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AIBU?

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Original poster

Unhappy Traveller

67 replies

TequilaMockingburd · 17/10/2019 22:55

AIBU? DH planned trip, nice break some 700 miles from home. We have a 8 month old baby and a 6 year old DS. So travelling in our motorhome but obviously not free to roam around- restricted to car seats and seatbelts.

Way down, limited stops but high spirits mostly and so grinned and bearing that. On the way back.... same.... he has powered on for 3 hours’ at a time and we are now parked up in an industrial estate - sort of wild camping.

Babies asleep , DH asleep and so all okay but I am seething at the lack of planning, the too fast driving ( a whole other issue ) and the shit overnight location.

Am I being unreasonable? Have I lost my sense of adventure or is he an idiot?

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EileenAlanna · 18/10/2019 01:59

When you get home look up the level of crime for where he's planted you for the night, without houses, traffic, police patrols etc that add to a bit of safety it's not the brightest move.
Just type in the postcode & the area shows up with the number/type of crimes. Zoom in for your exact location & it'll tell you all the details. Hope he hasn't landed you somewhere too dodgy. If he wants to park overnight again in that type of place he needs to do his homework.
www.police.uk/search/

HUZZAH212 · 18/10/2019 02:09

Crime rates go down when it rains so they say. So it's good it's pissing it down. Plus the units there will be CCTV up to the hilt and possibly a security guard or two kicking about.

WeDidNotChangeTheLocks · 18/10/2019 02:12

I would not be happy with this for a number of reasons so you are definitely NBU! If it helps the guidelines say babies should not be in car seats for longer than 2 hours, might be useful to have in your arsenal to break the journey up a bit more? I'd also get actively involved in planning the next trip rather than leave it to DH. The idea of being in an isolated random spot with my LOs give me the Heebie Jeebies (no idea if that's spelt correctly!)

Mothership4two · 18/10/2019 02:13

If it was an overnight stay on the way home, and it seems safe, it wouldn't bother me, although I would have paid £30 for a decent stopover. I take it you will be moving straight off in the morning?

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TequilaMockingburd · 18/10/2019 02:18

@eileenalana, thanks for the link....I’ve just looked up the crime stats.... you can literally zoom into a street view of offence locations! Wish I hadn’t now and yes, thank GOD for the rain.

I’ll make sure we are up and away before Screwfix deliveries arrive. I think I’ll be up all night at this rate.

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BillHadersNewWife · 18/10/2019 02:38

Shocking! It sounds like the sort of trips I made in the 90s in my boyfriends VW campervan!

We had no kids though...and we were basically stoned young hippies with no responsibilities.

If something happened, you're in the middle of nowhere and you're probably not even allowed to camp there overnight!

Bluerussian · 18/10/2019 02:50

I don't think it should matter that much for only one night and presumably you'll be off in the morning. You can boil water for tea, as you suggested, it will taste the same.

Oakandlove · 18/10/2019 02:50

*ar seats and seatbelts.

Way down, limited stops but high spirits mostly and so grinned and bearing that. *

sounds absolutely moronic, would call SS `if I knew where you were at.

BadSun · 18/10/2019 03:04

sounds absolutely moronic, would call SS `if I knew where you were at

Eh? What?

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TequilaMockingburd · 18/10/2019 03:07

@Oakandlove bit dramatic there dear! It is shit but hardly life threatening!

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IfIKnewThenWhatIKnowNow · 18/10/2019 03:08

@Oakandlove really?

isabellerossignol · 18/10/2019 03:11

You'd call SS for someone taking a holiday in a camper van?!

BadSun · 18/10/2019 03:27

I think it was using a carseat and seatbelts that had them concerned!!

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Marnie76 · 18/10/2019 03:40

@oakanddove - i’d call a shrink if I knew where YOU were!

Oakandlove · 18/10/2019 03:53

@Marnie76
Who brings an 8 month old on a camper van trip and expects the 'campervan' experience. It has obviously backfired. Need to requote?? Is the 8 month old benefitting..umm no. So call time on it. It is pretty simple.

Thatagain · 18/10/2019 03:54

NO NO NO. don't be saddened. Make it an edventure don't let the lack of planning ruin your time away with your dh and DCs. You can make it good if you put your mind to it. I've been there many years ago when we had a camper.

Mothership4two · 18/10/2019 04:02

For goodness sakes calm down Oak! OP only asked am I being unreasonable? not for a barrage of insults.

Are you DH?

Marnie76 · 18/10/2019 04:02

@Oakandlove you didn’t suggest ‘calling time’ on it, you suggested calling SS. It may have been an ill judged trip but bothering SS for a couple of kids being a bit bored, really is stupid.

Mothership4two · 18/10/2019 04:03

Or a Screwfix employee?

Mothership4two · 18/10/2019 04:11

So call time on it. It is pretty simple

Are you suggesting OP wakes DH, DS and baby, straps DS and baby into car seats and either OP or DH drive home now? That would be dodgy

Bowerbird5 · 18/10/2019 04:23

oakandlove SS have huge case loads do you really think they would interested?

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TequilaMockingburd · 18/10/2019 04:35

@mothership4two

“Are you DH? 🤣👍👍

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