Sick of them all ,AIBU to elope - but how ?

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Wedding is all booked for spring next year , pretty much all sorted , deposits paid , save the dates sent etc ..

I've just had a call from DP (he is on a long drive home ) saying he has had enough of pretty much everyone playing arseholes around us that he thinks we should just elope . I'm in absolute agreement .

His siblings have fallen out with each other ( nothing to do with us) we have taken the stance that that's their problem and continue to invite both to events but one always makes excuses at the 11th hour , we don't think that one lot wouldn't turn upto the wedding but it will be a frosty atmosphere for sure as one sib has issues with my FIL too . The whole bloody saga started so long ago , no one is really sure what the issue is anymore pair of indulged grown up children if you ask me , but no one has so I'm staying out of it ! Just sick of hearing about the she said , he said now .

There was party at the weekend hosted by friends that we wasn't invited too ( pics on Facebook ) we have no idea why but obviously they don't think as much of us as we do of them .

2 of my oldest friends have been utter arses to me today because of circumstances I couldn't control ( which has upset me as if it was shoe on the other foot I wouldn't had a issue and they know that )

My parents are dead and my siblings are a live and let live kinda bunch so would just congratulate us and move on with life , his family are drama llamas so we wouldn't be forgiven but we can live with that , DP plans on telling them after the event that it's because they are twats that's we have run off .

What's already paid we would lose but I'd rather that than pay for people to eat and drink all day who are clearly not concerned about us .

So I'm not really asking am I being AIBU for wanting to elope more asking for ideas how .

DP wants to do it sooner rather than later so maybe in the next few weeks , just us ,the kids and grandchildren 10 of us in total .

Tell me how you did it or any idea how too so by the time DP gets home we have a starting point . Sorry for the long post - so many twats about

Someone I know did Gretna.

Walked to the wedding. Similar number of people as you.

Absolutely lovely wedding it was.

We ran away to Gretna Green. Had a wonderful simple wedding. No family, no friends and absolutely no fuss.
There are lots of venues, hotels & B&Bs and anything you can imagine wanting for your day is easily arranged. We went from deciding to do the deed to being married in 32 days and most of that delay was for the registry office to process the paperwork.
We paid in total about £900 which included rings, venue, B&B for a night and registrar & paperwork.
Perhaps the best thing is the ability to be as simple or formal as you like.
My final thought, if Gretna doesn’t suit then go local, I’m sure it would be every bit as simple at a registry office but make sure this is what you really want before you start cancelling stuff.
Good luck

We got married in Vegas. It was absolutely amazing and so easy.