AIBU to ask for your miracle baby stories?

[girl78]

After trying to conceive for two years, it was confirmed at the weekend that I have a very low chance of becoming pregnant. My egg reserve is low / very low (AMH test was 5, 'normal' range for someone my age is nearly 60).

I've had great support from family and friends and have been told many times that even a low chance is still a chance. I'm trying really hard to stay positive and never give up hope that I will conceive.

What are your miracle baby stories following a diagnosis of infertility?

OP- my Amh was half what yours is when I was 34. I was gutted like you are.

I then did Ivf - I was told a very low chance of it working- but it did anyway - there were only 2 eggs and 1 embryo but he is now almost 5!

When he was 8 months I decided to try again - I had very very low expectations- But I got a bfp 4 weeks later.

My overall point is- amh is not the be all and end all - it’s mainly used for Ivf so unless you have other factors, by itself, it is not a bar to conceiving.

I would suggest doing all you can to improve egg quality.

Good luck.

I was a miracle baby for my mum! She married at 21 in the early 70’s and immediately ttc. she miscarried twice in 7 years and was diagnosed with a congenital malformation of her womb. I don’t think her fertility was that great either if she only conceived twice. Mum and dad start looking into adoption. Mum falls pregnant with me and they decide not to try again once she miscarries. except she doesn’t and I arrive 8 months later!

Four years of trying hard. Endo, scarring, hormones all round the twist, DH's sperm not the best. Felt in my bones that I'd never carry a child. Decided we'd had enough and started making plans for a child free life. Felt queasy after having an Indian one day, thought it was food poisoning, it was DD.

I still find it completely baffling. People say "oooh relax and it'll happen", well when we conceived DD, I was in the middle of the most stressful few months of my entire life! And yet months, years of healthy eating, exercise, supplements, sex when ovulating, not a snifter of a pregnancy. Why one month, out of all those years, and not the others? My pregnancy was healthy and straightforward,no issues there. Baffling. Fertility and bodies are completely weird

TTC was horrible. Such a dark time. My entire personality changed, really. The pain and bitterness was appalling and totally took me by suprise. Now that DD is here, it is all a distant memory

I had an egg count of 5.3, first baby born at 38, second at 41, conceived naturally. Agree with pp saying do everything to improve egg quality! Good luck

7 years of fertility treatment for my first
‘Surprise’ 5 years later with my last!

Ttc for 8 yrs, 5 miscarriages fertility treatment after 2 surgery’s to treat stage 4 endometriosis. Decided to give up and get on with life. Booked big holiday then found out I was pregnant 6 weeks before going away.
Difficult pregnancy but DS born fit and healthy at 36weeks now a strapping 6ft teenager who is lovely even though he’s a teenager. I don’t like to think of him as a miracle but he really is.

@crispysausagerolls. That is so great. I also have stage 4 endo and was told the same. Am 6 weeks along now and remaining hopeful! Your story gives me faith x

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Tried seriously for 3 years having a diagnosis of blocked fallopian tubes due to previous surgery (one was removed, the other was inaccessible without major surgery) plus endometriosis plus an ovarian cyst on one ovary plus managing type 1 diabetes and Crohn's disease! IVF failed twice.

We were absolutely at our lowest ebb when I found I had conceived naturally at the age of 35 (gobsmacked! No idea how sperm reached egg!). I carried the pregnancy to term with no serious problems and we have an eight year old.

We tried again and also with IVF, it didn't work so we had to accept this was our family. We feel incredibly lucky. Writing it all down, the odds were really stacked against us (DP had slightly sub-optimal sperm count too).

I think what helped for us was to get in peak physical fitness (for me, I'm not an athlete). We were both probably in the best shape of our lives when I conceived. We ate well, addressed some nutritional deficiencies, lost a bit of excess weight and gave up alcohol and caffeine for a while. And I kept on top of my other health conditions. It was hard work but the exercise helped with the stress.

Good luck with everything!!

This was me two years ago - 2 years trying and one of the first tests I did have me a crap AMH of around 6 I think. I was considering IVF but I had a laparoscopy to investigate if I had endo which doctor suspected from ultrasound. I did, he excised it and I was pregnant the very next cycle. It’s so disheartening to try and try, build up your hopes every month even when you try not to. It’s totally shite, it really impacted on my mental health and I got counselling to help deal with the emotions and to cope with the possibility of a very different future to the one I wanted. It was a massive help tbh and helped me get in the right frame of mind to pick myself up and keep going back to the doctors, keep trying for answers without falling into despair about it. Look after yourself and know that AMH isn’t always the be all and end all xxx

I really wouldnt waste time trying naturally op especially if after 2 years nothing was happening. After 10 months we sought fertility treatment and after thorough investigations we discovered unexplainable infertility. So we could have been trying for who knows how long. We started treatment and fell pregnant the very same cycle.

My mum had me at 42 after trying for about 10 years.
I tried for over a year - not long but seemed ages at the time, had early mc then fell pregnant successfully 3 months later. With no.2 fell pregnant first month trying thinking it would take another year.
I had tests privately but no issues with me, although dh sperm count could’ve been better.

You may have interpreted my post as encouraging you to continue to try naturally. I wasn't, go for the IVF. But do your best to sort out any health or fitness problems that you have some control over.

I don't know i there are other issues going on with you, but I've just been through all fertility tests

I have an AMH of 4 - doc told me as long as I am releasing an egg every month (which I am), it doesn't make a difference to my overall fertility. However it does make IVF less likely to succeed as there's a chance I won't respond well or at all to the drugs to stimulate my ovaries.

www.nhs.uk/news/pregnancy-and-child/hormonal-fertility-tests-waste-time-and-money/

So if it's just your AMH don't despair - that's just telling you how many eggs are in there. As long as you're releasing one a month, you could get pregnant!