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To think don't keep taking my drink at work?

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openitsoicanseeyousmile · 12/10/2019 15:34

I'm known to bring a can of drink in everyday for lunch. It's kept in the shared fridge at work - Everyone knowns it's mine as there's a little section box for each person with their name on.

A colleague of mine is pregnant and for the third time has taken my drink and not bothered replacing it. When questioned, she says something along the lines of "Sorry! Bad sickness. This helps. I'll get a new one for you tomorrow".

She always does, it's there the following day. But it means having to go out at lunchtime to get another one. The local shop is only 2 minutes away but it means eating up time I don't have since I have 30 minutes lunch.

I'm really not sure how to go about it. If it was the usual person, I'd tell them to stop the cheek and buy their own to bring in! But she's pregnant and suffering from sickness. I had HG with my son so I feel awful at the thought of telling her she can most certainly never take from me again without asking Sad

I remember the horrendous feeling of needing something sweet and fizzy to curve the sickness and it did often help, so I imagine it's very helpful to her.

Perhaps I should buy a multipack and suggest she goes half's so we can both enjoy them during the week? Or is this too doormat like?

I'm really not sure how to go about it. I don't think she thinks she's being cheeky in the slightest, and is an otherwise lovely colleague.

What would you do? I usually have no issues being assertive but I feel as if the lines have been blurred.

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Drum2018 · 14/10/2019 17:21

Ya she's being a bitch and needs to be called out now. Put a few stickers with your name on your drink tomorrow. If she's seen taking it then it will be obvious it's not hers so maybe someone else will speak up if you don't witness it. I'd tell HR. It's just not acceptable.

Drabarni · 14/10/2019 17:23

Tell her you've changed to a bottle and fill it with piss, that will sort her out.

DarlingNikita · 14/10/2019 17:27

What a petty and silly moo she is.

Locked coolbag and don't bother engaging with her.

SkaraBrae · 14/10/2019 17:29

Wow what a cow!

Tell her you are not her personal shop. She wants something she brings it herself.

I would consider keeping tabs and reporting her.

QueenoftheIceAge · 14/10/2019 17:29

You didn’t drink her can today, did you? No doubt she’ll now accuse YOU of being a thief tomorrow!

BirdyTweet · 14/10/2019 17:32

TAKE HER DRINK TOMORROW

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 14/10/2019 17:32

She did that on purpose.

Didn’t you say you told your boss? I’d tell them again. You asked her nicely to stop nicking your stuff and she’s just being a passive aggressive cunt.

Drabarni · 14/10/2019 17:39

Please do the bottle of piss, wait for her to drink it and say OMG you've drunk my water sample, had to keep it cool.

KTheGrey · 14/10/2019 17:39

Report the "oh I suppose you were too sick" jibe. Like the theft, it makes your work environment unpleasant - hostile work environments are bad for everyone.

NoSquirrels · 14/10/2019 17:42

The culprit did bring her own drink in today. A KA like mine, but a different flavoured one. I saw it there when I opened the fridge.

When I went to have mine with my lunch, she had left her KA in my lunch tray

Amazing CFery!

Brilliant - game on now then, eh? Bring in different fizzy drinks and switch them about during the morning. So when she tries to do the same it’ll backfire Grin

Alwaysgrey · 14/10/2019 17:43

That’s really shitty. And pathetic. She actually sounds horrible. I’d completely take the fun out of it for her and either have mine in a coolbag under my desk so she didn’t have access to it or in a lockable box. I think if you left it in a cool bag in the fridge she would still open it. Cheeky cow!

SleepingStandingUp · 14/10/2019 17:43

I'm 27 weeks pregnant with twins and understand how buying my own sustenance works. Baby brain or nausea is not an excuse. I'd lick your can and not tell her

MzHz · 14/10/2019 17:44

Take her drink - mid morning - and take yours back in your bag. :)

Binglebong · 14/10/2019 17:48

Please get a marker and wrote NOT KAREN'S on every can. Post it notes van be removed but if you write this all round the can everyone will be able to see it.

This is getting really passive aggressive. Might be worth asking your boss to do that general email, she's not going to reasonable.

weezypops · 14/10/2019 17:56

I think you should toy with her by bringing in a Lilt. Smile

bakesalesally · 14/10/2019 18:02

Woah. Time to bring this to managements attention

Tippety · 14/10/2019 18:06

We were together, about 3 or 4 of us before lunch discussing her pregnancy. I wasn't part of the conversation, just sorting through post but right next to them.

Honesty it's so dull when people constantly talk about pregnancy at work, I could hear my friends all day and feign interest, but trapped with a colleague, no ta. People always asked me at work, but I just did the usual yeah alright thanks how are you; only really telling them if something funny or mildly interesting happened.

Smelborp · 14/10/2019 18:11

I hope you reported it to the manager? She did that all on purpose so it’s not just a case of ‘baby brain’ or reaching for something to make her feel better (both poor excuses). Now it’s vindictiveness, and pregnancy doesn’t make you vindictive.

mankyfourthtoe · 14/10/2019 18:14

Find some really sticky stickers. Write on it STOLEN unless being drunk by op.

She really is a cf, and I'd mention it to your boss. Please can they have a word to eat/drink only the food they bring. Not swap or take others'

Harls1969 · 14/10/2019 18:16

What a rude person! What next? A fiver out of your purse because she's got a pregnancy craving? Take your car for a spin because the motion helps her morning sickness? She's a CF and a thief! Put some piss in an apple juice bottle and leave that in the fridge!

PlacidPenelope · 14/10/2019 18:18

I'm not entirely surprised by Sharon's behaviour today, OP, you had a hint of what was to come by her passive aggressive response to your text and her not so subtle side order of guilt tripping aimed at making you feel you were somehow in the wrong.

Funny how these supposedly lovely people show their true colours when confronted, criticised or questioned about their entitled attitude and behaviour.

If she does the same thing tomorrow ask her directly and in front of everyone else why she is doing it.

quincejamplease · 14/10/2019 18:21

I hope you reported it to the manager? She did that all on purpose so it’s not just a case of ‘baby brain’ or reaching for something to make her feel better (both poor excuses). Now it’s vindictiveness, and pregnancy doesn’t make you vindictive.

This.

She's getting a kick out of her. Take her power away.

PerkyPomPoms · 14/10/2019 18:41

Wow!

SchadenfreudePersonified · 14/10/2019 18:55

Tell her you've changed to a bottle and fill it with piss,

Are you reading my mind Drabarni?

Hmm
Clutterbugsmum · 14/10/2019 19:20

When she gets in tomorrow, take the drink she left with your lunch, and tell you that you have asked her not to steal your drink on more then one occasion, and purposely leaving her drink and taking yours is not on, So once again I am telling you DO NOT touch my lunch including my drink. And that it is not funny but dam right rude and unacceptable.

She is counting on the fact that you will not confront her and let her get away with whatever she chooses. Just because she is pregnant there is no reason for her to take the micky.

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