Sick of them all ,AIBU to elope - but how ?

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Wedding is all booked for spring next year , pretty much all sorted , deposits paid , save the dates sent etc ..

I've just had a call from DP (he is on a long drive home ) saying he has had enough of pretty much everyone playing arseholes around us that he thinks we should just elope . I'm in absolute agreement .

His siblings have fallen out with each other ( nothing to do with us) we have taken the stance that that's their problem and continue to invite both to events but one always makes excuses at the 11th hour , we don't think that one lot wouldn't turn upto the wedding but it will be a frosty atmosphere for sure as one sib has issues with my FIL too . The whole bloody saga started so long ago , no one is really sure what the issue is anymore pair of indulged grown up children if you ask me , but no one has so I'm staying out of it ! Just sick of hearing about the she said , he said now .

There was party at the weekend hosted by friends that we wasn't invited too ( pics on Facebook ) we have no idea why but obviously they don't think as much of us as we do of them .

2 of my oldest friends have been utter arses to me today because of circumstances I couldn't control ( which has upset me as if it was shoe on the other foot I wouldn't had a issue and they know that )

My parents are dead and my siblings are a live and let live kinda bunch so would just congratulate us and move on with life , his family are drama llamas so we wouldn't be forgiven but we can live with that , DP plans on telling them after the event that it's because they are twats that's we have run off .

What's already paid we would lose but I'd rather that than pay for people to eat and drink all day who are clearly not concerned about us .

So I'm not really asking am I being AIBU for wanting to elope more asking for ideas how .

DP wants to do it sooner rather than later so maybe in the next few weeks , just us ,the kids and grandchildren 10 of us in total .

Tell me how you did it or any idea how too so by the time DP gets home we have a starting point . Sorry for the long post - so many twats about

YANBU

Would you stay in the country or go abroad? If you go abroad just check how long you need to be in the country before you can get a marriage license to have a legally binding marriage. Everywhere is different

Gibraltar? Easy in terms of paperwork etc. Might still be warm enough for a bit of a honeymoon too.

We eloped to Denmark, easy in terms of papers and we used a wedding agency run by an expat. Read something about Denmark bring the Vegas of Europe. Not sure how true this is!

We had a magical wedding on a fairytale Danish island but it was in the summer, not sure what it would be like in November/December.

YADNU. Run for the hills!!

We walked for similar reasons (my family too dysfunctional).
We were to a place called Crear for their elopement package - just us and our kids. Got married on the beach; the scenery was spectacular. The photographer and highland piper were our witnesses and we told everyone when we came back. Had our wedding breakfast at the most fantastic little pub down the road.
Highly recommend it!

It would be UK based , we will be footing the bill so wouldn't be able to get 10 x airfare together in time plus 1 of the GC is brand new so wouldn't have a passport and I know at least 2 of our younger dcs need a renewal shortly .

Have cars will travel though

Walked = eloped sorry!

Elope!

We went to Vegas, booked as a package with flights and a hotel on the Strip.

Went to the Little chapel of the flowers website, booked the whole wedding including photos, flowers, limo and witnesses in about 20 minutes.

We went for 5 nights, popped to the courthouse to get the marriage license then got married I think 24 or 48 hours later. The rest of time was holiday/honeymoon

I agree elope.

Ice chapel in lapland - Christmassy as fuck for the kids and romantic 🤩🤩🤩

Elope!

www.laplandweddings.com/IceCastle.htm

Despite all the difficulty with the relatives thank goodness the two of you are actually thinking along the same lines .
If things are like this at a relatively early stage then they are hardly likely to improve and though you will lose deposits you’d only be throwing good money after bad by not cancelling. Personally I’d resent any money spent on this ungrateful and selfish sounding group of troublemakers - who seem intent on spoiling your big day .
You could marry in a registry office and just disappear somewhere warm like the Caribbean in February . Send “forget the date cards as we have eloped and are on honeymoon “ out to everyone , or get one of the nice guests do it. I’d happily lick the stamps for you !

It's so easy - go to the local town hall, book a slot, turn up, hey presto.

Then off to a local pizzeria and have some lunch.

Ours cost £240 all in 😂

Elope for sure

Maybe registry office and a nice dinner?

Fuck it op go for it!

YADNBU do it!

The classic is Gretna Green - see if they have any availability.

Alternatively just find a nice country house/hotel that’s nearby with a wedding licence and see what’s available in the run-up to Christmas

Or just ring your local registrar, find a time slot and book a lovely restaurant for afterwards.

Yes go for it!!

We eloped With a company called CREAR, the have a small cottage for eloping couples. They provide witnesses and made it so easy www.weeweddings.co.uk/ my pictures are on the website bu I won’t say where.

There are really nice local registry offices and you can pick anywhere you fancy for a meal afterwards. Otherwise look at things like hotels in places you like (the lakes etc) that might do small midweek wedding packages. I remember looking at Gretna when we were planning our wedding and they did some nice packages.

We then came back we had got married and people just had to accept it.

We are getting married in a register office, the cheap slot with only two witnesses. Then taking my parents and children to dinner. Simple, cheap and no faff!

get a cottage somewhere near
www.sykescottages.co.uk/wedding-cottages.html don't know how this works but perhaps a phone call & ask?

we eloped to Gretna Green. Had a bloody lovely time.

Enjoy!!