People who work night shifts

[mazda1]

I live in a flat there are only 2 in each block I am bottom flat , above me the tenants son works nights ( has done for 2 years ). I can't mow my lawn , Hoover my car , or do any outside work that might be noisy until after 5pm ish. It's the same with the neighbors.yesterday the man across the street was sawing in his path for a couple of hours he works everyday so can only do his house maintenance on weekends when the said night shift worker started shouting out of his bedroom window ( which is at front of flat ) about how he works nights and he can't sleep etc AIBU to think my neighbors and I shouldn't have to be quiet 6 days a week including weekends just because he works nights . I am tired of waiting till after tea to do any of my jobs because he will be upset .

That's ridiculous. I work night shifts and I don't expect my neighbours to tiptoe around their house so I can sleep. He needs to invest in some decent ear plugs

YANBU

Post some ear plugs through his letterbox - or, up his rectum, whichever is most accessible.👍

If you work night shifts you have to fit around normal daylight hours.

Your neighbour is being hugely unreasonable to expect silence during the day. Does he shout at passing ambulances?

You could tell him to not be so silly, or post some ear plugs through the letter box.

I work night shifts. I dont even expect my family to tip toe around nevermind my neighbours.

It's why I love autumn and winter... rain and cold makes perfect night shift weather.

I agree, he needs some ear plugs.
He shouldn't inflict his sleeping habits on his neighbours.

YANBU, I work nights and wouldn't dream of asking my neighbours to have routines to accommodate my shifts! I have a good set of ear plugs and and eye mask and sleep great - I have even managed to sleep through my roof being repaired above me after night shift 😂

Thank you all think I might pluck up the courage to tell him 🙈 Because tomorrow I am definitely hoovering my car in the day 🙈🙈x

I work nights and the only time I've ever been pissed off about noise is when I come home saw my neighbour who said oh you've just done a night shift I said yeh only get 4 hours today then back up so an hour later she mowed her lawn right outside my bedroom window I got up and walked the dogs and she saw me and laughed and said oh I thought I'd wake you up but thought I should do it while I could still be arsed.

Any other stuff is just part of life.

Tell him to get a pair of ear plugs. Night shift for years and there’s not one actual tradesperson who’ll stop working for a neighbour or come in the evening for big jobs even for my own shit. It’s what you choose when you willingly work nights.

Same with if you worked early shifts and lived near a pub.. you know the risks of noise, the world doesn’t stop for one person.

Night shift workers most certainly expect their worlds to revolve around them

Cannot expect

I regularly work nights. Blackout blinds and earplugs are my friends. I don't expect people to be tiptoe around my work rota, that would be ridiculous.

I work nights and it’s so annoying when your asleep and something wakes you up like neighbours hammering the bedroom wall/drilling etc however you can’t say anything as it’s daytime and people don’t have to be quiet until 9pm isn’t it?? I’d just carry on mowing your lawn, put your head phones in and ignore him

Yanbu my bff has a neighbour who also works night shifts and has this entitled attitude. They just carry on as normal ignore comments and just say look I work full time when do you expect me to do jobs. Especially as before long it will be dark at 5pm so it will be impossible to do outside jobs then.

I work nights and do find it really stressful in summer when everyone is mowing, strimming, bbqing and playing out. However I have ever said anything and wouldn't dream of doing so.

Like a pp I love the winter as it is darker and quieter!

Your neighbour is clearly being unreasonable to expect complete silence while he sleeps. If you can be mindful then clearly that's the kind thing to do.

He's being a wet blanket I worked nights and never expected my neighbours to fit in around my shifts, the house next door had renovation worked carried out and I knew I would just have to suck it up.

I worked nights for a while. The world (and the neighbour's DIY project) did not fall silent between 8am and 9pm, and I didn't expect it to because it was no one else's problem.

He needs ear plugs and to grow up a little and realise that the world doesn't actually revolve around him.

I do sympathise with night workers but all the ones I know seem to manage to find a way to sleep without in involving their neighbours.

Is he quiet for everyone else when he goes out and comes home at unsocialable hours?

I often work nights and what I find most frustrating is my neighbours getting parcels delivered here because I might be in.

Apart from that I realise I have to get on with the noise and light of day time and adapt. We have very thick, blackout lined curtains, I listen to a white noise app or use earplugs.

It’s great when people are mindful. For instance, when I first went back to work after mat leave with my last DC, the people opposite were renovating their house. I mentioned I was back on nights (just in passing when they were coming over the baby) and for a week or so they didn’t start their work until after midday which gave me 3 hours completely uninterrupted sleep per day. It was very thoughtful of them but I would in no way expect it from them.

And as to whoever said night shift workers expect the world to revolve around them, wrong. That’s few and far between. I work in the NHS, there are thousands upon thousands of us working at night and almost certainly a few of them live on your street or nearby and you would never even know about it. It’s the few that give the rest of us a bad reputation.

I turned down a job last week that I desperately wanted because there was only night shifts available. The reason is because I too live in a 2 storey block of flats on the ground floor and I knew I wouldn't be able to sleep due to noise.
No way on earth would I be asking my neighbours to change their lives to support my life style choices, obviously.

Work nights every 3rd week, tell him tough shit.

Unless a neighbour is blasting their music at an unreasonable level then I don't usually get my knickers in a twist at people living their lives.

My husband is on nights atm. He’s doing 8 shifts and then goes onto lates etc.

He goes bed at 7.30 and wakes at 1. He has a fan on as white noise so it blocks most noise out so I can hoover etc

Night shift workers most certainly expect their worlds to revolve around them

Erm, no, not all night shift workers. Thanks for that gem whilst doing a job that permanently involves unsociable hours and a lack of sleep as standard, and the many that don't expect the world to revolve around them because they're not entitled twats.
I'm permanent nights and summer and the start of autumn are challenging for sleeping, especially weekends. But you do learn to tune certain noise out after a while and tactics like black out blinds, fans for white noise and so you don't need windows open and a sign on the front door asking to not be disturbed by randomers knocking are something you have to learn. You absolutely cannot expect people to stop their lives because you work nights. It can be incredibly frustrating to keep being woken up, and yes I've been known to mutter to myself on occasion and bury my head under a pillow because something has woken me up, but I don't go shouting out the window or demanding silence from my neighbours because that's unreasonable, I huff and puff to myself, moan to myself because now I'm awake I need a wee, and then can't get comfortable again, then I'll hear my phone buzz and be overtaken with curiosity..... 😂 All part and parcel of nights I'm afraid and no one else's responsibility but my own to deal with.
Ignore him OP, he'll have to learn how to cope with it because it's not a reasonable expectation that an entire community shut up because one person needs to sleep.
Go ahead and do what you need to do, it's not your responsibility.

@mazda1 YANBU.

I feel sorry for these night shift folk, and my next door but one neighbour does it. He does 4 on, 4-off in a factory. Everyone for 12-15 houses around knows this, and if they are going to do anything that will involve a lot of noise for 3-4 days, they ask him when his 4 days off are, which is very thoughtful and kind, and he appreciates it.

Doesn't mean people who don't do that are NOT thoughtful and kind though, but it is nice of everyone.

However, although it's not unreasonable for night shift workers to hope that people can arrange a few days noisy work for when they're off, they cannot possible expect normal daily stuff to not go ahead.

Expecting people to not hoover, do the washing, mow the lawn etc is just daft. Most people don't work nights, and will obviously be doing those things in the daytime.

As a few posters have said, this guy needs to get blackout blinds, earplugs, and a fan for white noise (or a white noise machine.)

My neighbour has a sign on the door, saying 'do not knock. night shift worker asleep til 3pm' to deter sales people, cold callers, and people trying to drop off parcels for neighbours.