To think we deserve an explanation? (Guardian blind date)

[JesusInTheCabbageVan]

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Long story short, she clearly loathed him but wouldn't say why. Surely she must know her answers would make her look like the villain of the story?

Poor form for him to say that I mean, not poo form that she ate quickly.

*Poor...

Esteban yep, there is now officially both a high bar that will never be beaten, and a low bar (mind you, I'd like to see a double zero one day).

Class.

She probably did eat quickly, but just to shorten the date%!

She probably ate quickly because she couldn't wait to get away.

'Talked about his ex' could be anything but the fact she mentioned it first probably means it was the thing that most stuck in her mind, and was therefore referred to for most of the date.

I interpreted "she ate really quickly" as she just wanted to finish the meal and get out of there!

I think they were both at fault to be honest.
He banged on about his ex.
She banged on about her life - when actually as Guyliner put it being a weighbridge operator surely deserves a few questions?

And I know the Guardian struggles to find straight (or into women) men to go on these things.

That sounds a very disappointing date, on both sides

I have decided what must happen. They should both be required to go on another different blind date, with different candidates who have previously given balanced but honest answers. Then I can find out whether it was just a question of chemistry, or whether just one of them was a terrible person, or whether they both were.

The way he writes She probably thought she could do better, does make her seem the villain

Jesus, that’s a great idea! To be fair, I thought it was comedy gold, and the guy liner write up made me laugh. Those ones where they both just say polite things and then give each other a 7 with “no romantic spark” are just dull.

I don't think either of them are bad people, the date just didn't work. If he's still hung up on his ex that's fair enough and if she's not feeling it that's fair enough.

I've been on dates where I've been both of the above, sometimes it's just what happens! Especially with the ex thing - after a breakup everyone encourages you to get out there, so you do, and then you realise that actually maybe you're not ready after all. And equally I've been on several dates where, although they were perfectly nice people, I just didn't really feel a spark.

Just two people who didn't click - nothing more to see here.

She says he talked about his ex. That's not considered good form on the first date. He kind of admitted he was still getting over his previous relationship. This often means someone talks about it more than they should, because it's on their mind.

I think there's likely to be a fairly big gap in terms of career aspirations and outlook on life between a press executive and a weighbridge operative. I reckon he felt she was looking down on him, she thought he banged on about his ex and ate quickly to get away. I think her brief replies suggest she simply doesn't want to waste any more time on the whole thing. I feel a bit sorry for him actually. I might be unfairly influenced by the photos though.

The ones that break my heart are when one person is clearly smitten and had a wonderful evening, and the other rips it to shreds. How long it must take them to recover from something like that...

I think the eating quickly was a strategy to get out of there as quickly as possible. I have used it myself.

I have decided what must happen. They should both be required to go on another different blind date, with different candidates who have previously given balanced but honest answers. Then I can find out whether it was just a question of chemistry, or whether just one of them was a terrible person, or whether they both were

You seem incredibly invested in this @JesusInTheCabbageVan...
I feel like that's much weirder than anything that seemed to happen on that date!

Maybe she ate at a normal speed but as he was talking about his ex, he wasn’t eating at all.

I felt sorry for her - she was clearly on the date from hell and he was oblivious enough to ask for her number.

It was obviously not a fun date. She takes quite a hostile stance her photo too which doesn't help.

I’m with Stroppywoman. He went on a blind date, talked about his ex and then asked her for her number?

I don't think her answers made her look like "the villain of the piece" at all. It was easy to tell he must have talked a lot about his ex. She stayed for the whole meal and even went to the tube with him. What more could she have done? The guy admitted himself that it was too soon after his ex to go on a blind date.

Op you have too much time on your hands if you're worried about this .

I am assuming she does not want to be a rebound thing?? Can't blame her

fruit God, are you kidding? By the time I've dusted my blind date shrine, tracked the two latest candidates to their home addresses and posted them anonymous hate mail and ironed all my 'Impeccable table manners' t-shirts, I barely have time to recreate the meal they ate down to the minutest detail! Not enough time on my hands, if anything.

Blocked Oh I'm massively invested