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To think don't keep taking my drink at work?

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openitsoicanseeyousmile · 12/10/2019 15:34

I'm known to bring a can of drink in everyday for lunch. It's kept in the shared fridge at work - Everyone knowns it's mine as there's a little section box for each person with their name on.

A colleague of mine is pregnant and for the third time has taken my drink and not bothered replacing it. When questioned, she says something along the lines of "Sorry! Bad sickness. This helps. I'll get a new one for you tomorrow".

She always does, it's there the following day. But it means having to go out at lunchtime to get another one. The local shop is only 2 minutes away but it means eating up time I don't have since I have 30 minutes lunch.

I'm really not sure how to go about it. If it was the usual person, I'd tell them to stop the cheek and buy their own to bring in! But she's pregnant and suffering from sickness. I had HG with my son so I feel awful at the thought of telling her she can most certainly never take from me again without asking Sad

I remember the horrendous feeling of needing something sweet and fizzy to curve the sickness and it did often help, so I imagine it's very helpful to her.

Perhaps I should buy a multipack and suggest she goes half's so we can both enjoy them during the week? Or is this too doormat like?

I'm really not sure how to go about it. I don't think she thinks she's being cheeky in the slightest, and is an otherwise lovely colleague.

What would you do? I usually have no issues being assertive but I feel as if the lines have been blurred.

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SkaraBrae · 14/10/2019 22:21

Holy shit.

Speak to HR. Label your drinks. Tell everyone in the office.
If she wants to be a sneaky bitch call her out on it every single time.

thesnapandfartisinfallible · 14/10/2019 22:22

Take one in a cool bag with an ice pack. Plant a decoy can in the fridge but not before sticking your finger up your arse and rubbing it round the rim. She wants to make such a performance out of her morning sickness, might as well give her a reason to be sick.

Maelwaedd · 14/10/2019 22:22

Get a sharpie or a sticker and write on the bottom of the can "I am a thief". She won't see it but others will when she tilts it to take a drink.

Fookadook · 14/10/2019 22:23

The state she’s in? She’s precious isn’t she!

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 14/10/2019 22:28

Sharpie on your can ‘this is not for you sharon’

Seriously though. Tell your boss, this is pathetic but she’s deliberately continuing the situation and she’s being antagonistic.

StealthPolarBear · 14/10/2019 22:37

Does she drink it out of the can? In that case, permanent marker (silver?) all over the top, you take a straw

honeylulu · 14/10/2019 22:43

Omg she has upped the ante! I thought you'd gone a bit far by discussing with your manager but thank God you did because it sets the timeline before she starts bleating about you bullying a poor pregnant thief laydee.

Repeatedly stealing your drinks, not asking, barely apologising isn't really very KIND is it?

FionaOgre · 14/10/2019 22:53

I just looked up KA drinks. If I had bought and was looking forward to a grape flavour one and found it replaced with ::shudder:: Pineapple flavour one, I'd be bloody furious. I hope that wasn't the case for you. Pineapple. Urgh.

I, like another PP, had thought that perhaps taking the issue to the boss may have been a bit much too soon but I also now think it's a good thing you did. Clearly 'Sharon' is escalating in retaliation to rightfully being told not to steal your lunch. At least your boss knows now. Mention it tomorrow. 'Sharon' has admitted to taking your van whilst simultaneously denying it. You can't have drunk her can if she had not replaced yours with it.

OP, its time to buy a multipack and leave it in the fridge clearly marked as yours. Let Sharon get pissed off every time she goes in there, knowing that the boss will have her arse if she steals another.

MzHz · 14/10/2019 22:54

#FuckOffSharon #GitYerOwnKA

NoSquirrels · 14/10/2019 23:12

Please remember the state I'm in at the moment, is it kind?

Ha! She’s for sure seen this thread, OP and is channeling likes of Nurse Gill only person on her side

Don’t reply, obviously. Or perhaps with just a thumbs up emoji, which is a) confusing and b) offers plausible deniability (if you have to defend it you just say “Oh, it was to say OK, sorry, must have misunderstood” Fuck you, Sharon, stop acting attacked and grow up BEFORE you give birth)

NearlyGranny · 14/10/2019 23:13

She set you up, OP. She set you up to try to make you look as bad as she is!

CFer.

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 14/10/2019 23:13

I would have text back Sharon, I’ve told you on multiple occasions to stop stealing my drinks, theft is not acceptable and if you do not stop you will leave me no alternative but to take this further, you passive aggressive thieving bitch....... (maybe leave that’s last bit out......Grin )

NearlyGranny · 14/10/2019 23:17

Quick! Buy the unfavoured flavour and put it where she left it before she gets in. Then just smile and say, "I thought I'd let you think I'd fallen for that - but I didn't!"

pottypotamus · 14/10/2019 23:32

Hi OP, what if you leave your drink in another colleague's lunch tray? Do you think she'd nab that too? Or do you think she's targeting you specifically?

catswhiskers15 · 14/10/2019 23:53

If I was you I wouldn't continue to message her. Quietly speak to your boss to give him/her a heads up and then keep your drink in a lockable cooler bag in the fridge until this settles down. Don't keep engaging with her. Clearly, this lady is an immature, self entitled individual who won't be behind the door in using her pregnancy as an excuse for her behaviour and also to play the victim.

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openitsoicanseeyousmile · 15/10/2019 00:14

I just looked up KA drinks. If I had bought and was looking forward to a grape flavour one and found it replaced with ::shudder:: Pineapple flavour one, I'd be bloody furious. I hope that wasn't the case for you. Pineapple. Urgh

I'm not easily spooked but that's bloody scary! Are you a psychic? Mine was indeed the Grape one and replaced with a Pineapple AngryShock

She set you up, OP. She set you up to try to make you look as bad as she is!

You're right. I'm a fool, I shouldn't have drunk the one she left. It was a trap. This is going to look ridiculous if it comes to it and work need to be involved. There will be a lot of she said this, she did that. With no real proof.

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openitsoicanseeyousmile · 15/10/2019 00:18

Hi OP, what if you leave your drink in another colleague's lunch tray? Do you think she'd nab that too? Or do you think she's targeting you specifically?

I really don't know Sad She seems so off with me since this whole drink scenario started and I pulled her up on it.

Before she was always fine. I thought her to be a genuinely sweet girl - A bit of a boring conversationalist with only engagements, weddings and babies to speak about, but still nice enough.

Although come to think of it I've only really ever spoken to her about her. She never seems interested in anyone else. If you ask he what she plans for the weekend, she will spend ten minutes telling you but never do the courtesy "How about you?"

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Hopingtobeamum · 15/10/2019 00:28

She's pregnant not fucking disabled. Tell the cheeky cow to fuck off and buy her own 😡😡😡

PaddingtonBearHardStare · 15/10/2019 03:52

So she's saying she didn't take your drink but accusing you of drinking hers? So what drink did she have then?!

BlackCatSleeping · 15/10/2019 04:03

Put a big sticky label with your name on it on your drink tomorrow.

Don't engage with her any more. She's a twat.

And, yes, you did fall right into her trap.

Gooseysgirl · 15/10/2019 05:57

Wow what a piss take... absolutely raise this with manager again.

beckyvardy · 15/10/2019 06:09

Between this thread and the thread about paying for lunch, WTAF is wrong with these people?

She's a CF taking your drink then acting the way she has.

Watch yourself OP, she sounds like she's going to pull the bullying and pregnant cards against you.

So manipulative setting a trap with the drinks.

PerkyPomPoms · 15/10/2019 06:10

What if you ask a colleague to store your drink in their tray - would she leave it alone?

ExhaustedGrinch · 15/10/2019 07:28

Ha! She’s for sure seen this thread, OP and is channeling likes of Nurse Gill That was my thought too with the comment about being kind, wouldn't be a surprise either, lots of pregnant women on Mumsnet!

Witchinaditch · 15/10/2019 07:37

Why would she bring a drink in and then drink yours? She’s pregnant? Wow she seems like she’s really mature enough to have a baby to look after.

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