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To be angry that my husband ate them all?

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M0nkeybutler · 13/10/2019 20:12

Petty I know, but this has really annoyed me. I had a big bag of crisps in the cupboard that I bought on Friday and have been having a little handful here and there. They are my favourite crisps. Have just come down from the bath and 'd'h has eaten them all. He doesn't see anything wrong with this even though if I did it with something of his he would go mad. Then instead of apologising when he sees it's annoyed me, he comes up with all kind of arguments as to why I'm being u reasonable about it. 'They've been there for ages', 'there weren't that many left', etc etc. It's just not right to take something and have all of it. I wouldn't have minded if he'd had some, happy to share. But to eat them all and not see anything wrong with it?? Aargh!!

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BillHadersNewWife · 13/10/2019 21:40

Beautiful really? Are the things they choose so different? Like ...little Annie wants mangoes and icecream for "her treat" and Dave chooses Galaxy...what's wrong with sharing everything? Do your family really just eat everything if they're not rationed?

EntropyRising · 13/10/2019 21:49

Bag of crisps - you had some, he finished them. Sounds like things are progressing in the usual way.

Just buy more.

Perunatop · 13/10/2019 21:51

Find a better hiding place for crisps and deliberately buy food he isn't keen on for a couple of weeks if you do the shopping. And disclaim all responsibility if he notices.

SaoirseSeahorse · 13/10/2019 21:52

We don't generally do "my treats", or if we did, it would be a single portion item to be consumed in one go. I can't imagine having a big bag of crisps in a cupboard and calling them "mine". That just seems really weird to me for some reason.

But that's sort of by the by. If they were clearly your crisps, then obviously your H shouldn't have eaten them.

Beautiful3 · 13/10/2019 22:05

@BillHadersNewWife
Yes for example this week, the children have asked for twirl fingers and hula hoops to share with each other. My husband wanted twix and walkers crisps. I have chocolate rice cakes because I'm on a diet. The children have one treat a day. My husband would gladly eat everyone's treats without thinking. Also the youngest would want to eat more than one treat. So it's easier to put them out of sight.

Span1elsRock · 13/10/2019 22:07

We have to hide things in our house. DH has got zero self control when it comes to snacks. And he doesn't care who bought them and why.

Rachelover60 · 13/10/2019 22:08

LTB

Wowisthatwhatyearitis · 13/10/2019 22:10

I have this. It does drive you insane.

In the car: “ooh I think I have some mints in the door pocket ..” reach down. Only the wrapping left.
“I might just have myself a couple of squares of that Galaxy that’s in the fridge ..” the wrapping may be there, or may have been disposed of.
In a restaurant “can I have a nibble/sip/try of that?” Before you’ve even tasted it yourself.

If I feel like letting a bar of Lindt last a week, then I want to be able to do that, but no chance.

What you need, OP, is disguise. So if it’s in the fridge, try putting it in a plastic box so that it looks like leftovers - even stick a bit of bread or spaghetti in the box, if it’s transparent. In the car put the packet in a glove, or whatever.
I know I sound mean but honestly, who’s thinking about meeting my needs when they’re scoffing my last three Mentos?

TheQueens · 13/10/2019 22:39

If that was my husband he would of left one in the bottom if the bag so he hadn't officially eaten them all 😡 I'm not sure which is worse 😂 they can be right selfish buggers!

Elodie2019 · 13/10/2019 22:43

OP's gone for now. Probably busy packing the selfish twat's bag. I don't blame her.
YANBU OP. Eat his stuff & hide your own in future.

Singletomingle · 13/10/2019 22:56

As I see it if you buy it its yours, sharing is fine if you choose but if not its yours. Your DH is more than capable of buying his own snacks, my ex never shared, often buying things I wouldn't like, she made a great deal out of this. Yet if I so much as had a single bar of chocolate it was a huge deal that I hadn't saved some.

barberbabble · 13/10/2019 23:01

If I found DH buying treats just for him... and then he kicked off if I found a nice thing to eat in the drawer and finished off the last few mouthfuls ( when clearly he had eaten the rest) I would wonder who the hell I had married!

You sound an absolute peach.

Thank fuck we don't feel the need to "hide treats" because neither of us are selfish

Jaxhog · 13/10/2019 23:15

He doesn't see anything wrong with this even though if I did it with something of his he would go mad.

He has double standards, which makes him a hypocritical, selfish twat.

StrangeLookingParasite · 13/10/2019 23:36

I've bought a food safe for this very reason. It's ridiculous that I have to lock my treats away, but if I don't they get eaten before I have a chance to have any.

Wow, those are some greedy and selfish people you live with, that you have to do that.

BillHadersNewWife · 14/10/2019 00:05

The concept of "My treats" is just alien to me. We share everything as a family!

That's normal and loving.

To keep certain things aside or hidden so that you can eat all of it yourself is weird!

Anewchapter · 14/10/2019 00:17

My exh used to scoff all the treats in the middle of the night. If he was ‘hungry’ a slice of bread should have covered it but no, it was always the nice things. Even the kids Easter eggs/last of the lunchbox treats was deemed fair game. For posters who say ‘hide it’ - - that’s so wearing when your partner is supposedly an adult and for those that say ‘just buy more’ - this is not always an option when money is tight. When one member of the household acts with such entitlement and displays a lack of self control over the precious and budgeted for weekly shop it becomes deeply unattractive.
I know in a ‘normal’ household polishing off an open bag of crisps is a minor irritation. But in our house it became an example of his continued selfishness and lack of respect, even for his children.

HerRoyalNotness · 14/10/2019 00:21

@igglu that’s genius, they can see the lovely treats they can’t have!

SapphireSeptember · 14/10/2019 00:41

All these selfish fuckers eating other people's stuff are giving me the rage! Angry My ex, for all his faults, NEVER ate my treats, and I didn't eat his either. (Although chances are if he had he might have ended up rather ill as he can't eat things with gluten in them.)

AnotherQuirkyUsername · 14/10/2019 01:02

Very rarely we will have our own treats it's usually family portions . it's an unspoken rule if there's 2 we obviously have one each.

However, my OH has such an annoying habit of saying "it's been there for ages" as an excuse for eating something of mine as if there is some sort of time limit on me eating something Angry he's not greedy and is normal weight etc but it's like he can't stand there being something nice in for more than a day or two, weirdo Grin

puppyconfetti · 14/10/2019 01:19

He ate some crisps, in his own house Shock

I don't get this 'they are my favourite so he can't have them' stuff. I love mars bars but I haven't banned the rest of the house from eating them Confused

TheNumberOneSourceOfEverything · 14/10/2019 02:45

We share our snacks in this house but none of us would the last of someone else's favourite treat and it's kind of unspoken that it's left alone until offered to be shared.

My husband likes his magnums. I get him a multipack of three every now and then, even if I knew he'd eaten the other two I wouldn't take the last one just like he wouldn't finish off my half eaten chicken and thyme walkers sensations I occasionally buy unless I was eating and sharing them at the same time.

He wouldn't be mad if I ate his last lolly, I wouldn't be mad if he ate my crisps but we just don't do it. He offers me one of his lollies when he gets himself one, I offer him my crisps when I'm eating them. Dds special treat is a chocolate orange. I wouldn't eat the last of one of those either.

99 percent of treats are a free for all but there's nothing wrong in family members having the odd something for themselves.

Maybe some people feel they have to hide special treats because their families version of "sharing" is three of them eating the majority of the fourths fave treat and get sick of leaving something to enjoy later on and the rest of the family have scoffed it.

NoSauce · 14/10/2019 03:47

I don’t understand the outrage here.
They’d been open since Friday, there weren’t many left and the OP had eaten most of them herself. Some responses on here are crackers! It’s a few crisps people.

Teacher22 · 14/10/2019 04:05

You will have to have a series of hiding places in your house so that when one is discovered there will be another one for next time. No one has sussed the broken/repaired washing machine in our garage yet. I smile to myself as I open the little round door and deposit the goodies. I also place flat chocolate bars inside a folded tablecloth in the drawer. Mwah haha. I also eke out treats fairly but if people want to cheat, that is ‘at their own risk’.

Soon2BeMumof3 · 14/10/2019 04:11

To PPs saying 'just buy more/ buy two bags next time' etc

You don't get it.

When you live with someone like this, they eat until it's all gone, regardless of the amount. If there is half a bag, they'll eat half a bag. If there are three bags, they'll eat three bags.

In the end you are in the same situation, except with a chubbier partner.

It's selfish, greedy and it sucks.

MarthasGinYard · 14/10/2019 04:52

Yabu but I At least you didn't put the cursory 'should I LTB' at the end of your Op.

Makes my teeth itch

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