To take a 12 year old to see the Joker

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So exh ( separate 10 years) took ds 12 to see the Joker this weekend. Ds got scared before the film started and asked to leave, ds went back to his df and they watched the inbetweeners movie.

Ds comes home in a right state saying how he has issues because he over thinks everything and that there is something wrong with him. Why can't he do things like his db 14.

Is it just me or do other people think it's absolutely stupid to take a 12 with mental health issues and panic attack to this sort of film? Well any 12 year old!

Jesus Christ no! I saw it last week and me and my friend both said how gory and violent it was and wouldn't have been surprised if it was an 18.
Hope your DS is okay

very surprised he got in,my 33 y old sister still gets id-ed for 15s

cinemas can get in real trouble for it as a friend is a manager and if they get found out letting in under age the staff member who served them can get fired and the cinema finned £1000

apparently they get mystery shoppers and after the event they get told if they have passed or not

dont know how 14 y old can be mystery shoppers though but its happened

I’d be raging about both of those films for a 12 year old, your ex is a prick

I agree that it's completely unsuitable for a 12 year old but I think describing it as gory and violent (bar one scene) is almost offensive to the film. It's not dark and frightening because of mindless blood and guts like a cheap cop/gangster movie, it's because of the psychological and mental health aspect. About how society twists, ridicules and uses weaker members of society

Even independent cinemas have a licence from the local authority. I'd tell them - might stop it happening again

Violent content

The issue isn't the (inexistent) gore or (minimal) violence, it's the downward spiral of how someone can be driven to act in a certain way that I'd find the worst aspect for DS.

I went at the weekend with DH.
DS is 17 and wants to go and watch it, but he has ASD, and I feel the mental decline/ isolation aspect of the storyline would really disturb him.

Excellent film, bloody stunning.
But definitely XH was BVVVU to take his 12yo with mental health issues to watch it.

Even independent cinemas have a licence from the local authority. I'd tell them - might stop it happening again

I’m actually really surprised that Joker is a 15. I saw it last week and found it a really tough watch, very disturbing.

I enjoyed the film but certainly wouldn’t be letting my 13yo watch it.

Was ex trying to 'toughen him up' I wonder? Doesn't want to be on board in the proper way with school, thinks he knows better.

DS's words of worry when arriving home sound like his father's words?

No it's more the fact that he doesn't think of the dc with any needs or as children. They are older so can be his mates.
If I say ' X is having teeth out at the hospital' he will say ' let me know how it goes' that's it.
When I let him know he says ' ok cool thanks'.

Well the ds's have been spoken to now and I have explained they are having a time out from their df for the next few weeks until he acts his age. Luckily they both understand, as the eldest was really pissed off to because he has to help ds when he has panic attack at school.

I saw the film myself last week which is why I was so extra concerned because I know how my ds would react to it.
It is a great film but you have to have some understanding of the meaning behind it. It's not a Batman movie or a general horror.

Haven't seen inbetweeners, but I would of hoped my ds's see that with friends when they are 18. And hopefully have learnt by then to take the film with a pinch of salt.