I've known this guy for about a year. He got married when he was 25 to the woman he has been since he was 19. He's 34 now.
We are just good friends and I do find him amusing.
However.
In the year I have known him alone, he has had three affairs. His wife is also pregnant and due to give birth in January.
The first affair, I let RIP on him. The second one he told me about, i blanked. Now the third one has ended as they always end: with the OW dumping him.
He is doing what he always does, I don't quite understand the process: swing from self pitying and loathing, to raging about the OW. Hes a highly functioning alcoholic with a successful business however he starts drinking at 11.
I'm not sure what I'm asking. Sometimes I think of his wife and feel so angry on her behalf. I don't know her. He tells me she is distraught because shes pregnant and hes out and about and unkind to her and doesn't give a shit.
This evening he wants me to meet him for a drink because hes "at the end of the line" and "i considered throwing myself under a train this morning". He will want me to meet him and tell him what a bad person he is as usual. He never hides his affairs out and about in town. It's like he doesn't care. It's like any attention, good or bad, is fine by him - as long as its attention. I think deep down hes a bit of a coward who settled down out of convention and now feels like he missed out. He seems to change his behaviour depending on the person in front of him. I have seen him manipulate in real time. He screenshots peoples messages in case he "needs" them later. I really hate how this term is bandied about but I do wonder whether he is an actual, clinical narcissist.
I'm not sure what I'm asking guys. Aside from the affairs we share a hobby and hes a pretty reliable and considerate friend, ironically. But I'm not sure how or why but I just get the sense I'm being used for something. I dont feel comfortable in this friendship anymore whilst at the same time valuing it. I dont know how to proceed.