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Partner and his mother talking about me behind my back

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Rmae · 27/10/2019 20:57

So I dont have anybody else to talk to about this but I just discovered that my partner and his mom has been talking about me behind my back. I saw all the messages on his phone when I went to set his alarm for work in the morning and saw a text from her asking if he was okay which I thought I would reply to on his behalf as he does the same for me, that's when I saw all the messages that I'm lazy, I dont do anything, I take ages to wash up my babies bottles and how I cant look after her properly. I've been suffering from depression for years now and now I'm suffering from postnatal depression on top, also my dad passed away very unexpectedly just less than a month after I gave birth. They both know this and I thought I had a fantastic relationship with them both so I thought they would understand, never did i imagine my own partner calling me a lazy bitch and his mom saying she'll have a go at me and that she has to look after my daughter because I cant do it properly and I'm lazy but my partner cant even look after our child for 5 minutes without calling me to have her back. Worst thing is we all live together at his moms and i dont have anywhere else to go. I dont know what else to do but I just want to take me and the baby and just leave them behind. Would you do the same?

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Lizzie0869 · 28/10/2019 00:05

I'm so sorry, OP, he and his mother are 2 disgusting human beings, and you really need to get yourself and your baby out of there for both your sakes. ThanksThanks

MoiraBrown101 · 28/10/2019 03:30

Go to your mums OP, start a new life without him. You'll be so much happier.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 28/10/2019 09:18

Exactly what @Lolapusht. Your Dad would want you and your child away from this guy safe and happy. You aren't happy now and your child will pick up on that the more they grow.

It sounds like your Mum is the best person to go too, she'll help you and you'll get back on your feet.

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 28/10/2019 16:26

Sweetheart go and go as soon as you can...ring your mum to meet you someplace.Take just what you need and start again..don;t even tell them you are going...You have your whole life in front of you if you could only see it and these two monsters have no place in it.Get to your mums have her look after you and protect you and go get some legal advice fast.Document the abuse and never ever return to that house again,Look forward not back,You and your baby will thrive away from this and you will be able to breathe again....do it you need to.You need to be strong for yourself and your little one or they may destroy her like they are destroying you and you need to save your child from this misery.Have courage and faith in yourself ...you can do this

HollowTalk · 28/10/2019 16:35

What would your dad suggest, OP? I'm sure he'd tell you to get the hell out of there.

Do you get along with your mum? Does she find it hard to stand up to your MIL?

BumbleBeee69 · 05/11/2019 19:57

Hi OP just checking in to see how you are ? Did you move back to your Mums Flowers

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