To think that friend requests on FB that lead to undying love messages are bloody annoying?

[AloneLonelyLoner]

Just that really.
I've had two in the last fortnight, from apparently normal men that I know in apparently normal FB groups.

Apparently I was wrong.

Why do they do that?
Do women ever do that?
How many people here have had this?
Bloody weirdos.

I get it dozens of times every week, or I did until making it so only friends of friends can request to add me. I mostly just block and ignore

Do you know these men in real life?

Nope. Just in FB groups.

It's actually a bit weird. They send innocuous messages of how are you. Followed a day later with, 'I'm really in love with you Alone. You are an amazing person. You make me complete.'

My response is usually along the lines of, 'you don't know me dude. Are you nuts?'

It's just weird. Women don't do this surely.

Men do this. Usually self-pitying men with relationship issues or other life crises, or aspiring Don Juans who think of their female Facebook acquaintances as a kind of online harem. Weirdos.

Wtf? Glad I'm married.

Oh I didn't realise they were people you didn't even know IRL! No idea what goes on in their heads. It must be a kind of virtual pick up artistry, with them messaging dozens of random women in this manner. I wonder what they would do if you replied "OMG! I feel the same!" but it's probably better to just block them. :)

Why are you adding them as friends then?

I always find these threads quite baffling... “l add any old random, who I don’t know, as a friend on Facebook and then wonder why they’re trying to crack on to me”

What kind of groups are you in 😮😂

This has never happened to me. I do have a face like a dropped pie however.

I get this but from women. Find it quite strange and not sure how to respond.

Oh it's not totally random. People who know me for years through a hobby which has a FB group. If that makes sense.

I don't accept friend requests from total fandoms.

Randoms! .

Sounds like the precursor to a Romance scam attempt.

If so, if you'd shown interest, they have followed up with some bullshit story of how they'd love to come and be with you if only they had the money for the travel or some other nonsense designed to part you from your money.

Ah, cross post - didn't realise you'd been in the same group as them for years. Probably just weirdos then!

But you don’t actually know them. I don’t get it. Why would you accept a friend request from them?

Maybe I’m doing Facebook all wrong... or maybe I just have some boundaries.

Anyway, if it’s happening to you often, try not accepting friend requests from people you don’t know IRL and see if it stops happening.

I had no idea that Romance Scams are a thing. Wow.

Is there no end to human assholery?

You know that might actually not be them tbh. It's common scam that someone makes a profile looking exactly like profile of someone you know. But they usually extract money. Not future spouse visa.

I had no idea that Romance Scams are a thing. Wow.

Have you lived under a rock😂 Light-hearted!
It's quite common and well known

I have indeed been living under a rock. 😳

At least I'm aware now and won't send all my millions to the US via a bank account in the Cayman Islands.

Thanks all!

So, let me get this straight. Men who you know vaguely from groups on facebook, so you know that they are real and not just scam artists, suddenly ask you to be friends on facebook and then declare undying love? Nope, never happened to me. What sort of groups are you on and what are you writing in them?

I've made male friends from Facebook photography groups, political groups, war history groups etc.
Some have said they like me as more than just a Facebook friend but most aren't local so we just chat & flirt on messenger & it's all quite pleasant.

I basically practice my online chatting & flirting on these men in preparation for real life online dating as I need some practice lol.
Seriously I'm crap at messaging men who I'm actually dating in RL. Maybe because it's closer to home.

Ive had a man who became friends on Facebook through a dr I know offering to pay for a very expensive holiday with him in a country he enjoys visiting, all I have to do is get the flight.. he says he loves my pics & thinks I'm beautiful... But I don't think I'd live up to his expectations & there's so much that could go horribly wrong I'm definitely not going!

Yet... My cousin met a Nigerian 10 years ago through a Facebook group.. she ran off & met & married him in Cyprus!!
Well, 2 children, 10 years & one British passport later they are still married.
I also 3 women who met old schoolmates through Facebook & married them!

But watch out for the 'American widower oil worker / ex marines' who just happen to work in Asia or Africa. They're scammers.

Also there are many men who live in the third world who will have no shame in asking for money it's happened to friends of mine, even those friends in low paid jobs. So just be careful online OP.

As well as that bear in mind the men you think you know in your FB groups in the uk could have an unsuspecting wife or girlfriend at home.
Start from the premise that most men lie to suit themselves & you won't be disappointed.

@LilyJade that's an eye opener and wise advice. Thanks so much. You'd think I'd be a bit more savvy about this stuff, but there you go 🙄

What kind of pie, @Oysterbabe? I need to know if I would be upset if it was dropped.

Were they ex-military,by any chance?

I've had a few ex-military now you mention it. 🙄