Something happened a few years ago and although it doesn’t keep me up at night I’d be interested in some views.
In brief, I was with a previous DP for a few years and we had many mutual friends that we had known for close to 10 years (some couples, some not) as we had been friends before. We had an amicable break up due to just drifting apart. We stayed perfectly civil and occasionally caught up after work or by text but there was no chance of us getting back together, both agreed we had grown apart etc. No hard feelings whatsoever, or so I thought.
Initially I made an effort to continue to socialise with said mutual friends group despite it being awkward when ex-DP was there (which he often was). At first I was fine and we used to just chat normally and I thought hiding the awkwardness quite well for the sake of not making friends choose sides etc.
As the months went on, the invites to events became less and less frequent. A couple of texts to friends went unanswered. I had other friends so hadn’t worried about it too much. I was a bit puzzled as I presumed things would have been more awkward at first but it seemed that as the months went on this group were finding it harder and harder socialising/remaining friends with both of us.
I then saw via social media that a group of them including ex-DP had gone on a holiday together and I had known nothing about it. I invited all of them to a house warming party and they either totally ignored it or made an excuse why not to attend. One of the couples got married and I wasn’t invited, again I just found out on social media.
As I said, I have totally moved on friends wise and am now married myself and have nothing to do with these people whatsoever.
However, I remain totally baffled as to what on earth could have happened to have made this group of people totally disown me after this break up, when it was amicable (and as far as I know ex-DP wasn’t heartbroken). I was closer to some of these people than DP was and some of them I had known longer than him.
I know people will just say ‘they didn’t really like you’ but I’m totally baffled and think ex-DP must have fed them some lies or something.
Has anyone had similar happen?