To think we deserve an explanation? (Guardian blind date)

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Link here

Long story short, she clearly loathed him but wouldn't say why. Surely she must know her answers would make her look like the villain of the story?

My guess he spent much of the date talking about his ex.

I guess he went on about the ex too much too!

I wondered that - and he did say he wasn't really in the mood so soon after splitting up - but then again, why wouldn't she have said that? She obviously didn't feel like she owed him anything.

Yeah, he says himself it was probably too soon after a break up.

X-post. I don't think her answers make her sound like a villain particularly, sometimes people don't click.

She didn't like him.

It sounded like he spent the whole evening banging on about his ex. The Guyliner write-up is excellent as always.

When they ask the 'what did you talk about' question, the first thing she lists is his ex.

I don't think she sounds like a villain, more that he is still hung up on his ex and it wasn't a good date because of that.

Sorry posted too soon. She did say why - it's in the three words. She's direct, he's shy. Not her type.

Has anyone got a link to it?

Interesting what she says they talked about versus what he said they talked about.

She sounds kind. He was obviously still hung up on his ex.

WTF does she mean by 'proactive'? Maybe he went in with the tongue when she tried to kiss him hello on the cheek. Then cried about his ex for the rest of the night.

The link is in the OP. Where it says 'Link here'.

Great. I love the bs free quality to the date summary. I wish them both well.

There's a link in the OP.

Good on her, I say, for being up front. She could've taken his number to be 'nice' then farted about avoiding his calls and dragging it out, but she saved everyone the hassle.

Sounds like a pretty terrible date with him going on about his ex for much of it.

I don't think she sounds anywhere near villainous!

I'd be a bit miffed if I went out on a date with someone who banged on about their ex all night, it's a known first date red flag.

He wasted her time and also had the nerve to ask for her number, pretty arrogant really.

I mean if he thought it was 'too soon' and he 'wasn't in the mood' why apply to Blind Date?

He wasted her opportunity to meet someone with whom she may've clicked - or at least had a fun evening.

It’s in the first post.

He said she talked about herself a lot and he said she ate very quickly which is a very rude thing to say. So he sounds like a dick.

Esteban I love Guyliner.

catlady Link is in my OP.

It would have been easy enough for her to say something like 'He clearly wasn't over his ex', but her answers are really quite obscure. 'Most of the evening' was awkward, 'Not sure' he would enjoy meeting her friends, and yes, what on earth does 'proactive' mean in this context? It all feels a bit vaguebooking.

I was a bit about her opening comment about astrological perfection and lol moments. She sounded about 15.
Combine that with him not being over his recent girlfriend and it was never going to work.

There hasn't been a really bad date for a while. It's necessary karmic balance for the amazing one earlier in the year with the two girls who ended up at a house party where one of them left her knickers behind.

She didn't say he banged on about his ex all night! He might have done, or he might have mentioned it once in response to a question from her, like how long he's been single. 100% agree she didn't have to give her number though. Thinking about it, there were clearly many signs from her that he didn't pick up on.

I think he wasn't over his ex and she didn't think he was good enough for her so she spent the entire time talking about how wonderful she was and how great her job was.
They seem really poorly matched.

'She ate really quickly' is definitely poor form. There are quite a few subtle character assassinations in his answers.