Letter to Neighbour

[Kaboni19]

Hi, I'm looking for advice as I do not want to star a war but this is annoying me a lot.
I've lived in my flat for 6 months+, talk to neighbours when I see them and have had no issues prior to this.

We share a communal letterbox and I currently collect any post for myself, OH, DD, landlord or previous tenant.
We are friends with landlord and previous tenant and it is a minimal amount.

Over the last few weeks, there has been post/junk-mail delivered for our flat number in names I've never heard of (I assume previous tenants) and when I get round it to I write 'Not at this address' and post back.
However if there is any left in the letterbox longer than a day I am finding them in my pram which is kept next to the letter box.
1st it was on the hood of my pram now they're being placed inside the pram on my DD's seat.
I'm not a huge germaphobe or anything but I still don't like it and think it is so unnecessary and a tad passive aggressive.
Would be unreasonable to write a note to ask that post is kept where it is and as and when I can, I will deliver back?....

Yes I think yabu. They probably think they’re trying to help.
Plus if it’s a communal letterbox, I wouldn’t leave any junk mail in there.
I’d actually think you were a bit nuts if you did this. Especially if you mentioned germs in the Pram. Sorry

I also think you'd come across as a bit bonkers. I've never heard of 'post germs' before.

@Dinomom52 but I collect everything else, they would've seen that go and then still think to leave the rest in my pram because I haven't taken it instead of thinking that there must be a reason.
I wouldn't write about germs in the letter but fair enough, appreciate your opinion

I'd like to make clear I said I'm NOT a germaphobe so people understand that isn't the reason I don't like it there however think of all the people that have touched it lol

Also the letterbox is on top of a table where post can be left without annoying anyone

Yanbu. It sounds like they are doing it to be kind, it's really a non issue. They will think your bat shit crazy if you send them a letter about it, especially if you mention germs.

Just take it all when you take your mail, you shouldn't really be leaving any mail in a communal box anyway. Problem solved.

I'd like to make clear I said I'm NOT a germaphobe so people understand that isn't the reason I don't like it there however think of all the people that have touched it lol

i think you are as you mention it in the first place? why would you even think it? most people wouldnt (i guess)

pop a note on the letter box, and just say "please leave all post that is not for you in the mail box so i can deal with it when i can"

@Slappadabass but it's not my post and I don't know which neighbour it is, we have 4 sets so would just leave a note by the letterbox to say please keep post on table.

Why don't you just speak to them rather than write a letter? If your bothered about germs then leaving your pram in a communal area isn't the best!

You have taken on the role of keeper of the mall, do they think they are helping by separating it out for you. If you don't want the putting it in your pram speak to them. Ask them to either leave it in the postbox or pick up a small empty cardboard box on the supermarket next time you're there and ask them to drop it in that.

@TellMeWhoTheVilliansAre I wouldn't usually but not a lot of space in flat, I used to keep it outside flat but was then advised downstairs was better for space.
I'll just move it back though - thanks

Are they annoyed that you are keeping your park there?

Can you buy your own separate mailbox?

Your pram. Are they annoyed that you are keeping your pram there.

I think the simpler solution is that you don't leave anything in the letterbox?

Other tenants are presumably irritated that they have to sift through the same old mail every day.

So when you have checked the post, put any letters you don't know who they are for in a pile next to the letterbox on the table. Job done.

Maybe from now on, bin mail that's not for anyone at your place straight away.

@NoSquirrels That's what I do then post it back when I can so that they're not having to sift through it every day.

@Beautiful3 I think you're right thank you.
I was keeping it on table so I can post it back to hopefully avoid any more thinking that was most helpful but it's best to just bum it

Oops I definitely meant BIN

@Kaboni19 do you mean the junk mail is actually just addressed to the building rather than your flat? If it's addressed to the building, put it on the table.
If it's addressed to your flat, take all the post for your flat.
And move the pram.

@AmIThough I was advised by neighbours to put pram there....
It is addressed to my flat so I leave on table and then when I actually leave the building I take with me and post back however I should just bin and will from now on

I don't see the problem but if you do then fair enough. I agree mentioning germs is bonkers - who would even think that? What I don't understand is why you can't speak to the neighbour?

Honestly, speech is going to be obsolete in 100 years the way we're going.

I wouldn't write a note. I would just take it out of your pram and dump it on the table.

Should your pram be there though? Any flat I've been in would have said it couldn't be there due to fire restrictions, even if you think it's tucked out of the way.

@SilverySurfer because we have 4 sets of neighbours that it could be....

How on earth could it be considered helpful to move post from a postbox/table and place it in the seat of a pram? That's not helpful at all! It's passive aggressive and it would piss me right off.

That said, I wouldn't be worried about germs, just annoyed at having to move things that shouldn't be in the pram before my kids could get in and go. It's a time waster. Just bin the junk mail OP, that's what paper recycling is for :)