How to console my 26 yr old - he is heartbroken

[pinkelephantsanddietcoke]

My oldest boy DS16 has just been dumped. He's devastated. How do I help without saying the obvious 'you'll get over it' etc?

This was my DD earlier this year when her bf of 4yrs cheated on her (and she's only 18!) seeing my child go through this pain was worse than when I got dumped at a similar age, it cuts right through you.

In my case I offered my arms for hugs, my ears to listen if she wanted to talk, and my shoulder for crying on. No judgement, no criticising the ex as they sometimes reconcile. Validate the pain and tell them they're experiencing one of the hardest parts of growing up. Don't let them wallow too long or shut themselves away too much. Just be a good mum without smothering them, and encourage them to be with the family or friends, doing things they enjoy.