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To be freaked out, Can't imagine images...

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Slappadabass · 14/10/2019 19:42

So I came across a post on here about aphantasia, not been able to imagine or picture a image in your mind, I can't, but I'd never thought about it and thought it was the norm until now.
I've been trying to picture my DC (amongst other things) in my head, I know what they look like, could give you every little tiny detail about them, but can't imagine their faces, I can't imagine anything.
I don't know how I've not realised people can do it but I can't until now.
AIBU unreasonable to be freaked out? Shock apparently there's a fair few people on here with aphantasia, anyone?

OP posts:
trevthecat · 15/10/2019 14:17

I didn't know this wasn't how everyone was. I did the test. I'm a full 1. Just the back of my eyelids. Completely blown my mind this!! Insane. Now asking family members if they are the same!!

trevthecat · 15/10/2019 14:23

Also is this why I can't follow instructions? As in when you download a new app and need to change settings, I can not remember the sequence or when I can't spell something I can't picture it to quickly write it down on another page? This hits home with me so much. I've struggled with things and this may explain it

HavelockVetinari · 15/10/2019 14:28

I knew this condition existed but had forgotten how crazy it is till this thread reminded me - it's SO bizarre that you can't 'see' stuff in your mind, how do you fantasize? ShockConfused

Areyoufree · 15/10/2019 14:33

I have aphantasia and am pretty face blind, but have very vivid dreams. I also have issues with maladaptive daydreaming, so live in a fantasy world a lot of the time.

LipSyncForYourLife · 15/10/2019 14:40

The downside to being able to create images in your own mind is when they are not wanted. I have a massive fear of snakes and after a particularly close encounter once they sometimes flash into my mind making me jump!

LipSyncForYourLife · 15/10/2019 14:42

I also have the maladaptive daydreaming thing. I have three separate worlds populated with places, characters and scenarios that has grown and developed over decades. It passes the time when I’m bored 😂

DishingOutDone · 15/10/2019 14:54

@LipSyncForYourLife - I've just googled maladaptive daydreaming, fascinating and new to me, but makes sense - @Areyoufree - how do you have both? So Aphantasia and the daydreaming thing? this is all literally doing my head in, really want to understand.

Areyoufree · 15/10/2019 14:58

@DishingOutDone No idea. It's just how it's always been for me - I didn't realise that other people actually 'saw' images in their head. When I day dream, I imagine whole scenarios, but I don't 'see' them. I have conversations, feelings etc, and can describe the visual, but not 'see' it.

silverwings · 15/10/2019 15:02

Me too, I can't see anything in my mind at all. When I think it's words not images. I do dream though so I must be capable of it.

GoldilocksAndTheThreePears · 15/10/2019 15:28

I have horrendous face and name blindness. I literally just got in from seeing my sister and her 10 month old and I can't picture or describe them. I have various coping mechanisms that I never saw as such- like when my sister had her baby, I wrote his name down and said it to myself a lot. I do that before I go to see her. Its like it'll be on the tip of my tongue but I don't know it! I have to double check every name I use, writing a christmas card to a sister I'll look up the name and have it in front of me. If a family member changed their looks and I saw them out of context I wouldn't recognise them, even my own mother. It has properly affected me in the past, had a chat with a mum in a playgroup and didn't say hi in the street because my mind didn't connect woman-in-playgroup with woman-in-street, even on the same day!

I also really struggle to 'picture' things, places. I can't picture people at all. If I were to try to imagine my mum, in my mind is a vague image of her living room as that's where I see her most, with 'person' in the image. I know that person is my mum, as that's what I'm going for, the emotions I feel are there, but it's vague. I have to really work to visualise, like with the counting sheep thing it's a vague blob but I know it's sheep, I know it must be wooly and have legs but that isn't the picture? Its weird!

Dreaming is also weird, I have this thing where I realise I'm dreaming but I really struggle to control anything. Again it's vague, like I know the last dream I remember was on a particular street I grew up on not because I see it and recognise, but because I 'know' it's that street. I do tend to know I'm dreaming though which is probably a whole other thread!

I love reading but I don't visualise characters or places, or create anything new. In guards guards, when I read it vimes is just 'man in uniform', the dragon is big thing, and in my head it's all set in truro town square Grin not because I picture it as such, but when I first read it I was there and that's where it will forever be. Also, and this is ever weirder, I have a flat in my mind. Again vague but when I read I tend to 'set' it in this flat I created years ago. It makes reading easier, to have a place where stuff happens. I couldn't describe it well, there's a door and a corridor and bedrooms here and here, nothing sharper than that, but it's where I can comfortably place happenings.

I suspect I am very weird, now I've delved into my mind!

amusedbush · 15/10/2019 15:36

I have zero minds eye, along with terrible face blindness, no sense of direction and a total inability to follow verbal instruction Blush

Theromanempire · 15/10/2019 15:45

I also daydream a lot and always have done but it's not in pictures, I just invent scenarios in my head but don't see them.

I am exactly like others have described - can describe my family, places, events in great detail but I just can't see them. Its floating on the periphery but I can't see it.

Yes I literally only ever see the back of my eyelids when I close my eyes - how dull Confused

SunshineCrocodile · 15/10/2019 16:59

As pp have said - I know what a red star looks like, but I can't make myself see one. Just the inside of my eyelids. It feels like I should be able to because I know what I'm trying to see but I can't get a grip on the image and it slides away. Can't do yoga visualisations either, nor can I picture my DC or DH's faces unless perhaps trying to recall a specific well loved photo of them - but even then I remember clothes and body position rather than features if that makes sense. I'm absolutely terrible at facial recognition and find organising myself really difficult.

However I'm very good at directions and can draw pictures from imagination or memory. And I am amazing at cramming for exams by (I think?) remembering the layout of the page as a mental prompt. I don't really know how that fits in!

DishingOutDone · 15/10/2019 17:34

@Areyoufree thank you for explaining.

SpringFan · 17/10/2019 08:43

I really struggle with decorating. I really cannot imagine how a room will look inany other colour.
Anyone else with that problem and how have you dealt with it. Most of my house is magnolia ! Help

Toitoitoi · 17/10/2019 09:16

Yes @SpringFan I cannot do interior decor at all. Yesterday my DD reorganised all the drawers in the kitchen I was amazed, how I had been organising them was not at all logical now I can see it done a different way. Sad I am sure this has something to do with Aphantasia.

Lovetoread84 · 17/10/2019 11:21

I most definitely have this but I didn't know there was a term for it.
I can picture places and recall my old houses etc in detail.
But ii cannot remember what people look like even my own kids!! I hate it! I also have literally zero childhood memories, and not many from when my kids were little either. I take a lot of photographs. I do dream but the people are always faceless!

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