Today’s tale of parenting an adult ..(Lighthearted def not smug)

[Iamnotagoddess]

So today’s story of parenting an adult son who has left home;

Phone call at 7am this morning, can I take him to an emergency Drs appt as he’s been peeing blood all night. I am panicking thinking it’s cancer (after Googling).

No he’s just called me saying he injured himself having sex the other night and he can’t wank or have sex for 10 days 😭😭

Just settled down to watch an extra slice - phone call “mum how can I tell if potatoes have gone off? They smell funny?!” Me “have you washed them” him “washed them? Why would I wash potatoes?” 😭😭😭😭

It’s ok to call your mum when you can’t cope

God my 18 yr old son is forever sharing things I’d rather not know. He’s a chatty lad and likes to confide and entertain. I do at him a fair bit.
Wouldn’t change him for the world though, we get on well.
Yanbu. Ignore the sour responses from the fault-finders.

Love that you showed up to the dinner table in your underwear btw. I might try that, we’re always telling ds1 to put some bloody clothes on.

I love the level of openness, I was like it with My DM growing up. I cant remember a single thing that I felt uncomfortable asking (DM prob squirmed a bit) which came in handy in my early teens.

Laughing at you approaching the dinner table in your underwear

😂😂 we laugh about it now (well my DD and I)

Have exactly the same kind of relationship with my kids and shares stuff with me. He told me last week that his new girlfriend told him she loved him and that it was the first time that he hadn't been the first to say it. I asked him if he said it back to her and he said to me, do you even know me at all Mam?

I think you have a lovely relationship with your son from what you've described!

You've brightened up my morning 'Johnny Lady' Lol!! Thank goodness he'll be ok in a couple of weeks. (washing prepackaged Veg is a waste if effort imho - tell him if his fingers disappear into the potato when he picks it up - it's gone off......my kids will never know the scrubbing potato chore....sigh.)

The jonny lady lmao

op sounds like you and your DS have a great relationship.
My DS, 21 still lives at home, he sounds exactly the same. He overshares things but don't mind one bit, I'd rather he feels he can talk to me rather than bottle it up.
A couple of years ago he had some mental health problems so like you I stayed close.
When we went on holiday (he stayed at home) he txt to say could he eat the leftover curry in the fridge, when did you buy it I asked, 6 days ago he says, it'll be fine won't it I advised not to eat the curry!
During his teens I taught him how to cook basic meals, even bake a Victoria sandwich cake....hes not interested atall. He earns good money and would rather have take away or eat out.

I believe young men can be open and sharing without the need to tell their mothers that they incurred a particular injury through energetic sex and won't be able to saddle back up and head to town again for 10 days.

But what was he meant to tell her? She knew what the problem was and took him to the doctor. Should he then have been coy and shrugged it off?

He once invited me round for burgers. I was in the shop and said yes great, is there anything you need. Yes he said can you grab me some burgers and some baps 😂😂

iam

😀 he sounds like my son (not the oversharing bit)

Last year dh told him that he had put his alarm clock back for him (clocks going back 😀)

Ds1 : why have you done that

Dh: because the clocks go back every winter

Ds1: 😲 when were the university going to tell me that!

He doesn’t like adulting...i think he believes its a trick

Invited me round for roast chicken, it was frozen “I can cook this from frozen can’t I?” “Erm no”

He put it in the fridge.

Two weeks later calls me at work “will that chicken still be ok to cook?” 🤢

iam

At uni one guy asked me how to make towels smell nice as his didn’t anymore. I said ‘Erm I just wash mine and they seem fine’. He was shocked ‘you wash towels? Do you not just dry them after use?’ I often wonder how some people actually function as adults.

My DD (late 20's) asked me over skype (she's 150 miles away) "how do I cook this?"
Me: "what?"
DD "THIS!"
Me "Um it might help if you turned the camera on"

It was squid, and I have no idea why she asked me and didn't Google it because I detest seafood and have never cooked squid in my life.
She also told me that her DPs chest hair made her boobs itch.