To be upset over no invite?

[hattybattyscatty]

I have been seeing someone,and well anyway I found out he has been sleeping with other people and we were never exclusive so I have no reason apparently to be mad??
Now we speak every day,he has a high level of contact.
Tonight he texts saying
"Just going over (mutual friends ) house for drinks with a few people then off to the pub )
I text saying I had no plans and was home alone ..thinking he might say oh come over too.
Nope..
Clearly if I'm there he won't be able to pull or flirt or whatever.
I feel like telling him to get lost when he texts tomorrow.
I feel like a massive idiot.
He knows I have feelings for him.
Aibu to be upset ?

I've joined a couple of dating sites tonight
Wow , that’s the solution to your problem.
Try some time on your own and increase your self esteem then you won’t put up with crap like this

I do need to work on my self esteem I think...it's not in a good place right now.

how old are you @hattybattyscatty

@haplessharpie I'm 29

Block him

Come off dating sites

Spend some time alone.

Get some self respect and self esteem.

Go out with your mates, have a good time and stop thinking about this excuse for a bloke. He ain't worth jack shit.

YABU . to want to spend any time with a man like that. Cultivate some self respect.

You should probably dump his ass, but if you can't, (or can't yet) then at least make some changes. Make yourself unavailable for a good few days, preferably longer. Don't ring him. Don't text him. Don't answer his texts. Eventually tell him you were busy with something else at the time if he asks why (bare minimum response). Don't tell him what you were busy with. Be vague - Oh, a couple of things I had on at the time. Feigning disinterest is how it's been done since time began. If he is interested, he'll be round.

But him sleeping with other people if you want to be monogamous isn't really a compatible match.

Block and move on. There is definitely better out there and even if not being alone is better than being with this cretin

You can’t ‘dump’ him as you’re not mutually exclusive. You want to be but he doesn’t. You need to stop sleeping with him/texting him and find a boyfriend which appears to be what you want.

Give this up! You want him, he wants to shag around. You're actually breaking your own heart again and again

My dd is like you, OP, and it is not good or healthy.

She was seeing a bloke for a year and a half and he kept on doing shite things but she kept on seeing him. Now it turns out that he never broke off with his previous gf. Why oh why do people like you and her think you can make a silk purse out of a sow's ear?

He's not your boyfriend, he's not your friend, why are you lying on the floor saying" kick me?".
Why are you texting him at all? Its like you're saying to him that you've got nothing on in your life except for for whatever tiny crumbs he throws to you.
Pick yourself up, stop texting him, and find something else to do. If you haven't got other people to hang out with, get an evening job/ volunteer/ learn something new. He's not about about to turn into boyfriend material, so you need to move on, and keep some dignity.

He's playing the field whilst you sit on the bench. Don't do it to yourself, especially with mutual friends who'll either think you're a mug or think you're good with it (dependant on probably whatever story he's peddling). There's nothing wrong with dating other people so long as everyone puts their cards on the table and is aware that's the case. It's very different to find out they're keeping you as B plan when you thought you were the A.

What do you expect to be told on this thread that you weren't told on yesterday's thread?

You do not need to "look for something better"

Spend time on you....

I met someone 11 years ago on a night out. We started seeing each other I found out the night we met he had just argued and finished with ex. He was blowing hot n cold for about 2 months. One day when I had been to see him n he was a bit off I figured I'm not being treated that way. Stop talking deleted number. 6 weeks later he text me saying he missed me and wanted to meet up the next day. We're still together now. I suggest you cut contact without saying anything. If his into you he will come looking for you if his not you save yourself more heartache In the long run..