Today’s tale of parenting an adult ..(Lighthearted def not smug)

[Iamnotagoddess]

So today’s story of parenting an adult son who has left home;

Phone call at 7am this morning, can I take him to an emergency Drs appt as he’s been peeing blood all night. I am panicking thinking it’s cancer (after Googling).

No he’s just called me saying he injured himself having sex the other night and he can’t wank or have sex for 10 days 😭😭

Just settled down to watch an extra slice - phone call “mum how can I tell if potatoes have gone off? They smell funny?!” Me “have you washed them” him “washed them? Why would I wash potatoes?” 😭😭😭😭

How old is he?

Anyway, asking you to take him to the emergency doctor - fine.
Telling you he can't spank the monkey for 10 days due to sex induced injury - over sharing, imo.

Did you (and your partner if you have one) not teach your son basic cooking skills when he was of an age?

He is 22 😭

And yes he was taught lots of basic cooking skills.

He always “overshares” he has a useless father

Oops I didn’t mean that huge grin

He always “overshares” he has a useless father grin

I had a useless father too, but I spared my mother the grim details of my sex life such as it was.

Of course, it depends on whether it bothers you, OP? Does it? Because if it does, maybe you could try telling him all about your penchant for swinging.

Such English responses!
Our sons could well be friends OP.

Oh no I don’t care I used to work in sexual health so there has always been “oddments” around the house and I was with him when he was about 12 and a young person yelled “oi look it’s the Jonny Lady” across the street

He had a phase of walking round the house in just his underwear which upset his brother and sister. He was asked and asked not to. He never did it again after I appeared at the dinner table in just my underwear.

I guess we are “open” but no, I don’t need to know about his sex life.

I think a text back saying ‘yeah your dad did that once’

Will probs stop the manky oversharing

Aw I don’t think it’s manky.

It’s good he’s open. He’ll go and buy his girlfriends tampons.

Such English responses!

How VERY dare you. I'm not English.

So we want young men to be open, sharing, comfortable with their bodies, able to cope with the idea of periods and tampons and that PIV is not the only way to have sex...but euwwww no talking about unmentionables?
Yup. English.

Op your post made me giggle! My mum and I are completely open and honest about sex and I hope my dd's will feel they can talk to me about everything and anything when they grow up too. Look at the positive side, your ds is never going to get in over his head - you are his first port of call so you always be able to be there for him. You sound like you have a lovely relationship.

Who knew I was open and not a boring old short person. I would have laughed.

@GrimalkinsCrone

Quite

He had a phase of walking round the house in just his underwear which upset his brother and sister. He was asked and asked not to. He never did it again after I appeared at the dinner table in just my underwear.

Nice one OP

I don't want to hear the finer details of someone else's sex life, @GrimalkinsCrone, especially not someone I'm closely related to.

I'm not English myself, but I doubt that's a particularly English trait.

I believe young men can be open and sharing without the need to tell their mothers that they incurred a particular injury through energetic sex and won't be able to saddle back up and head to town again for 10 days.

OP herself however, seems fairly sanguine about the whole thing so as long as she's okay with it, that's the main thing.

Tbf I was relieved it was just a sex injury rather than kidney stones or cancer 🤷‍♀️😂

Does he now know to wash potatoes first, at least?

Why on earth would you need to clarify that this isn't smug. Definitely tmi for me.

I was accused of being smug in another thread about the neediness of adult children and yes I have explained the virtues of washing potatoes - his response “well, I haven’t died yet” 😂

I would say it was oversharing in general, but given you were worried it was something very serious, I think it was only right that he should put your mind at rest.

I don't wash potatoes.

Awww you have a good relationship with him

Hee hee, hilarious. But nice he feels he can share. Awww.

PS Some of the potatoes you buy nowadays are prewashed and roughly the same size in a clean bag so he probs my hasn’t got a clue what they look like fresh from the garden covered in dirt and different sizes, some with black bits and spade gouges. No wonder he doesn’t understand what you are on about! Ah them were the days when your spuds at the local shop were manky.... (nostalgic face)...

PS Some of the potatoes you buy nowadays are prewashed and roughly the same size in a clean bag so he probs my hasn’t got a clue what they look like fresh from the garden covered in dirt and different sizes, some with black bits and spade gouges. No wonder he doesn’t understand what you are on about! Ah them were the days when your spuds at the local shop were manky.... (nostalgic face*

Aw but he does! We only had a patio but we grew potatoes in grow bags and my dad has a garden so big rotevates it and my son was taught that pre bagged is more expensive- buy loose! 😂😂🤷‍♀️😊

Tbf - he suffered from depression for a while and I cradled him a bit and I text him every day.

Probably have created a bit of a dependancy, but that’s ok for me rather than the alternative.

I'm 29 and have the same level of openness with my mum as your son and you have op. She's had many a story of my lack of sex life with my ex and given advice on how to improve things 😂

If you asked her about my hopelessness as an adult though, she would say I cope for the most part. But would then contradict herself and tell you about the time when I was heavily pregnant with ds and my dog wee'd on the sofa, I called her in tears because I didn't know what to do. Of course I knew what to do, how to clean it etc, but I couldn't cope