’s kind, friendly and we get on really well. In fact her and the ex came to my recent Wedding to my new DH. We’ve been out a few times in a group too.

I had some things which beloved to my ex which I knew were of great sentimental value to him but which he hadn't collected. After a few years I finally got him to pick them up from my workplace (a large public organisation). He brought his new fiancee because he wanted us to meet. Quite honestly all I wanted was to see the back of him for ever, I wasn't the least bit interested in him or his fiancee and I would be extremely happy if I never saw him again. No children together and absolutely no ties whatsoever. Why on earth would be think either me or his new fiancee would want to meet each other!

Yeah, he started moving her in before I was allowed to leave his house.

@MaryShelley1818

I hope we can be like that. My ex and I get on brilliantly, he just decided he didn't want to be married to me and quite frankly our lives were stale together. If we can coexist well it's better for the kids

Yes, she’s lovely. His ex-wife was less so, and I knew her too.

Yes, I introduced them. She pretended to be my friend while she was seducing him behind my back. Afterwards she was surprised that I wouldn't just let go of my anger and that I refused to see her. For some reason most of his friends hate or distrust her as well. Ah well, not my life, not my problem.

No, no idea why I would want to.

Yes and in the beginning I thought she was ok, until she fel pregnant and moved in in double quick time. And as soon as she was living there she decided she hated me and complained about the amount of money I take from “them” despite the fact that they’re not married so the money isn’t her’s anyway and is, you know, to support his child.

Mind you my ex did describe her to me once as “a pregnant hormonal fiancé” and I don’t imagine she knows about that.

I bought presents for her and her DD on DS’ behalf one Christmas and ex asked DS to make sure that she didn’t know I’d bought them because it might upset her. So I decided that she can get stuffed in future so I didn’t bother again. Except the next year ex complained that DS hadn’t bought her or her daughter anything. Well be careful what you wish for innit?

I don’t wish them any ill but couldn’t give a stuff about her either.

Yep. She was allegedly one of my friends

It all happened kind of gradually. I actually love her. She's a lovely person, a good mother to her own children and step mother to my son. She's just a good soul. Pity she's stuck with my ex who is an arsehole!

Never met her and they been together for 12 yrs. Not seen or spoke to the ex for 4 or 5 yrs. Neither have my 2 daugters seen him or her for many years, they speak to him on the phone now and then.

I tried, but she's batshit. Resents child support, interferes, sends vile messages via Ex. I don't blame her - Ex makes people extremely unhappy. They're welcome to each other.

I visited their house once and depression lined the walls. Horrible.