I left xp 2 years ago and while I've been renting elsewhere he has stayed living in the joint house we own. I have been continuing to pay half the mortgage plus rent in my new place. However I've come back to the joint house for a few days and am appalled by the state of the place. Boxes of rusty tools everywhere. Two old leather sofas which have gone mouldy which he refuses to get rid of. I'm totally discussed and sad it has got to this. He won't roll his sleeves us to help, and I've only made a tiny dent working on it all day. He's now gone to the pub. I've offered to remove the sofas and decorate the room their in but he can't help me lift them as he has a 'bad back'. There is excuse after excuse. This is my house too, but he's driven me out with his mental and financial abuse as well as the junk he's living in. He's quite smug about it all and is telling me to 'stop nagging'. When we moved I had to change the kids schools and I lost loads of friends who don't bother to contact me anymore. I've just had enough.