AIBU to ask for your miracle baby stories?

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After trying to conceive for two years, it was confirmed at the weekend that I have a very low chance of becoming pregnant. My egg reserve is low / very low (AMH test was 5, 'normal' range for someone my age is nearly 60).

I've had great support from family and friends and have been told many times that even a low chance is still a chance. I'm trying really hard to stay positive and never give up hope that I will conceive.

What are your miracle baby stories following a diagnosis of infertility?

Yes there is a chance you will get preg naturally but very low

Your best bet is ivf. Do a cycle and see how many eggs you get abs how many fertilise

Obv ivf isn’t guaranteed

Some use donor eggs due to age or quality and quantity of eggs

Some look at adoption

Took 5 attempts and 10yrs ttc to get our one and only

Dd is now 2.5

Sorry you’re going through this OP, I can’t imagine how it must feel. I’m glad you’ve got a good support network around you
I know a woman who had her first baby and then had secondary infertility. She and her DP tried for a second baby for 15 years. She had numerous rounds of IVF but had no luck. She then gave up and came to terms with the fact that she would only ever have one child. Until she fell naturally pregnant at the age of 45! Healthy baby and healthy pregnancy.

Hope you get some luck soon OP

Friend of friend had fertility problems and numerous ivf attempts. Eventually the couple went with a Spanish donor egg and got pregnant. A few months after the birth she became naturally pregnant with her own egg and went on to have a successful pregnancy and healthy baby. My cousin struggled to become pregnant around the age of late 30s. Numerous ivf attempts. Her husband was much older and had a low sperm count. I think on her fourth and final attempt she became pregnant with identical twins and had two healthy daughters. The hospital staff called them miracle babies. I hope you too will eventually have a healthy baby.

Many years ago now but I know someone who tried to conceive for 25 years before finally having just one baby in her 40s. Apparently her mother was the same with her!

I have 3 miracles, each in their own way. Had an ectopic pregnancy at 24 which resulted in loss of right fallopian tube. Then 3 early miscarriages followed by an ectopic in the remaining tube at 30. We decided to go with IVF and started the procedure, although I was certain it wouldn't work and we weren't meant to have kids. The day before I was due to start injections, the clinic called to tell me I was pregnant. The first miracle is now a gorgeous 12 year old girl. We wanted to give her a sibling, and had 3 further early losses. After the usual tests and no reason found for the recurrent losses, I paid out of pocket for the AMH test. Results came back as level pretty much undetectable. The specialist said that I had very low ovarian reserve and that any eggs I had left were "unlikely to be any nobel prize winners". Somehow, though, my ancient cracked eggs have gone on to produce a son who is now 4 and a half, and my 2 year old daughter. Both conceived naturally, both huge surprises. You never know which egg is going to be the determined one. I was 39 when my son was born and 42 when my second daughter was born, so you never know what is in store. Infertility is a really lonely and distressing thing when babies seem to come so easily for everyone else, so sending you hugs.

I am 42 and was told even IVF was unlikely to work as I have endometriosis and only one ovary because the other one was removed due to a cyst.

I fell pregnant last year naturally (no previous children) but miscarried at 8 weeks. it was devastating.

I am now 5 weeks pregnant (hope it sticks).

I do believe in miracles. Have faith. I always felt like it would happen.

I also had reiki this time and the healer also did a psychic reading on the phone. Odd thing is she predicted this baby a few days before i conceived. She even said birth by summer and more details. I have the notes and reading them back after was so freaky My husband was so shocked he had a reading too and she predicted he would be a dad next year. It is the only thing which gives me hope this little miracle will stick.

I was told to give up so many times. Even my consultant was shocked when I told him. Am due a 6 week scan next week.

Am terrified but remain optimistic.

I never had reiki before or believed in it but i am convinced reiki helped me heal myself enough to unblock those tubes!

Zero spermcount. Lowest they had ever seen. And one ovary that was adhered in the wrong place so impossible to extract eggs from it. 5 years of failed ICSII IVF.

Final round before DH insisted we give up and have a life: pregnant with twins. Now in their late teens and absolutely gorgeous, happy, loving, hard working boys. So proud of them both.

"it starts with the egg".

Everyone I know who has done this has improved their AMH.

Unfortunately what is wrong varies so much between couples.
It may be if you have few eggs ivf would be more expensive due to the drugs.

Good luck

We tried to conceive for two years with only an ectopic pregnancy somewhere in the middle before undergoing fertility tests on the NHS and being told my tubes and uterus are both scarred and my husband's sperm mobility is poor. They said we would not get pregnant naturally and would not refer us for IVF. At first we were not eligible as my husband was born in America, but when he became eligible (he became a UK citizen) they said we had too low a chance of success and would not refer us. We went private after another two years of trying and discovered I have PCOS too and they confirmed that naturally it was as impossible for me to get pregnant naturally as it could be, but advised IVF with ICSI. Finally (nearly 6 years since we started TTC) we are so lucky to be 34 weeks pregnant with our little boy from our first frozen transfer. If you get the chance, perhaps IVF could work for you. Don't give up hope.

A friend of mine was TTC for 15 years (only actively trying for the first few years but never used contraception after that in the hopes that it would happen eventually) eventually got pregnant naturally in her late 40s! Went on to have a healthy baby who is now in her early teens

Well no trouble getting pg but two 2nd trimester miscarriages and one little boy at 27 weeks whom we knew at 20 week scan had congenital heart defects 99.9% incompatible with life. I can't quantify the 5/6 week losses.

Pg 1: 7 weeks
Pg 2: 17 weeks
Pg 3: DS1 36.5 wreks
Pg 4: 12 weeks
Pg 5: DS2 27 weeks
Pg 6: 5 weeks followed by infection and gynae advice not to try until further investigations and all clear. Had a blazing row with DH who wanted to accept one child and call it a day - and then we made up............
Pg 7, 51 weeks after DS 2 died, DD was born at 41.5 weeks - pink, fat and healthy.

She is 21 now. They were dark times and I shall never forget the distress but she was and is truly a miracle and is the light of my life and had things turned out differently I wouldn't have her.

I know, it hurts like hell.

I had an AMH of about 10 aged 27, had 9 miscarriages (including IVF and IUIs) and now have 2 children, who were natuarally conceived little miracles. All i had was progesterone to keep them in there, and I am grateful every day. Good luck to you.

I conceived dd1 easily but after trying unsuccessfully for a second baby was then diagnosed with low ovarian reserve. Turned to IVF, max drugs but only 2 eggs produced. Both fertilised and were popped back in, one stuck and the result is now 11 years old and currently watching a movie with her sister. Infertility is hard. I found it difficult to talk to friends but found a lot of support through an online support group. Wishing you lots of luck on your journey.

I had IVF 6 years ago after a low AMH test (sorry I can’t remember the value but it was low enough to bump me to the top of the NHS waiting list). We got three eggs, two fertilised, one grew and is snoring upstairs right now. He was 7 weeks prem and very much a miracle baby.

If you can, go straight to IVF to give yourself the best chance with the eggs you have and best of luck.

My story....
Started TTC at 27, after a year I was told I was menopausal and our only hope was donor eggs. After 2 failed DE IVF rounds and 4 years trying, I fell pregnant naturally!
When he was 5 we decided to try again. First DE IVF failed with none frozen, next treatment was positive. However I simply didn’t feel pregnant despite a positive test, and a week later I miscarried. We tried again straight away and it worked!
It was a long, tough, and costly journey (around £22,000) but we are incredibly blessed. Follow your heart and good luck x

Surrogate baby for me. Never been pregnant, nothing worked- a miracle occurred when a dear very fertile friend offered her eggs n oven
Dd is 21 next week 😁

Following treatment for a tumour, removal of one ovary & tube, and bad infection, in my early 30s I was told I would not be able to conceive.
Relationship broke down so no prospect of a family at all.
Then 10 years later, at 44, and while having a totally frivolous fling, I conceived Once I was over the shock, had a problem free pregnancy and ds arrived, 8lb and perfect.
It felt like I was living in a charmed little bubble where everything was straightforward. Ds is now happy exuberant 11yo.
Don’t give up hope. Enjoy your sex life, have lots of fun, frequency is important.

My babies aren’t miracles.

Took 7yrs to conceive DD1, at 21 I was told I was infertile, hubby was fine, I just had very low eggs and wasn’t producing the hormones to release any.
We started ‘trying’ then, quite simply thinking if it was never going to happen we may as well just not use contraception and get on the treatment list as soon as we could in case it took forever.
DD1 arrived after cycle 1 😁
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We decided to try almost immediately for no2 privately, with the thinking that if it was going to take a further 7yrs we didn’t want a larger gap, and also didn’t want an only child if we could possibly help it.
DD2 arrived after cycle2, 3yrs later 😁
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Just 18months later along came DD3! We hadn’t used contraception as couldn’t see the point and as I had no periods etc and didn’t show, I wasn’t aware until the kicks started properly at about six months!!
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Good luck! Every journey is different, stay positive even though it’s absolute hell and don’t let it take over your life, the times it worked for us were actually when I had truly hit rock bottom and threw myself into work as a result.

Oops autocorrect!! They totally ARE my miracles!!

I was diagnosed with ovarian failure at 31 years old - after 2 failed NHS IVF treatments.
We decided to look to donor eggs but the private constant ( new clinic) encouraged us to give it one more go with my own eggs. We literally threw everything at it - anything that was suggested I said yes to. I took out a 0 % interest credit card and just went for it. I didn't want to look back and say 'I wish I had .....'

I took loads of steroids to try and mature an egg and it worked - we got three embryos. We had them tested for abnormalities and only one was viable. The other two would have resulted in miscarriage.

That one embryo is now 13 months old and she is amazing.

I would love to have another but sadly I just can't see us affording to do the treatment again before my eggs are completely dead ☹️ I'm still paying off the credit card from the successful Ivf. However I have my fingers crossed for a natural surprise. It's not likely but not completely impossible for me.

Good luck.

My AMH is 7 and I conceived naturally (although it took a year). DS is now 15 months and I'm hoping to TTC again soon, fingers crossed we'll be lucky again

Don't give up hope, 5 is low but not non existent. You still have a chance

I have stage 4 endo and after surgery was told by a leading UK consultant in the field that I would very likely never conceive naturally. As a PP said, endo makes IVF unlikely too.

Have one DS and another on the way.

Good luck OP

Friend of mine was diagnosed at 39 with endometriosis. Was told her chances of conceiving naturally were zero, IVF perhaps 5%.

She took her chance on IVF with an anonymous sperm donor (she is single) and is now 40 with a beautiful 6 month old baby girl.

The miracle stories are lovely to read - but it's important (from experience) to prepare yourself mentally for if your miracle doesn't happen - sadly it doesn't for many couples.

Counselling can really help, as well as lots of communication with your DH about what life without your own biological DC would look like and chat about other plans together - just to help keep you sane. It's so easy to get very low being focused only on that one desperately wanted outcome. This massively helped DH and I, as when it was clear it wasn't going to happen for us, we had a Plan B & Plan C I didn't feel quite so distraught/lost.

I wish you all the very best OP, infertility is awful.