AIBU to my partners family

[Darkbloom]

Me and my DP have been together for a few years now - he got into a relationship with me pretty quick after his ex. My DP is 1/5 and the four of them are girls.

His sisters are close with his ex wife - regularly going out for meals and posting on social media of them all having a good time.

My DP has asked me to "try" and bond with his sisters but I find it extremely awkward at family events to even try and talk with them (I've been trying for 3 years). They are very closed with me and I get ignored.

So I give up! I've said to my DP that I've tried and I no longer want to join him in his family events, he has took this quite hard and says that it's all in my head. I also feel a bit upset at the fact that I can't have a bond with his family, despite me trying.

They don't add me on social media either.

I'm exhausted as I'm pregnant and I just feel DONE with his family, any advice is much wanted!!

So when you are driving home from one of these excruciating events and chatting in the car, what the hell does your dp say about how it went? How can he gloss over the fact that his family are not welcoming to you and don't talk to you?

Seems a huge thing to ignore and extremely unsupportive of him.

This is the problem with social media. “They don’t tag me in any posts and I feel left out”. Do you realise how ridiculous that sounds??

Seems a huge thing to ignore and extremely unsupportive of him.

On the other hand, totally understandable if he cheated on, or dumped, his ex for the OP.

He's probably feeling like a complete turd, and knows if he demands that his sisters be nicer to the OP, they'll unleash their true thoughts on the matter to him.

And I suspect that's something he'd rather avoid.

Sorry I've been busy and not had chance to look at my phone.

No, his ex wife cheated on him twice - that's why the relationship ended. She tried for him take her back and got nasty once he moved on.

His sisters know that she had cheated and STILL continue to be friends with her - this is why I am confused to the reason why you would be friends with someone who cheated on your brother?

Sorry OP, I don't believe you.

Too much of a massive drip feed to be convincing.

Nice try but you still haven't answered the question.

So to clarify - are you saying that:

1. you did not meet your DP until after he had left his wife?

Or

1. you were in a relationship with him while he was still married but since she cheated as well that it doesn't matter?

A simple 1 or 2 response would suffice.

The SiL's can be friends with whomever they wish. In this case they prefer the ex wife to you.