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To thinkHE should use blinds? Or us?

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elephantsocks · 31/10/2019 10:26

We have a kitchen extension with bifold doors since we have this done we can see the man from the house that backs into us walking around naked every night as we sit down for dinner. NO Matter what time we eat.
My husband wants to complain to him but I think it's probably his right to do what he likes in his own house and we would just be told to get blinds. ( I really don't want blinds)
It's extremely off putting and the kitchen configuration means we can't avid seeing him.

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TreestumpsAndTrampolines · 31/10/2019 13:41

The best thing would be half blinds for him (although, it's going to have to be you that gets blinds - can't really see a reasonable way around that)

The top half of the windows stays open, and he just puts blinds on the bottom half up to the level required to block unfortunate views - no real effect for him view-wise (unless he sits cross-legged on the floor), great relief for you.

1forAll74 · 31/10/2019 13:43

He must have some good heating in his room,to be naked all the time. It's chilly in my house, I don't even wan't to take my cardi and fluffy socks off.!

Mummyoflittledragon · 31/10/2019 13:46

Seeing as your children are teens and possibly not yet 18, you could complain to the police. Doesn’t matter that they think it’s hilarious. Neighbour and police don’t need to know this. Were you out in your garden at night and not in the extension, you’d still see him. The extension hasn’t caused the problem. It’s highlighted it. There’s a difference.

NoSauce · 31/10/2019 13:49

Odd behaviour from him. Sounds like he’s getting off on this to me. I mean it’s November tomorrow for christ sakes.

BlastEndedSkrewt · 31/10/2019 13:50

you could perhaps be neighbourly & wrap him up a willy warmer for Christmas

PinkpompomDaisy · 31/10/2019 13:55

I think if you see him each time you have a meal, he is doing it on purpose.

But you can’t stop him, so install trees at the end of your garden, or some kind of willow panels.

Anything to break the line of sight, and give him back his privacy.

PinkpompomDaisy · 31/10/2019 13:58

One of those arty sail canopies. ?

Whatever you chose, it’s not his problem, I’m afraid it’s yours.

If you did involve the police, I suspect he will find some other way.

I suspect he doesn’t like your extension impinging on his privacy, and neighbours like this, as far as mumsnet is concerned, never seem to give up

EleanorShellstrop100 · 31/10/2019 14:09

YABVU to consider complaining to someone about what they do in their own home! Of course you should just get some blinds!

ChrisPrattsFace · 31/10/2019 14:14

You waved at him... he thinks you like it and he’s doing it for you 😂😂

hallohallohallo · 31/10/2019 14:30

If he knows you can see him and he continues to do it then I can only think he enjoys being seen. Have any of your other neighbours said anything about the situation? I think the only thing you can do it get blinds or perhaps a well placed tree or large shrub? A fast growing bamboo in a well contained pot might do the trick?

BigFatLiar · 31/10/2019 14:37

Perhaps he's a naturist.

Put voile curtains up or a blind as you say, perhaps he's equally offended by being able to see into your house.

BigFatLiar · 31/10/2019 14:40

As to the original question...

To think HE should use blinds? Or us?

You both should. Blinds or curtains when it goes dark.

Loaf90 · 31/10/2019 14:41

😂😂😂

bobstersmum · 31/10/2019 14:45

I'm jealous, you've got your very own ugly naked guy! If you can't beat em, join em?

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elephantsocks · 31/10/2019 14:58

Lol Hmm I'm getting the blinds !!
Just considering whether to have SPOILT YOUR FUN!
In flashing lights put on the outside of them for him to see

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Candle1000 · 31/10/2019 15:06

You need one of these Grin

To thinkHE should use blinds? Or us?
pinksoda35 · 31/10/2019 15:10

We have this issue also!
From our Kitchen we can see into a Neighbours Bedroom window-They have a ensuite and shower with the door open(the bathroom is right opposite the bedroom window)
The man then thinks nothing off it to stroll around his bedroom in all his glory! He made the bed once-that was fun!!!
Our next door Neighbours have seen him too and asked us if we too see him
We do have curtains and will use them( he prefers not too)
We do try not to look! but the kids are aware now and think its funny
I am sure he does not know! then again.......

Spottedchick · 31/10/2019 15:12

You should. I had a visit from the police who asked if I lived with a teenage boy. They said the family who lived in the house that my house backed onto were worried that my son was taking photos of their young daughters as they noticed a flash from his room. The officer said she knew exactly what was happening but could she chat to my son and see his room. When she saw where his bed was, she asked did he lie on his bed snapchatting etc which of course he does. I said that in future I'd ask him to close his curtains and she said he shouldn't have to, he's doing nothing wrong and instead the family needed to get blinds or curtains put up.

NaturalBornWoma · 31/10/2019 15:25

Weird responses having a go at the OP for building an extension when he's got a loft conversion with massive windows presumably overlooking her property. He sounds like he's doing it deliberately to me, it's not normal to prance around starkers every night at supper time with the lights on and huge unscreened windows.

Imonlymoominafterall · 31/10/2019 15:45

He must be a member of Extension Rebellion. Grin

PhilCornwall1 · 31/10/2019 15:46

Whilst we weren't naked in the house, me and my wife had a spur of the moment snog in the kitchen this morning (terrible behaviour at our ages!! Confused) and the neighbour behind us decided she was going to stare in from her landing.

Our take on it was, if you don't want to see it, don't look.

PhilCornwall1 · 31/10/2019 15:48

He must be a member of Extension Rebellion.

If he was, he'd have glued his cock to the window Shock

meganxz · 31/10/2019 15:51

I don't understand why you wouldn't want curtains/blinds? I think it's so tacky when you walk past a house and you can see them doing everything inside.

You both need blinds. Or curtains.

AryaStarkWolf · 31/10/2019 15:52

Friends round at OPs house

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WorraLiberty · 31/10/2019 15:57

Your teenagers think it's funny, so it's just you and your husband who have a problem with it.

Is it far too simple a suggestion, for you both to sit facing inwards with your back to him? Confused

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