To be upset by this?

[GenuineKlatchianPottery]

I’ve put on loads of weight recently. It was 5 stone but I’ve managed to lose 1stone.
I’ve always been slim, if anything I was always underweight. I’m size 16 atm.
On Monday I bumped into my old manager. I haven’t seen her for about 2 years. The first thing she did was prod me in the stomach and asked “What’s happened here? Where did all this come from?”
I smiled and made a noncommittal remark and tried to change the subject but she kept on going on about it and saying she wouldn’t have recognised me.
In the end I said “Yes, it’s shocking how much I’ve put on but I’m doing the best I can to lose weight, anyway must go”.
I ended up coming straight home really upset and I keep getting upset about it.
I know I still have a long way to go and I know I’m bloody fat, I don’t need to be prodded like I’m a lump of dough and belittled (this was in a shop with other customers nearby).
AIBU to still be hurt by this and if yes can someone lend me a grip?

YANBU, that’s just nasty.

YANBU! What a rude fucking bitch! How can anyone think it's okay to speak to someone like that?

What a fucking cow. Next time you see her making a vague circle motion around your face while smiling and say "What's going on here Karen?"

YANBU
Sorry that you went through this. I've had similar comments recently so know how much it hurts. Just hold your head up, be confident and try your best not to let cruel comments get to you.

You may be overweight, you know you're overweight, and you are doing your best to overcome that.

She is horrifically rude and hurtful. I wonder if she knows that, and would she do anything to rectify it if she did?

What?!? Of course YANBU. She is a dick

Yanbu. I'm so sorry she put you in that position. Was this in work? If yes and you both still work for the same organisation I'd be informing my manager.

She's vile. If she needs to put you down to make herself feel superior, she's a sad & damaged person. Well done on the 1stone loss & don't give up.

what the fuck

That is awful!!!! I really don't know what gives people the right to be so nasty. Why say anything at all. I'm really sorry,

What a rude, insensitive cow.

So sorry she has upset you.

Next time you see her making a vague circle motion around your face while smiling and say "What's going on here Karen?"

^ I LOVE this suggestion @gwackywacky

You're more reserved than me cos I'd have ended punching her in the mouth!! Might make her think twice about spouting idiotic words out in future

YANBU.
You can loose the weight she will never loose her arrogant/ignorant/nasty attitude.
Wishing you the best with your diet and well done for loosing a stone .

That really needed a Mumsnet classic response: Gosh, did you mean to be so rude?

Screw her!!

Some women are such bitches!

Obviously one knows if they are carrying a few extra pounds, how is prodding them in the tummy going to help?

If it ever happens again, go with the response of “did you mean to be so rude?” I find rude people tend to get uncomfortable and start back tracking when I’ve used that

Well that was fucking rude!

I don't know whether she follows celebrity culture at all (and really trying to be charitable here), but do you think because she's always known you as thin, she saw this change in you as temporary and therefore didn't twig that you might actually identify as an overweight person now?

I'm really reaching though - she sounds like she's got zero empathy and prodding you is terrible!

Next time you see her making a vague circle motion around your face while smiling and say "What's going on here Karen?"

Karen. It's always that fucking Karen

That’s horrible yanbu to be upset

veeboo read the OP FFS!

you dont need a grip! that was awful. God she was nasty. who does that. sorry op, she had absolutely no right to say that to you.

Really rude and nasty. I’m so sorry to bumped into her

YANfuckingBU! What a cow.

Don't worry, if you've always been fairly slim, you will lose the weight. Then any haters can eat their words.

Next time you see her making a vague circle motion around your face while smiling and say "What's going on here Karen?"

Still giggling at this one.

What a nasty bitch!!! So sorry @GenuineKlatchianPottery

I know it's hurtful but try not to give it any more headspace. Sure. You might be overweight, but you can lose the weight. She can't lose her rude and nasty personality x

Thanks everyone.
I’m not normally sensitive and am usually quite outgoing and positive. But, I’ve had a shit few years with both my DDs health and she’s aware of what we’ve been through.
I was kicking myself walking home that I didn’t say “Wow! Do you realise how rude that is?”
It didn’t help that she ignored my obvious discomfort and continued with the comments, but she’s never had any filter and when we worked together I often used to cringe at things she said.