To thinkHE should use blinds? Or us?

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We have a kitchen extension with bifold doors since we have this done we can see the man from the house that backs into us walking around naked every night as we sit down for dinner. NO Matter what time we eat.
My husband wants to complain to him but I think it's probably his right to do what he likes in his own house and we would just be told to get blinds. ( I really don't want blinds)
It's extremely off putting and the kitchen configuration means we can't avid seeing him.

I think if you all stand as close to the glass as possible, watching and laughing hysterically, he may put some clothes on.

you've invaded his privacy with your extension so TBH I'd put up with it or get blinds.
We have naked neighbour across the rd many a day we are blessed with the back view of a 23 stone man bending down to out his boxers on kids 15/17 find it hilarious

You are in your extension which I assume is on the ground floor.

He is in his loft.
Perhaps he doesn’t realise that you can see him, he might think the difference in height makes it unlikely.

Why can’t you post a diagram?

We live in an urbanbuilt up area everyone including him has extensions.
He can only see our kitchen from his loft. He did not seek our permission to do his loft conversation and I wouldn't have expected him to I'm sure he went through the usual planning channels as did we.
He has a house not a flat.
We cannot see into his kitchen or first floor bedrooms- because of trees fence etc. he can only see into our house from his loft which is where we see him .
Our garden is s reasonable length approx 70 feet his around the same so we are not super close to him. But when his loft is ablaze with lights in the evening all is illuminated vey clearly.
Thanks for the answers - I'm going to get super duper remote controlled blinds and block him and his meat and two veg from my sight!!!

Hold up a sign that says ‘nice bum, shame about your tiny willy’

So you're looking up at his genitalia from below?

Surely you must be having to look up to see him?
So stop looking up there. Just ignore it.
Or have the blinds closed at the top so the top part of your view is hidden if you see what I mean, so you can still see the garden.

Or a sign saying “my extension is bigger than your”.

He's over 140 feet away! Surprised you can see that much tbh.

just put up a sign in your kitchen window that says, you have a very small penis, he will stop it

You don't have to get expensive blinds, there are some really nice ones available at reasonable prices. Or you could go for curtains.

Glad you're getting some blinds, OP, that's the only way to ensure you don't see things you don't want to!

I'm so glad my neighbours don't do this, the sight of any of them in the nude would put me right off my food.

I'd go for the blinds if you can't create a screen as you created the situation and it doesn't sound like he is visible from a public street.

I used to have a neighbour that rarely used to close their blinds when they showered despite it being a very public window. I never had the nerve to tell them but I should have, we just closed the curtains.

If you’re on the ground floor and he’s in the loft, surely you have to actively look upwards to see him? If your eyes are mainly directed at your dinner, your family and your own garden at floor level, surely he doesn’t come into your sight line?

Definitely a protest statement to do that.

Firstly is he in good shape and or well equipped?😂. Secondly as he is aware you can see him I would get all my friends round for a good look (all waving and staring) and buy one of those really powerful spotlight torches so he is lit up. Then we'll see how confident he is!

"I took advise from the police who told me that if someone complained that a child had seen him nAked it could be considered an offence. I can't remember what they said but maybe something to do with exhibitionism ?"

I remember an episode of The Bill where the police were called in to deal with a woman changing in front of a window that lots of people could see. It's an old episode, but I presume must be based on some kind of law for the programme to have shown the police intervening.

Gross.

Yes, yes, everyone's free to walk around naked in their own home, but seriously, some people seem to be exhibitionists. Doing that at night, with the light son, when you have huge, unscreened windows? That's just not right.

I'd be annoyed to have the view of my garden ruined, but on the other hand, if he's doing it at night, isn't it too dark to afford you much of a view of the garden, anyway? I'd probably grumble and put up blinds.

Maybe you could send him anonymous "gifts" of underwear, robe, etc.

• lights on!

I'm struggling to picture exactly what the line of sight is. I originally assumed that you could see him through your bifold doors, in which case I would put in a brise soleil, horizontal to the ground rather than the type that is fitted onto the window. But the more that you describe it the more it sounds like you have extensive roof lights or a partially glass ceiling in which case blinds would make more sense and would probably be useful in the summertime too to prevent overheating.

I completely agree that people have the right to walk about naked in their own homes but I think there is a difference between just going about your business behind net curtains and literally hanging about in front of a wall of windows in an illuminated room with nothing at the windows. Knowing others can see you when they are in their home kind of changes it in my view.
I'm sitting on my sofa now and I just looked out of my window and at eye level I see right into my neighbour's upstairs window so I don't think OP will be stretching her neck to peep at the naked guy in his loft. Being respectful of neighbours works both ways. OP hasn't done anything wrong in having her extension and I don't agree that this guy can be as naked as he likes with no curtains or blinds up. Yes it is rude to look into people's windows but it can be tricky not to sometimes when just looking out of your own. I guess blinds/curtains are the only answer but I don't think what he's doing is 100% okay to be honest.

This reminds me of why i was right to object to the Planning Permission for a housing development opposite our house a numbers of years ago. The developers wanted to put glass sun rooms on the south facing side of the houses - including on the main bedroom. The only thing these sun rooms would overlook is the houses across the road (so no open aspect view). I really did not want to be subjected to a view of scantily clad occupants every time i opened my bedroom x 3/living room/dining room curtains. Thankfully they were turned down as not being in keeping with the area!

Sounds to me OP like he is doing it deliberately so the only solution is for you to block his audience!

Sounds like an exhibitionist, one of my relatives was. When she came to stay with us, she deliberately opened the curtains at night and walked around naked, where she could be seen by anyone walking down the road. We found out after one of our neighbours informed us - really embarassing. We don't invite her around anymore.

I love the suggestion of having a group of friends round to all stand at the window laughing. Pity it's not warmer, you could have a garden party and see if he dared to do it then. Some sparkling fairy lights on your window or just outside might attract his attention in the case that he hasn't noticed you, but sounds unlikely.