Yesterday stbxh took our three DC for their weekly sleepover. Thirty minutes after he took them he phoned me to ask what my plans were. I told him none of his business. Thirty minutes after that he'd left the DC with his mum and turned up unannounced at house. He was angry when I wouldn't let him in. (So not to drip feed last time I was alone with him he hit me, last week he told me he hopes my body is ravaged with cancer and I die a long slow painful death) I do not feel comfortable being alone with him and have no desire to discuss again why I won't give him another chance.
This sort of thing happens every single weekend without fail as soon as I am child free. When the children are with me six nights a week I hear nothing from him. Every weekend he will phone crying and begging me to get back with him one minute then being vile and abusive the next. I've always tried to be civil (not always worked but I've tried!) we have been separated two years and lived apart 22 months.
So after I refused to speak to him and let him in house he went away and phoned ten minutes later. He ranted for a bit and cried for a bit then said he better go pick up our DC from his parents before he "did something stupid" (this is not the first time he's threatened this). And hung up. He then text to say he's sorry for everything goodbye. I ignored text as didn't want to pander to him yet again.
Four hours later my eldest DC called to say he was worried about his dad as he'd not collected them from their grandparents house and they couldn't contact him on the phone. I tried calling him but phone off. Waited for a friend to arrive to come to his flat with me as wasn't sure what to expect and didn't want to go alone. This all took roughly another thirty minutes. Got to his flat and no car and no sign of him. Called his parents to say he's not there what now. They said oh no he's back now he's been in his flat all the time upset because you wouldn't let him in to talk to you.
Aibu to think this was a massive mind game to make me think he had killed himself???
Sorry for massive long post and any typos