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To ask for your favourite (positive) motto or mantra?

79 replies

AliciaWhiskers · 13/10/2019 23:05

Just ended a relationship of 18 months and feeling a bit shit.

Can I ask for a bit of cheering up with your favourite mottos or mantras or positive vibe sayings that will make me feel better?

OP posts:
Graphista · 14/10/2019 01:01

What's for you won't go by you - very popular here in Scotland are the pps who posted it also scots?

It's the "sliding doors" theory really, if you were meant to be in that relationship, that job, that home...it would have happened for you.

This too shall pass - applied to good and bad. Nothing lasts really. Simple but effective and has helped me through as pp said everything from physical pain (from simple headaches to an ovarian torsion) and emotional/mental - I have severe ocd, agoraphobia etc and it helps with the less anxiety inducing things if not the major ones, although I'd very much like this current very bad bout (almost 2 years housebound) to 'pass' soon please universe?

In your case - you won't always feel like you do now, feelings pass, you move on without really trying it's natural. In 6 months, a year, you'll fear completely different and this time will be a mere memory.

If it wasn't right, it was wrong - can apply to relationships, jobs, all sorts.

When I was younger I was very bad at leaving jobs if they weren't working out, it felt defeatist and especially if I can't quite put my finger on the issue. Then one such time I was discussing with mum, there wasn't anything hugely wrong with the job but I was dreading work days and mum said this to me. That it didn't matter if I couldn't completely articulate what the problem was I was sensing it was wrong for me. I started looking for another job the next day and a few weeks later left for new job. It was like a weight had lifted and it was only then I realised what the problem was - the culture was almost all work and no levity, no relaxation during the work day at all, a totally oppressive atmosphere.

You clearly had good reasons for leaving so that's what to focus on. If you didn't you wouldn't have ended it.

Laserbird16 · 14/10/2019 06:25

I like the years are long but the days are short. Reminds me it may seem like forever now but will soon pass..both good and bad moments.

Or if I'm getting worked up about something, is this the hill I want to die on? Usually, it's not important but sometimes there is no better place to die ie, it Is important and I need to stand my ground.

All the best OP

StressedOuta · 14/10/2019 06:34

This too shall pass.
Simple and powerful.

Fortune... turn thy wheel.

I remember this from Eng Lit a-level in school and it obviously struck a chord with me.

Oysterbabe · 14/10/2019 06:44

Deep breath
Chin up
Tits out

FookMeFookYou · 14/10/2019 07:08

Don't let the bastard(s) get you down

Lilacpheonix · 14/10/2019 07:16

Kindness is magic. Is one I try to live by. From Derek the TV show.

BonnesVacances · 14/10/2019 07:17

@imoverworkedandunderpaid DD(18) has had ME for 4 years and that motto is one I have to repeat most days! I hope it's true!

I also like "Not my circus, not my monkey" to remember not to get embroiled in people's drama.

To ask for your favourite (positive) motto or mantra?
scaryteacher · 14/10/2019 07:32

This too shall pass (especially as I am about to do an international move, and the packers are in tomorrow).

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger (ditto moving)

PenguindreamsofDraco · 14/10/2019 07:56

Buck up. Smile. Charm. Off we go. We'll be all right.

Fleabag Grin (or rather her father)

Clawdy · 14/10/2019 08:32

It may not be something you get over, but it's something you'll get through.

Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose.

nonetcurtains · 14/10/2019 08:41

"All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well"
This sentence wraps around me like a blanket.

aggitatedstate · 14/10/2019 09:14

Accept the things I cannot change

AliciaWhiskers · 14/10/2019 11:03

Thanks for this too shall pass. Had forgotten that one. I used it a lot when the kids were younger!

OP posts:
Spannerandspade · 14/10/2019 11:10

A ship is safe in harbour but that's not what ships are for.

Life is so damn short. For fuck sake just do what makes you happy.

Kalim8 · 14/10/2019 11:25

"love yourself, know you are magnificent, and do what makes your heart sing!"
Anita moorjani

I feel as though I'm just starting on that but it makes me happy.

SilverySurfer · 14/10/2019 12:54

My Grandma always used to say 'never worry trouble until trouble worries you' ie don't go looking for trouble.

NerdyCurvyInkedandPervy · 14/10/2019 13:01

'And still, I rise.' - Maya Angelou.

This has gotten me through so so much. It's a reminder that no matter what, i shall overcome.

I have it tattooed on my right arm so i see it all the time. It keeps me going.

JorisBonson · 14/10/2019 13:03

Never judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes. After that, who cares? He's a mile away and you've got his shoes.

TulipsTulipsTulips · 14/10/2019 13:25

I am simply on the Earth. Need I be afraid?

IndigoHexagon · 14/10/2019 13:30

My youngest suffers from separation anxiety, he’s 9 and it’s showing no sign of letting up, even with some intervention and counselling. I too, in a particular situation (group exercise class) get very very anxious, to the point I shake, feel sick and hover on the brink of tears. I want to run away.
I came across a meme with this phrase:

I thought about quitting and then remembered who was watching.

I signed up last week, let him see how anxious I get, but I do it anyway - to show him that anxiety can be fought and won. It’s so, so hard though.

I don’t know why the class makes me feel so bad - I’m pretty confident in the gym with my PT and almost every other aspect of my life.

NotForEverydayUse · 14/10/2019 17:23

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should

I love this :)

Lex234 · 14/10/2019 17:29

Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible, suddenly you are doing the impossible- St Francis of Assisi

FreshwaterBay · 14/10/2019 18:56

Never judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes.

But judge him if he tries to walk in your stilettos.

iklboo · 14/10/2019 18:58

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why they call it the present.

Kakfor · 14/10/2019 19:02

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