Time does your 6yo go to bed?

[CrouchedLioness]

DH has been bickering with me since I politely mentioned that 10pm is probably too late for his 6yo to go to bed. He has him from Friday after school through til Sunday tea time EOW. He has issues getting him to actually get in bed as he allows him to play video games up until it’s actually time so I imagine he’s still quite alert when it’s late. He gets up at 7am and is usually very grouchy from lack of sleep. I mainly mentioned it as I don’t want him to mess up any routine his son may have at home and then he’ll get it in the neck from his son’s mother. I have my own DD with him and she goes to bed at 7pm every night, she’s 4 so it’s probably easier I’m not sure? AIBU to think 10pm is too late? What time does everyone else’s under 10s go to bed?

I'd say between 7 and 8. Not as late as 10.

I have a 6 year old, he's in bed at 8 during the week but he's allowed to watch tv in his room until 10 at the weekend. He's never grumpy or tired.

I've never had bed times and the children knew when they felt tired and went to bed. However they weren't allowed to be charging around after 7 ish. They were never up at 10 and often in bed by around 8 at aged 6 and would wake up when they'd had enough sleep generally around 7am

6yo bedtime routine here: 6:30pm bath, 6:45 story, lie down with him for a bit and stroke his face. He listens to a story CD - I aim to have him asleep by 7.15/7.30.
He’s awake at around 6.15 every day.

No bedtime routine at dads and a lot of games - he’s a bloody nightmare when he comes home

13 year old ds is in bed asleep by 9.
Electronics off at 8.30
Children need their sleep !

What billandbenflowerpotmen said.

I'm curious to know when children get up too. I don't think a bedtime is too late if the child also gets up later. Sonetimes there's a weird virtue thing in this country around being a lark instead of an owl, and some people need less sleep than others.

According to this 10 hours is enough for some early primary age children (it is for mine, that NHS thing said 4yos should sleep almost 11 hours a night - I wish!)
sleepcouncil.org.uk/how-much-sleep-does-my-child-need/

So if they're going to bed at 8pm they could be up at 6am. Somehow that's more acceptable than going to bed at 9.30pm and up at 7.30am though. I know some people have to get up early to travel to school or whatever but assuming the school is close like ours, 7.30am is fine.

(Not directing this at anyone, just a comment about bedtimes in the UK).

I agree @toxicOven

Does your DH read to his DS at bedtime? The gaming suggests there's no time to. They're both really missing out on a special childhood thing if not.

You've married a chump.
730 is about right for age 6. Perhaps Friday or Saturday a bit later as no school the next day. Video games before bed are not appropriate.it reads like when dss is over your home is no longer yours and you have no say in what goes on?

I agree with posters saying I bet the child is a nightmare when he returns to mum though the week after party time at dads.

7-7.30 school night, 7.30-8 weekends and holidays, I don't think he should have a drastically different bed time to what he has in the week (I hope it's earlier in the week!)

@toxicoven my children have always slept 12 hours, they've been known to sleep 14 hours. I haven't noticed the older one needing any less sleep. I often have to wake them for school even with 7-7.30pm bedtime.
Going to bed later has the opposite effect of them waking earlier which I don't understand.

Not as early as some, but by about 8. Later on weekends if we are having fun. Rarely 10pm. We would go crazy.

@greysheep. Thanks that graphic is useful

DS is 6. He is settled down with a book by 8 latest but he doesnt go to sleep until around 9. Hes up at 7ish. DD was different. Fast asleep by 8 at the latest for years.

ToxicOven my children have to be up by 6am on a school day - the bus to secondary school leaves from our village at 6:30am. 8 year old reads to me or DH, depending who has stayed with the children and hasn't left for work before 6am, after the older children leave, and is at the bus stop 100meters down the road for his bus at 7am.

We're not in the UK - Europe isn't just the Mediterranean countries, much of northern Europe gets going earlier than the UK and consequently children go to bed earlier.

We're

6yr old - in bed about 7.30- asleep by 9 as he has a film on and he’s autistic so never goes to sleep early. Ever.
He has medication to help him sleep but I don’t mind him staying up lager.

8 year old - sun-thur - 8.30 all lights off.
Weekends - 9-10pm but up in her room