Wedding AIBU, to not invite...

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We are getting married next year, I have two friends I would like to invite however I am not keen on either of their partners for various reasons, mainly the fact that we have simply never got on. They are the kind of men that make me feel uncomfortable, I find them rude and demanding. Added to that, both men are close friends with my youngest child's father who my partner and I don't have a good relationship with - due to his behaviour not ours.

I would like my two friends at my wedding, for context I would choose to socialise with them with female friends but not in couple groups and they are my good friends, however I just wouldn't like their partners to be there. I simply don't want anyone at my wedding who makes me feel uncomfortable, I've grown to realise I don't need to spend time with anyone I don't like especially on my wedding day.

I suffer from severe anxiety and I'm finding this a really difficult decision as I hate to upset anyone hence my real struggle over this.
AIBU to want my friends there but not their partners and what would you do??

I think you'll hurt your friend and also give her partner ammunition if he was looking to criticise you to your friend and drive a wedge between you. Unless he has reputation for kicking off in public, I think you have to invite him if you want to keep her!
In openly disliking her dp, you are also questioning her choices and character, since we a in part judged by the company we keep. You don't have to talk to him beyond civilities. Sit him at the end of the table with the other arsehole dp.

Thanks again for the replies, only just sat down to catch up. I really appreciate the different points of view, I'm loving the last idea... sit him at the end of the table with the other arsehole dp! That might be the answer Aderyn19, but so might Actionhasmagic's response, don't invite wankers! Thank you all!

Be prepared

I have to be honest, in this situation if I found out you had invited other friends partners then I wouldn't come and it might affect our friendship. If no partners were coming I would be fine with it and understand the numbers issue.

I don't like a few of my friends partners but my friends do and I understand that their first loyalty will be to them.

I think it depends on the reasons why you don't like their partners. If they are racist and bigoted, then I feel that is more than a valid reason, and I would be prepared to have a friendship end over it, because really, what type of person would hook up with a racist bigot? That would make my friend also a racist bigot and therefore I wouldn't want that person as a friend anyway, it would be no loss. One can be defined by the company one keeps, and if my friend got with a racist bigot, we would no longer be friends. End of story. So, if the DPs is/are racists and bigots, I would not invite and would be fully prepared for the fallout. But if he/they are only loudmouths, obnoxious, something like that, then I'd invite them. Racists and bigots are a deal breaker to me, but I can put up with personality clashes, annoying partners, it just depends what the reasons are you don't like them as to what is a deal breaker for you. Always be true to yourself and your values. If something is a deal breaker, then stand by your values.