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6 year olds ears pierced for first time

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Miakaceysmummy22 · 27/10/2019 08:44

No judging but I had my daughters ears pierced 3 weeks ago after her asking for a couple of years, I talked with her about pain and what was involved so she knew. Anyway we went to Claire’s and one of the ears has been perfect however the other one I have had problems since day one as always seems to be gungy, I am still cleaning with the solution they provide but I think the earring is sitting a little too tight on this ear as it’s slightly bigger than the other so I am trying to get the butterfly back off but it seems well stuck on,even tried the good ear too and that’s not moving 😨 has anyone got any tips please, tia

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Tumbleweed101 · 27/10/2019 14:34

Get them checked. My daughter had hers done in summer hols. She caught them while drying herself after a bath one evening and one lobe swelled up so much it completely swallowed the ear ring 😮. She had to have a general to have a op to remove it. The ear has been showing a bit of redness and tightness before but nothing that had unduly worried me.

StripyHorse · 27/10/2019 14:44

I agree with proper piercer or pharmacy / doctor. A piercing studio may change the jewellery to something more suitable. Don't try this yourself.

Don't use the Claire's solution - sea salt and boiling water to bathe (cooled obvs). There is more info on piercing care on the NHS website.

If she sleeps on her side, it might be helpful to get a neck pillow (the u shape ones) and put a clean pillowcase / t-shirt on it then she can sleep with her ear in the hole.

Also, make sure DD does not touch her ears.... this will increase the risk of infection.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 27/10/2019 16:40

I wouldn't and am not judging about letting a child have their ears pierced. But I think it's important when doing so to research thoroughly and go somewhere reputable, not somewhere like Claire's that is well known for bad piercing practises.

TeachesOPeaches · 27/10/2019 16:44

As much as it will hurt, you need to get the salt water solution (homemade) into the piercing site, to start to wash the infection. If your DD can sit still for long enough, soak the lobe in some salt water solution for as long as possible.

Get her to a piercer.

Never go to Claire’s for piercing again.

Piercing should only be done with needles, not guns.

GreySheep · 27/10/2019 16:49

Claire’s piercing earrings have a groove in the stem so the butterfly sits wedged in the groove and a lot of force is needed to get it out.

Learnt the hard way with DD sadly.

Luckily lots of cleaning and never wearing those earring again once they were out solved it. But we had a lot of tears getting them out.

Iamnotagoddess · 27/10/2019 16:53

I Don know the ins and outs of gun v needle and fair enough what PPs have said, but slagging the OP off for going to Claire’s is closing the stable door after the horse has bolted isn’t it?

Iamnotagoddess · 27/10/2019 16:54

*don’t

Pumpkintopf · 27/10/2019 16:59

Those saying others shouldn't judge 'parenting choices' - @DC3dilemma's post below sums it up perfectly for me. The issue is around informed consent. A six year old can't give it.

she has had a potentially disfiguring and painful procedure performed on a child who can’t give meaningful consent, who now has an infection, and she thinks it’s fine to bury her head in the sand to avoid judgement.

All the arguments people make in these circumstances are nonsense-

She really wanted it -So what, my 6 year old really wants me to make him wings so he can fly.

She knows it’ll be painful- No she doesn’t, 6 year olds rarely understand the scope and range of pain

She knows she’ll need to take care of them -Again, no she doesn’t, not really. You wouldn’t get a dog on the basis that a 6 year understood they’d need to take care of it, would you?

UOkhun77 · 27/10/2019 17:03

How do suppose a 6 year old would be competent at looking after fresh piercings? I’d be worried she’d catch it playing at school and have it ripped out, that happened to a child at my school when we were around 8, it was horrible.

sparkles07 · 27/10/2019 17:05

Me and my daughter both had our ear pierced at Claire's recently. The backs are really difficult to remove! I can't get mine off, I don't want to mess with it too much, but it's not coming off with a yank.
When we had our ears done, they said if any issues or signs of infection, go to your gp.

Iamnotagoddess · 27/10/2019 17:07

Yes I think 6 is a bit young but the child isn’t my daughter so it’s none of my business.

Getting your ears pierced and getting a dog are non comparable.

Mushypeasandchipstogo · 27/10/2019 17:37

I would take them out, clean regularly with surgical spirit and then leave her ears well alone!

crosstalk · 27/10/2019 18:25

So at least four PPs up thread went to A&E because of bad or infected piercings. Hmm. Not sure that's what A&E should be doing.

Iamnotagoddess · 27/10/2019 18:27

I took my daughter to a beauticians to have her ears pierced, one went gammy so I took her to the GP - not A&E xx

Iamnotagoddess · 27/10/2019 18:27

Kisses

MrsMaiselsMuff · 27/10/2019 18:41

So moral of the story is...demand that clares take it off rather than doing it yourself - they put it on and therefore should know how they come off.

For fucks sake do not do this. Do not allow an untrained sales assistant cause more trauma (to the skin) than they already have.

If something is wrong see a pharmacist. They will advise on the best course of treatment, which may be self care, GP or even A&E.

greypetex · 27/10/2019 19:46

@alwayscauseastir

Your DD had her ears pierced at Claire's, they wouldn't help when the butterfly was stuck. It got massively infected to the point where she required sedation in A&E to have it removed, yet for some reason your 'moral of the story' is to get Claire's to do it

Have you any idea how ludicrous your story is?

Andysbestadventure · 27/10/2019 19:48

She could have an allergy to the metal, also. But I will judge, and yabvu to get her ears pierced so young. Think about exactly why women feel the need to adorn themselves with pretty things and suddenly it's all a bit of a grim notion in relation to young girls.

KevinsCarter · 27/10/2019 20:03

I think you are getting a rough time, OP. Yes, piercing at Claires is probably not the best but she didn't know. I've had piercings at claires from about 20 years ago. I've got over 20 now, and always go to a piercer.

My advice would be, salt water bath and leave it the fuck alone. It's only been 3 weeks and they take a long time. If it were my own ear, I'd get flat backs in asap.

Cryalot2 · 27/10/2019 20:12

Let the local pharmacist have a look . They can advise if infected or what to do.
Many years ago mine was done with a needle in a chemist. Dd had hers done in beauty salon and we had to let them close and have redone later. She was unfortunate and too young possibly .
Hope her ears heal soon

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