To take a 12 year old to see the Joker

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So exh ( separate 10 years) took ds 12 to see the Joker this weekend. Ds got scared before the film started and asked to leave, ds went back to his df and they watched the inbetweeners movie.

Ds comes home in a right state saying how he has issues because he over thinks everything and that there is something wrong with him. Why can't he do things like his db 14.

Is it just me or do other people think it's absolutely stupid to take a 12 with mental health issues and panic attack to this sort of film? Well any 12 year old!

Very surprised a 15 film allowed a 12 year old in - its a risk to their license maybe you should let them know they need to be a little more careful?

Ah but sparkly magpie, the poster didn’t say which firemen got stabbed.....

YANBU your ex is a twat! No way should a 12 yo go to see that - I won't be going either and I'm 54!

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Inbetweeners and joker are both very innapropriate in differnt ways. There are age limits for a reason. While they are not always correct but it does give a good indication if it's appropriate.

Nottheduchess But it was either fireman, it was the female firefighter that was stabbed.

When we saw the joker there was a trailer for a horror film called Countdown which was so scary all the adults in the cinema were like "arrrghh". He may have seen that?

I wouldn't take a 12 year old to see Joker no.

It’s violent and I looked away in a couple of parts. It also gives a very complex portrayal of mental illness and I highly doubt a 12 year old would actually understand that

Thank You everyone, I try to be as reasonably as I can, and not impact on my exh parenting but this has really shocked me.
Ds has been struggling loads recently and I work with the school which ex doesn't want to be part of, ds hates scary and has always hated Halloween ( to the point he avoids the section in Tesco), but still has this part of him to please his df.
I'm just thankful he left but I'm not happy at all for the sex scene in the inbetweeners. It's one thing children talking at school and another thing filling a child's head with rude scenes/images. I actually can't understand why his df could watch that with his ds.

I found the themes of the Joker a hard watch, completely inappropriate for a 12 year old.

@HRH2020 thank you, I'll have a talk with him and check.

Having seen the Joker recently I found it so disturbing I had to go to the loo mid-film for a break! I would never take a 12 year old to it.

Ah yes, that’s right rededucator I forgot, it was her!

How are these cinemas letting these kids in?!

My DS is 15 next month and he really wants to see it, but I assumed they’d be asking for ID of anyone who looks like they’re teenaged.

I’d definitely not have shown DS this film aged 12 though. Only in the last year or so do I feel he’s been old enough for some 15 films, and definitely not the inbetweeners, is die of cringe watching that with him

I saw the trailer for the first time today and think it's misleading. Although it is clearly a dark film there's not much (any?) indication of graphic violence. Based on the trailer though I think it's unsettling enough that I wouldn't bring a 12 year old to see it (15 cert or not).

The Inbetweeners though... Really?? What planet is your ex on? I saw it years ago and all I remember is over the top sex, swearing and drunken debauchery so inappropriate for a kid not even in their teens yet!

He wants to be fun dad!

He didn't even tell me he was picking him up, just text ds. He didn't ask his other son if he wanted to come, who ended up spending the day at home with me.
My exh behaviour is very strange at the moment and is a reaction to going to cms.

@GustavaoFring they buy the tickets online and when they go to the cinema no one checks. The teenage staff don't care.
It's not a normal cinema, when I heard from my eldest ds, ds was going I thought he won't get in thankfully but he did.

FWIW it's good that your DS felt able to tell his dad that he didn't want to watch the film and that his dad did actually listen and take him home.

Everything else - the fact that his dad took him in the first place (idiot) that he wasn't challenged at the cinema (irresponsible staff) and that he chose another unsuitable film to watch at home (wtf) - is not good. Sadly.

I would be really really angry on both counts; Joker has a 15 rating AND the inbetweeners is also very inappropriate for a 12 year old. Poor DS.

Quite frankly if he thinks that the joker is appropriate for a 12-year-old child let alone the inbetweenera Id be restricting unsupervised contact

ridiculously reckless and inappropriate behaviour

Yes he did listen to ds which is good, he said it was 'cool' to go home, no bother, drunk his beer and they left.

There's more violence in superhero movies, average TV shows, video games and Coronation Street.

What episode of Corrie was that then?

It's also not just about violence, there are many deeply chilling and disturbing films that have little or no actual violence in them. And that should certainly be taken into account for a young person with MH issues.

Dh lets ds (12) watch some 15s. He saw the joker last weekend and said no way for this one.
I wouldn't be happy about him seeing the inbetweeners either but masturbation jokes etc bother me less

He wants to be fun dad!

Sounds to me like he wants your son to be his ‘mate’ and is getting frustrated with your son because he’s (obviously at 12 ) too young and immature to be that. He’ll be trying to take him to the pub and buying him a pint next year probably...

Yes there is graphic violence. People being beaten up by gangs, shot in the head with blood spattered everywhere, someone being smothered to death.