To remove myself from family WhatsApp

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We have recently started a family WhatsApp group so that we could send messages once rather than lots of times when arranging to meet up. My sil, who has a history of posting school reports and the like on Facebook, has now started to post test scores and frequent achievement updates for my nephew. I do like to hear about them, but it doesn't do my head any good to hear daily how marvellous he is. My mil will want to hear, and I'd expect her to want to, but I don't need that level of detail, particularly when I'm having a bad day with one of mine. When I share stuff, I do it by email or individual WhatsApp. Add to that the fact that it's always about my nephew, never my niece, despite both being on the group and I just can't bear it. AIBU just to remove myself from the group? Muting just isn't enough-it's still right up there on my list of messages.

Yeah-I don't think I can really. Never mind. Just got to suck it up and remember that there will be things we do that equally piss them off!! What they are, who knows?!! But they are bound to exist!

Just be pleased for your nephew, why is that so hard?

I would definitely ask about the niece a lot though - it will draw everyone's attention to the fact that sil has a favourite child and bangs on about them all the time! I think that's worth doing because having a golden child is a really shitty thing to do.

That isn't the point at all. I am, totally, just don't need frequent updates.

Aderyn, yes, exactly.

Mine is muted so I don’t get pings. I look at the family group once a day. Try that.

Redspider1, I think you are totally missing the point.

@Redspider1

"that’s nasty."

No, it's spot on.

Just leave
And if asked say oh my phone is playing up .. I will fix it
And never do
Your sil would drive me crazy

YANBU I deleted myself from our family WhatsApp group.

Oh god, I sympathise. If anyone does know a way of leaving a family WhatsApp without the great flouncer notification blaring ZELDA HAS LEFT THE GROUP please please tell me. Muting is not cutting it, because the thread leaps to the top when people start sending messages and then I see them anyway.

So I completely understand how you feel, OP. I'm in a similar scenario with my own family, and it makes me want to throw things.
Like my sister phone.
Into a ravine.

Grumpy lot!

How old is DN? I have a friend who used to post about her golden child all the time. Once he went to Secondary School all went very quiet. Fingers crossed.

So everything you have put on, immediately Sil says about nephew doing it ? In between her messaging about him all the time?? That would drive me nuts

Maybe put on that dd or ds has said a sentence in Spanish aged 15 months or whatever the age, she can’t top that

And then leave

I find so many things could be sorted by an open conversation. Why don’t you just ask her when you see her ? If you said how you felt, she’d hopefully share less.

Yeah, tbh, when I deal with people like your SIL, I do make stuff up as @Evilspiritgin says. It's actually quite good fun!

My god sons mother has a godparents group that she shares things like school reports, shit art work, oh he got glasses look how cute he is... in. I hate the intrusiveness of it being thrust on me. If I am interested I will ask about him / visit!!
I’m glad I saw this thread as I was thinking of leaving the what’s app group but didn’t know it would say “grunt has left group” ...
no advice sorry x

Your Godson and you don’t want to know about him? Wow.

Why did you agree to being his Godparent?

My sil is an attention seeking show off too - we just ignore her and say well done to the dc themselves when we see them.

@Redspider1 , I don’t think I said I didn’t want to know about him. I said if I wanted to know about him I would ask / visit !

I don’t get the rage it causes. You read and move on. Just look at the app once a day. 1 minute max.

“Hi all, my phone apps have gone a bit corrupt, so I’m deleting WhatsApp, sorry if it’s a pain for anyone. You know how to reach me xx”

Just mute this group and catch up if you feel like it. Why cause unnecessary drama/issues when you can avoid it.